I train 5 evenings a week, by the time I'm home the evenings done. I work 9-5 so can't run in the day, or in the mornings as early commute.
I don't take her out Saturdays as it affects my long run too much.
Run most nights after work.
Saturday is parkrun.
Sunday is long run then sleep in the afternoon for recovery.
She said one more marathon block and its over.
Has anyone else had these problems how did you deal with the problem of training and family life.
Goal sub 3:30
Shouldn’t commit that much time to training if you have a family, plus you have no chance to break at least 2:30. It’s fine to run as a hobby, but you should relax and prioritize other more important things in your life.
Serious athletic training for a grueling event such as a marathon while working full time requires a military type of existence regardless of marital status.
Spouse must be supportive or the marriage is doomed.
Marathon is a dumb event. Run the 5k. Thank her later.
Expert here. She's right in a way but at the same time, if your partner can't support your hobby or hobbies, that's a big time relationship red flag. Now these cats will all jump on my back here, automatically, because I stick my nose out there. The truth makes people uncomfortable. Probably because they're living in a world where lies, control of the "information" and deception are rampant.
I train 5 evenings a week, by the time I'm home the evenings done. I work 9-5 so can't run in the day, or in the mornings as early commute.
I don't take her out Saturdays as it affects my long run too much.
Run most nights after work.
Saturday is parkrun.
Sunday is long run then sleep in the afternoon for recovery.
She said one more marathon block and its over.
Has anyone else had these problems how did you deal with the problem of training and family life.
Goal sub 3:30
I was once a marriage and family counselor. A question I would ask if you were my clients is what's in this marriage for either of you? It seems like you spend almost no time with each other. From your post it doesn't seem like you'd miss her if she left you and I don't see what you're bringing to her. If I was working with you two I'd start by asking you each to tell me what you'd miss or regret if your marriage ended. I'd ask you if you had to choose between a 3:29 marathon and your wife which would you take? I'd also want to know if this is something new in your relationship, i.e., were you running when you got together, was it as much as now? If so, why does it bother her now? If not, why have you gotten so deeply into it now? And while I still suspect this is trolling, since I'm in, I'll go whole hog.
There's no judgment here. Marriages fail. People develop other interests and if you'd rather run as you are doing even if it costs your marriage it can be okay, maybe sad but okay, especially if you don't have kids. And even if you do couples with kids can divorce and still provide for their kids.
To the business of mixing running and family, I don't know what your life is like or how much you run but if you get home from work at 6:00 and run for an hour the evening is not done when you're back from your run. In all my years of doing 20 milers on Sunday what I did on Saturday never had any affect on the run. It was different if I had a long race on a Sunday but what on earth could you do on Saturday that would affect your Sunday run? Does she want you to clime a mountain or bike 100 miles? How would a normal day out with your wife, a normal walk or bike ride, a trip to a beach, a movie and dinner, shopping, bother your next day's run? But if that's really the case do the long run on Saturday and free up Sunday for her.
Now let's look at Sunday and the long run. How long? Two hours is a pretty common length but let's say you want to do three hours. So you do it from 10:00 to 1:00. There's still plenty of Sunday left. But you need to sleep. How long? I loved a nap after a 15-20 mile run but a half hour was plenty. If you went for two hours you'd be awake by 3:00, still plenty of Sunday left to spend time with your wife. If none of that is going to work for you do your long run on Sunday evening so you can free up the day for her and go to bed pretty much right after your run.
I do have a hard time taking this seriously but it's a question that was up my professional alley and I don't really mind being taken, and maybe it is a legitimate question. It's also a great opportunity to address the idea that serious running takes so much time that you can't do it and have anything like a normal life. If you really want to run seriously and make your marriage work you'll figure a way to do it assuming that your wife also wants the marriage to work.
Marathon is a dumb event. Run the 5k. Thank her later.
Expert here. She's right in a way but at the same time, if your partner can't support your hobby or hobbies, that's a big time relationship red flag. Now these cats will all jump on my back here, automatically, because I stick my nose out there. The truth makes people uncomfortable. Probably because they're living in a world where lies, control of the "information" and deception are rampant.
Steve is the expert, I’m sure camgirls only broadcast for limited hours, so if you expect to spend any time, you have to be available when the broadcast. Just scroll through the other camgirls who’s broadcast schedule aligns with you and send her however many internet points you need to be “married”
Op should double down and start doing ultras. Wife is upset about you taking 90 minutes to two hours for your long run on Saturday? Wait till she hears you have to do two back to back long runs of 3+ hours on Saturday and Sunday for the 1200 dollar 200 miler you signed up for.
If you value your marriage, cut back the mileage and work out with your wife at the gym a couple of times a week. This will be healthier for your body and your marriage. Maybe you can find some other sport that both of you can enjoy together, like pickleball.
Op should double down and start doing ultras. Wife is upset about you taking 90 minutes to two hours for your long run on Saturday? Wait till she hears you have to do two back to back long runs of 3+ hours on Saturday and Sunday for the 1200 dollar 200 miler you signed up for.
Off topic but for ultras do people really do six hour runs albeit with a split in the middle? Or am I misreading this and you mean three hours on Saturday and three hours on Sunday?
Op should double down and start doing ultras. Wife is upset about you taking 90 minutes to two hours for your long run on Saturday? Wait till she hears you have to do two back to back long runs of 3+ hours on Saturday and Sunday for the 1200 dollar 200 miler you signed up for.
Off topic but for ultras do people really do six hour runs albeit with a split in the middle? Or am I misreading this and you mean three hours on Saturday and three hours on Sunday?
3 hrs Saturday and 3 hrs Sunday and, yes, they do this.