Do you attend any of your highschool reunions?

I've never gone to one and probably never will. First, I don't know when they happen. It seems like some website/tech company bought up all the high school alumni websites or just have the greatest presence, and I don't want to pay to see who visited my non-existent profile on their site. Maybe there are facebook groups for high school classes that are free? I wouldn't know because I've never joined facebook. I think I might have heard of only one of the reunions and I graduated decades ago.

If I did chose to go to a future reunion, there's a good chance I would not recognize anyone I really knew. I'm sure I'd remember some names, but I never knew most of them to begin with. I'm curious about maybe one girl/high school from my graduating class that I've seen maybe once or twice since high school. Chances are she wouldn't be attending a reunion though. Also would be interested in seeing another girl (friends with the other girl) that I also went to college with and coached with for a bit and haven't seen since I moved away from my hometown in 1999, but she isn't in the same graduating class anyway.

Now if it were a cross country/track team reunion, that would be a different matter. I'd be much more interested in attending. It would have to be across multiple classes because I'd like to see people from more than just my graduating year. . . heck it could be from cross country runners from my high school from the '80s and '90s since I and friends coached there after college, and it would nice to see a lot of folks I actually know and remember.

I've gone to two. It was ok, got to see people that I haven't seen in years.

Thanks to social media I keep in contact with most of the people that I want to anyway.

My class typically has a get together at a bar 1 mile from my house the night before so sometimes I stop in.

We have no annual dues. I think you pay a small fee for the actual reunion.

I missed my 10 year due to being busy with something but I attended my 20 year last summer. I would describe it as kind of surreal. It was kind of like when you walk into a bar and see someone in the corner and you're like, "Oh I think I know that person, I think I went to high school with them." Now imaging you walk into a random bar and every single person in there elicits that feeling. Very trippy.

A couple things surprised me.
1) I thought at the 20 year that people would look very different. Fat, bald, old, etc. But I was surprised that almost everyone looked the same. Guessing this will probably change at the 30 and 40 year.
2) I graduated with a class of ~250 and haven't kept in touch with barely anyone, maybe 5 people tops. But I was shocked by how easy it was to talk to almost every person there despite not having seen most of them for 20 years. You forget just how much time/experience you shared during those formative years even if it didn't seem like much at the time. You share this common bond with all these people whether you like it or not, even if it's a bond you never think about during your day-to-day life.

So yeah, I would highly recommend going to anyone considering it.

People have such visceral reactions to the idea of a HS reunion. You can see who was unpopular and who really struggled by their screeching.

I had a lot of good friends in HS, people that I had grown up with, partied with, competed with, dated, etc. It was nice to spend a few hours catching up with them (in person, not FB/Insta.)
To those thinking it's all some big comparison of who's successful and who's not... it's not that way at all. Most people just want to know how you are doing, how your kids and family are fairing; it's nothing like the horrible Hollywood BS you've conjured up in your mind.

Now I would never travel thousands of miles, but I'm relatively close by, so it's no big deal. Just a drive and a hotel.

Going this September to my 50th.

Only gained 5 lbs.

I hang out with many of my high school friends regularly. One group has been meeting for lunch every year the last Friday before Christmas. Nobody remembers how long we've been doing it, but it goes back at least 40 years. Another group meets every summer for the afternoon on the deck of a classmate, overlooking a lake. The last couple years, we've even been joined by a guy who was a coach back then.

I don't go to my college reunions. I try not to say where I went for college. Enormously woke school. I do email occasionally with three or four friends from those days, usually commenting on politics.

I always go to my grad school reunions. Every five years. They are a huge production because other five year anniversary classes are meeting at the same time. Fantastic speakers on a choice of topics. Always amazing classmates, like one who told me how he accidentally became Chairman of the Securities and Exchange Commission. Another classmate has had seven books on the NY Times best seller list. By this point, we're beyond bragging because the person next to you may be a billionaire and how are you going to out do them?

Reunions are mind-blowing. The closest you'll ever get to time travelling.

I was a stoner in HS but enjoy now talking to all the track/guys that attend. I always kept an ear to the ground about how the runners were doing (I ran in middle school).

Went to my 50th last fall.

Most ppl don't have college reunions. Unless you were in a fraternity. Then it's a totally different story.

I'm planning on going to my 60th reunion in a few years,,,

Hope to hook up with the one black cat from my graduating class...

Never understood college reunions, in college you are graduating with a huge number of people that you have very little, if anything in common with other than you earned your credit hours at the same time.

In HS you grew up together and lived in the same town and neighborhoods.

I could see frats or a group of friends meeting back at campus for a ball game, but not a Class Of X situation.

This sounds about right to me - the part about we probably make more out of a reunion that we need to.

And though I said I would never go back in my earlier post, I think I would except that mine is truly on the other side of the continent.

Part of me wants to just to demonstrate how well things have played out for this guy most of them wrote-off so completely and so long ago.

That's where I am. If I am still standing, I will likely go to my 50th, unless something more important prevents it. After the 5 year and the 10 year ones, I just did not feel like going. The 5 year was cool, because I was still single, and moved the week of graduation, but the 10 year one was more cliquish than actual HS. The ones who still lived in town all hung out together, and the rest who moved away struggled to find a place. I had a few reach out to me before the last one (40th), and I considered going, but could not pull myself away to make the four hour drive.

Most of the stud players from my high school are dead or have transgender kids. "Roids" are bad my friends. True story.

My situation is different from most. I went to three high schools in three states so I did not grow up with the kids I went to high school with.

School A I attended freshman year. I have had no contact with the school or anyone in my class since freshman year ended and I moved out of state.

School B I attended sophomore and junior years. I went to the 40 year and 55 year reunions, mostly to see what had happened to the town where the school is located since I left there after junior year.

School C I attended senior year. I went to the 5 year, 20 year and 25 year reunions. After attending the 25 reunion I wondered why I went since I knew very few people and did not have a deep connection with them since I only went to school with them for one year.

I go every year and usually end I’m up scoring (if you know what I mean). It’s great and a highlight of the year. Try to peak physically beforehand so that people can admire my rock hard buns and abs.

I graduated in the early 1990s and went to my 10-year reunion and my 20-year reunion. The 10-year reunion had a big turnout and was a lot of fun. The 20-year reunion was kind of lame - it had a much lower turnout and a lot of friends who had gone to the 10-year reunion didn’t bother to go. I did not attend my 25-year or 30-year reunions, although I saw photos and saw that less than 10% of my graduating class went to either of those reunions and they looked like a waste of time.

I think that with Facebook and other social media apps being popular, it is easier to keep in touch with old friends and see how they are doing without attending reunions. Reunions just don’t seem as popular now as they were for people the age of my parents, who graduated in the 1960s.

You can tell who went to Hicksville High by the proportion of their classmates they view as friends

When you're in a class of more than 500, you mostly barely even know each other. When you live in a dense urban area, students constantly come and go, you "grow up with" very few. Little incentive to want to see them again

No…. Went straight to Nam then Porterville soon after…

No.

I haven't talked to anyone from high school in the almost 30 years since we graduated. If I haven't talked to you in almost 30 years, I don't care. If I felt the need to or wanted to reach out, I would have and they could have, as well.

My college friends and I still talk on a regular basis whether it's a text or a quick Facebook message or a call when needed.