Seriously, this is correct. The idea of a soulmate is a fantasy. People are individuals and couples need to accept each others differences or the relationship will fail. Obviously some people are more compatible together, but the idea that there is one perfect soulmate out there for you is a fantasy that can poison an otherwise good healthy relationship.
I think the point was more about settling for someone who is simply good who you do not feel a deep connection and true passion for instead of holding out for someone you do. I would hope anyone over the age of 25 does not truly believe your one perfect "soulmate" is out there waiting for you. Lots of humans in the world. Lots of different ways to be happy with different people.
To answer the OP, I think it really depends. As you get older, you will see many couples who clearly are not connected to each other but stay together mostly to raise kids. I would say their experiences range from fine to miserable. If you're someone who is already pretty fine on your own, maybe that's not really a life or a gamble you want to make. On the flipside, all of them always tell me they love their kids and are so thankful to have them, regardless of what the spouse situation is, so that is worth considering also.
27 years. The whole "soul mate" thing is just a product of a romance media/wellness industry that wants you to believe that getting married is some sort of reach into a metaphysical world of infinite happiness. And probably one of the top reasons people get divorced is that they had unrealistic expectations of their spouses in their marriage.
You have a relatively short period of time in your 20s to early 30s to find a mate and get married. And once you graduate from college, you have very limited opportunities to meet people outside of work and family. Even at work, most companies forbid dating among employees and will fire you if you ask a coworker out on a date. So the reality is that most people just have to find someone who the like to be with and can build a family together.
And people change as life goes on. Your soul mate when you are in your early 20s may end up being someone who you do not want to spend 10 minutes with when you are in your 40s. The concept of the perfect mate may actually be a prescription for disaster as there is no room for growth in a relationship if your mate checks every box. Eventually in a relationship, some of those boxes will be unchecked. When women become moms, they change a lot. Same for men who go into the workforce and end up in management positions or start a business. A successful long term relationship will have room on both sides for each person to grow and change while still being able to enjoy living together and raising a family.
As I like to say, the root of most relationship issues is insufficient fellatio.
How is this getting down votes?
Same reason I get down votes when I speak facts, Mr. kuendi has Triggered some people here so it's an automatic downvote when he posts. Lame if you ask me. As far as this soulmate thing goes it's a lie, a Fantasy. What happens a lot of times is boy meets girl, they date, smash, and get preggers. Now they are stuck with each other. Are they soulmates? LOL. Not a chance.
While extremely rare, my cousin actually DID marry his best friend. In kindergarten he sat next to a girl and they 'decided' to be best friends. All through grade school, junior high, high school and college...got married. Now married 18 years, have two wonderful children.
Even romantic love - let alone having a "soul mate" - is less necessary in my opinion that marrying someone who's company you enjoy and are sexually attracted to.
Question in the title. Hard if not impossible to find someone who is an awesome match for you in every way. What if you find someone who is a "good enough" match for you in most areas but just okay in others too? Anyone here like that? Can you still he happily married to someone like that, raise a family, etc? Would like to hear personal experiences if possible.
Philosophically, there is no such thing as a soulmate, though two souls can certainly mate.
While extremely rare, my cousin actually DID marry his best friend. In kindergarten he sat next to a girl and they 'decided' to be best friends. All through grade school, junior high, high school and college...got married. Now married 18 years, have two wonderful children.
Question in the title. Hard if not impossible to find someone who is an awesome match for you in every way. What if you find someone who is a "good enough" match for you in most areas but just okay in others too? Anyone here like that? Can you still he happily married to someone like that, raise a family, etc? Would like to hear personal experiences if possible.
So many people yearn for their soulmates. What they don't realize is "soul mates" are those we have had various types of past-life relationships with and not necessarily good ones. Could be a former enemy. Karma arranges the two to meet again to resolve past life karma. Soul mate partnerships and marriages are often the most miserable.