Starting to fall for a married woman

You are looking for permission to help a married woman cheat on her husband. You are looking for someone to tell you it is OK. Stop pretending that you are "wondering what your next move is".

The only thing worse than someone who does something that's clearly unethical is someone who tries to pretend it isn't or that they cant help themselves. Be a man already.

It is better you try some sexual approach as soon as possible.

Otherwise, she will think you are gay and will begin to tell you her sexual fetiches with other guys, your boss, for example.

Pablo Francisco wrote:

It is better you try some sexual approach as soon as possible.

Otherwise, she will think you are gay and will begin to tell you her sexual fetiches with other guys, your boss, for example.

Pablo brok iingrish muk whel cents.

to the OP: Don't do it. Just don't do it at all. Either you'll waste the best years of your life waiting for her to get a divorce and marry you (which is where your REAL problems begin), or you get a woman who cheats on her husband. Either way you're screwed. So to speak.

Also... don't think anyone has mentioned the potential for Sexual Harassment to be mentioned if he takes this one a little too strong. Some companies REALLY don't mess around with that ish.

How can you "do stuff together" alone with a married woman? That alone is highly questionable. I've been great friends with my best friend's wife for a long time, but since they got married in April I don't even feel comfortable posting on her myspace.

Goodie2shoes is correct. If she wanted a sexual relationship she'd have banged you already. This chick is a cock-tease, likes having you on a string to pull around whereever and whenever she wants. Her girlfriends might not always be available for lunch and drinks,but "old-reliable" i.e "male friend who is interested in me" will always come when called. The second you make an advance on her the door will slam in your face, hard. She likes feeling wanted but will never give in to her interestes and desires for fear it might break up the marriage.

My advice: tell her you can't make lunch some day because you met this girl, and you've got plans with her instead. That'll kill her.

If you don't f*** her I will.

DUI

propose.

a similar thing happened to me at my first job out of school, i ended up going to her house one weekend when her husband was out of town

at first everything was great she was wild, then she wanted to tie me up and blindfold me so i figuered what the heck, next thing i know there is another pair of hands, then two people giving me attention

all good till someone tried to put something in my mouth and it turned out to be her husband

fortunately for me when i said no, they respected my wishes, but it was her telling him to stop

be very careful, you just never know what is going on with women

been that did there wrote:

a similar thing happened to me at my first job out of school, i ended up going to her house one weekend when her husband was out of town

at first everything was great she was wild, then she wanted to tie me up and blindfold me so i figuered what the heck, next thing i know there is another pair of hands, then two people giving me attention

all good till someone tried to put something in my mouth and it turned out to be her husband

fortunately for me when i said no, they respected my wishes, but it was her telling him to stop

be very careful, you just never know what is going on with women

Holy crap, awesome story! Yeah, that's what has me reluctant to ever answer and follow-through on one of those 'casual encounter' (NSA) ads on CraigsList. I could show up to some strange house or a No-Tell Motel and as soon as the girl has me in the door and it's locked behind me a bunch of guys bust out from hiding (or have the other key and bust in through the door) and try to beat me and rape me.

On the other hand, it's common for women to have low self-esteem and thus to be attention whores. Single women will give their phone # out with no intention of ever seeing a guy, but just want the rush that comes from a guy being interested enough to call trying to get her to go out.

Obviously a married woman (who means to remain married) isn't going to give out her # to a guy she's not interested in and have him calling at any hour and leaving messages, so she has to find other ways to get male attention. That's what's happening with the OP. Men and women can't be just friends, it's like Chris Rock says. The married woman doesn't view the OP as even a friend, he's just 'emergency dick' to have on hand in case her hubby messes up. She's playing you, man. Now if you are fine with that and the knowledge that it'll never go beyond the flirting and teasing stage, then have fun with it.

If you want to have fun back and either get laid or put an end to it once and for all then come onto her HARD, start making physical moves (outside of the workplace). Just don't do anything at her place. Don't mind these fools talking about how you'd ruin a marriage, if homegirl would troll for male attention and then give it up so easily then the marriage was already fatally flawed and whatever outcome would be inevitable would merely be catalyzed by your involvement.

It is torturing yourself to constantly be exposed to wanting something you can't have.

So why torture yourself? Get outta there.

There is an old saying, "Don't sh!t where you work"

The LAST thing Sarah Palin needs is yet another scandal!

been that did there wrote:

a similar thing happened to me at my first job out of school, i ended up going to her house one weekend when her husband was out of town

at first everything was great she was wild, then she wanted to tie me up and blindfold me so i figuered what the heck, next thing i know there is another pair of hands, then two people giving me attention

all good till someone tried to put something in my mouth and it turned out to be her husband

fortunately for me when i said no, they respected my wishes, but it was her telling him to stop

be very careful, you just never know what is going on with women

Wanna make a movie?

shag her

A couple of other random thoughts:

1) A friend of mine shagged a woman who was married to a much older man who no longer could "get it up" so she had a free pass to get it on with whoever she wanted.

2) Another idea is to show zero interest in her other than as a friend but then hit her up about any single women friends she knows and ask her to set you up. Her response will tell you something.

3) No matter what just back away from her. I like the idea of the "fade". Just gradually back away, and distance yourself. Then move on and stay away from her. Married women are bad news and bad karma. There are so many single women out there looking for an decent guy that is in shape and has a job. Seriously, it is almost unfair especially if you are over age 35 or so. Women will throw themselves at the right guy.

Thanks again to everyone who has offered a serious reply. Older and Wiser - it's funny you say that, because I am "35 or so". However, I feel the need to disagree with what you and another have said about the abundance of women available to me. It sure doesn't feel that way.

And in response to a few other folks, for me, at this point, it's not even about sex. Although I find her very attractive, I really do have fun hanging out with her. Now, were she not married, would I ask her out and attempt to take things to the next level? Yes. But I'm not after her just to get physical.

I'm not after her at all any more - as I said, I'm going to start becoming less available. The idea of me being "used" as a substitute for her girlfriends, or as the one who can satiate her desire to feel needed helped to reach that conclusion. So, thanks again everyone.

if you have problems finding women at 35 then you must consider the possibility that you are not attractive to women (most likely teeth, height, or lack of muscle mass, with attire and self-confidence also possible). everyone is good-lookin to their momma, but momma don't think everyone is good-lookin that ain't her baby. i recommend you go to a women's beauty salon and ask them to give you some honest advice and assessment about what you can work on and improve, go to a dentist if you need to, lay off the running and start lifting upper body, shop for some new clothes and ask a saleswoman for advice, better yet ask other women in the store to help you (it will help your confidence), let other women know you are available for their friends, do what you have to and you will reap the rewards

honestly you come across as a bit of a loser if you have been 'hanging' with the married office lady so long, use this to your advantage and tell her you would like her to tell you what to work on and to get some ladies

also, when you do get dates, you must get assrtively physical by the end of date # 2 , at 35 women know whether they want you or not and there is no need to go on date #3 if you are not going to go anywhere

good luck

Mr. Mystery