been that did there wrote:
a similar thing happened to me at my first job out of school, i ended up going to her house one weekend when her husband was out of town
at first everything was great she was wild, then she wanted to tie me up and blindfold me so i figuered what the heck, next thing i know there is another pair of hands, then two people giving me attention
all good till someone tried to put something in my mouth and it turned out to be her husband
fortunately for me when i said no, they respected my wishes, but it was her telling him to stop
be very careful, you just never know what is going on with women
Holy crap, awesome story! Yeah, that's what has me reluctant to ever answer and follow-through on one of those 'casual encounter' (NSA) ads on CraigsList. I could show up to some strange house or a No-Tell Motel and as soon as the girl has me in the door and it's locked behind me a bunch of guys bust out from hiding (or have the other key and bust in through the door) and try to beat me and rape me.
On the other hand, it's common for women to have low self-esteem and thus to be attention whores. Single women will give their phone # out with no intention of ever seeing a guy, but just want the rush that comes from a guy being interested enough to call trying to get her to go out.
Obviously a married woman (who means to remain married) isn't going to give out her # to a guy she's not interested in and have him calling at any hour and leaving messages, so she has to find other ways to get male attention. That's what's happening with the OP. Men and women can't be just friends, it's like Chris Rock says. The married woman doesn't view the OP as even a friend, he's just 'emergency dick' to have on hand in case her hubby messes up. She's playing you, man. Now if you are fine with that and the knowledge that it'll never go beyond the flirting and teasing stage, then have fun with it.
If you want to have fun back and either get laid or put an end to it once and for all then come onto her HARD, start making physical moves (outside of the workplace). Just don't do anything at her place. Don't mind these fools talking about how you'd ruin a marriage, if homegirl would troll for male attention and then give it up so easily then the marriage was already fatally flawed and whatever outcome would be inevitable would merely be catalyzed by your involvement.