Wife says quit the marathon or we're done

2/10 getting some bites but the "3:30" part was one step too far.

As long as I have a bed and a stop watch I'll satisfy her and get you sub 2:59:xxx

guys this is an obvious troll, letsrunners don't have wives lmao

Shouldn’t commit that much time to training if you have a family, plus you have no chance to break at least 2:30. It’s fine to run as a hobby, but you should relax and prioritize other more important things in your life.

Going to be blunt---you sound like a selfish prick, but more likely a troll.

You are training like that and have not broken 3:30?

OP could be a woman...

Divorce her, that participation medal will always be worth it.

I gave up when you said park run.

The wife should be able to add to your cardio which most guys on this site don't have access to.

My wife makes me run. She says I'm insufferable if I don't run.

Serious athletic training for a grueling event such as a marathon while working full time requires a military type of existence regardless of marital status.

Spouse must be supportive or the marriage is doomed.

Expert here. She's right in a way but at the same time, if your partner can't support your hobby or hobbies, that's a big time relationship red flag. Now these cats will all jump on my back here, automatically, because I stick my nose out there. The truth makes people uncomfortable. Probably because they're living in a world where lies, control of the "information" and deception are rampant.

Take her out on Saturdays and just be tired for your Sunday long run. View it as training.

Take one of your five evenings off and take her out for a meal.

Get her interested in hobbies of her own. Surely she likes fitness or something?

Consider training in your lunch break (not usually possible, I know). In fact that's usually a horrible idea, so disregard that.

Run home as a commute.

Give up parkrun. I mean do you do that every week? It's not even marathon training really.

Stop sleeping on Sunday afternoons.

Get her to run the marathon for charity.

Alternatively, listen to her and don't do one more marathon block!

Switch to track for the summer. It's way more balanced. Train two nights a week, take her out clubbing on the other nights.

Give up on your upcoming marathon and just put it off until six months' time.

Have a baby and then all of the above will go out of the window.

If I was you I'd take her up on her offer if a split. You'll easily hit 3"20 then ...legend status

I was once a marriage and family counselor. A question I would ask if you were my clients is what's in this marriage for either of you? It seems like you spend almost no time with each other. From your post it doesn't seem like you'd miss her if she left you and I don't see what you're bringing to her. If I was working with you two I'd start by asking you each to tell me what you'd miss or regret if your marriage ended. I'd ask you if you had to choose between a 3:29 marathon and your wife which would you take? I'd also want to know if this is something new in your relationship, i.e., were you running when you got together, was it as much as now? If so, why does it bother her now? If not, why have you gotten so deeply into it now? And while I still suspect this is trolling, since I'm in, I'll go whole hog.

There's no judgment here. Marriages fail. People develop other interests and if you'd rather run as you are doing even if it costs your marriage it can be okay, maybe sad but okay, especially if you don't have kids. And even if you do couples with kids can divorce and still provide for their kids.

To the business of mixing running and family, I don't know what your life is like or how much you run but if you get home from work at 6:00 and run for an hour the evening is not done when you're back from your run. In all my years of doing 20 milers on Sunday what I did on Saturday never had any affect on the run. It was different if I had a long race on a Sunday but what on earth could you do on Saturday that would affect your Sunday run? Does she want you to clime a mountain or bike 100 miles? How would a normal day out with your wife, a normal walk or bike ride, a trip to a beach, a movie and dinner, shopping, bother your next day's run? But if that's really the case do the long run on Saturday and free up Sunday for her.

Now let's look at Sunday and the long run. How long? Two hours is a pretty common length but let's say you want to do three hours. So you do it from 10:00 to 1:00. There's still plenty of Sunday left. But you need to sleep. How long? I loved a nap after a 15-20 mile run but a half hour was plenty. If you went for two hours you'd be awake by 3:00, still plenty of Sunday left to spend time with your wife. If none of that is going to work for you do your long run on Sunday evening so you can free up the day for her and go to bed pretty much right after your run.

I do have a hard time taking this seriously but it's a question that was up my professional alley and I don't really mind being taken, and maybe it is a legitimate question. It's also a great opportunity to address the idea that serious running takes so much time that you can't do it and have anything like a normal life. If you really want to run seriously and make your marriage work you'll figure a way to do it assuming that your wife also wants the marriage to work.

Steve is the expert, I’m sure camgirls only broadcast for limited hours, so if you expect to spend any time, you have to be available when the broadcast. Just scroll through the other camgirls who’s broadcast schedule aligns with you and send her however many internet points you need to be “married”

Op should double down and start doing ultras. Wife is upset about you taking 90 minutes to two hours for your long run on Saturday? Wait till she hears you have to do two back to back long runs of 3+ hours on Saturday and Sunday for the 1200 dollar 200 miler you signed up for.

If you value your marriage, cut back the mileage and work out with your wife at the gym a couple of times a week. This will be healthier for your body and your marriage. Maybe you can find some other sport that both of you can enjoy together, like pickleball.

Off topic but for ultras do people really do six hour runs albeit with a split in the middle? Or am I misreading this and you mean three hours on Saturday and three hours on Sunday?

3 hrs Saturday and 3 hrs Sunday and, yes, they do this.