Is it normal for your girlfriend to have your email password?

Clearly, there are many important aspects of life that you and your gf have not bothered to communicate much about, yet you see fit to potentially make babies together. Your decision making processes with regard to mates seem 'undeveloped'.

Answer this: Are you two a match? Why? Why not? List the pluses and minuses, then decide.

If you're not a match, quit wasting her time and yours. If you are, plan to do something about it.

BTW, I bet that she'll insist on doing this for all of the financial, medical and other accounts in your name also, if you were married. Happy now?

A couple of points.

Do you trust her?? She sounds like she stretches the truth a little by saying all her friends have their boyfriends email passwords. The Law of averages says this is cr4p. I know of no friends who have handed this over to their partner. It appears no one around here does either. Its just you buddy

Maybe ask for a little give and take. You give her your password and she can give you her's.

My advice to you however is to get out while you can. She sounds nuts, she has you by the nuts, and you'll eventually go nuts too if you hangaround much longer.

My girlfriend has mine because I used to be a consultant and traveled once in awhile. If I was expecting something I would have her check for me. As far as I know she never looked besides that, but I wouldn't really care if she did. If she had the need to or got upset if I changed the password that might cause a problem, but I'd give it to her and let her check. It really depends on where you are in the relationship. I know that I tend to be a jealous person, even though I totally trust her. I don't really act on my jealousy much because I know its irrational, however because I know how that feels, I would be sympathetic if she needed that.

My ex used to love reading my facebook messages / e-mails / etc. so I just gave her the password so she could check them on her own time. We ultimately broke up and trust issues played a big role in the eventual failure of our relationship.

Another friend gave her boyfriend her e-mail password - he ended reading an e-mail she sent to me concerning him and that was the root of their breakup.

In short, while it might be a practice other individuals partake in (so your girlfriend might actually not be lying about this one), it's not one that I think belongs in a healthy relationship (unless it's for purely practical purposes as others have mentioned above).

You really need to sort out her insecurities / lack of self confidence / lack of trust before your relationship goes any further.

Why the hell would you want to read someone elses email? To me it sounds completely strange. I wouldn't date someone who insisted on having my passwords. All that goes through my email account is emails from friends and if I book any tickets to anywhere but I just think it's ridiculous for someone to want to read your email, what would their reasons be?

-Your decision making processes with regard to mates seem 'undeveloped'.-

The only thing undeveloped here is your grasp of the English language.

MistressK demands I give her my password.

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Hmmm. Let me guess. Daddy cheated on mommy, was absent, was an a-hole. Guess how she sees you? You're daddy. Get her some counseling or you are signing up for a disaster.

This whole thread is pretty dumb. To say something is "weird" is completely relative. Some guys like knowing their girlfriend checks their email. Some guys like their girlfriend to do their food shopping and pick out their clothes. Some guys like having complete control of their girlfriends. It can vary so much.

The point is "weird" and "normal" don't matter at all. How do YOU feel about her checking your email? Obviously you don't mind it because you're still with her.

Ask yourself how YOU feel about it.

For her to HAVE the password is no big deal -- my girlfriend has mine. For her to ASK for it is something I wouldn't be comfortable with.

I've given my password to my gf to ask her to check things for me when I'm away from Internet access. I've given it to her multiple time, because she never bothers to remember it. She's given me hers for the same reason. I remember it (because I'm anal that way), but I've never checked other than when she has asked me to, and I've never looked at any messages others than the ones she's asked me to.

So yeah, to me the optimal situation is you both trust each other enough to share your passwords, but you also trust each other enough never to feel the need to snoop.

That being said, only you can answer whether that's a deal-breaker for you. Everyone has flaws, you just have to choose which ones you can live with.

"Is it normal for your girlfriend to have your email password?"

F*** no.

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