Dudes in your 50s do you feel old and your good days are over and death is around the corner

Pfft. Lastday is 21, then Sleepshop.

Why would even say that?

Overstating something is not necessary, and certainly doesnt make it true. If you are 60 that means you have about 25 years left to live.

Yes, of course you should be happy and enjoy those years, but "just beginning" is a stupid thing to say, it's more accurate to say "it's just beginning to end."

In "The 5k of Life" you sir are at the 2.5M mark.

At 57 I have to say that it can be very depressing. All your "bests" are well into the past, you will never have sex as good or better than you have already had, you will never run as fast, you will never have a better meal, you will never be as good at your job/career, you will never be as mentally sharp as you were.

At this age you are in decline, you are indeed "Over the Hill".

The only thing that seems to improve at this age is the anxiety from social pressures often felt by the younger crowd. By mid50's you stop carrying about what others think about you and you are less likely to compare yourself to others.

60s, look like a movie star, sub-35 for 5 miles, women in their 20s, 30s and 40s like me a lot because I am lean but muscular. Married 2x, three kids, nice car, home, second wife 14 years.

Is the movie star Norma Desmond?

I'm guessing William Holden, but the Holden in S.O.B., not Sunset Blvd.

You live on a throne of lies.

And think about it, if you always wanted the same things in life, you wouldn't be growing as a person.

Do 12 year olds look back and say, "oh man, going on a roller coaster while eating a five pound bag of sour-patch gummy bears will never be as good again as it was last year..."?

I don't want to go on roller coasters and eat gummy bears. I am not 11 years old anymore.

If you are able to grow emotionally, you find other things to love and enjoy that are just as good in their own way as what you were doing at different stages of your life.

At +50 you can support your kids and hopefully someday grand-kids. You can invest, buy property, travel, eat better, try new sports, etc.

You can't run 1500m PRs, but that's okay, there are other things in life as wonderful as the 1500m.

Are you asking whether life ends after 50 or how to talk to women? Please clarify.

I look like a cross between Paul Newman, Sean Connery and Richard Gere. Live in a 4 million dollar home, made money in tech when it hatched 30 years ago. Loving life. Chicks dig me. Still healthy, have all my hair.

I agree that accepting your fate and being "in the moment" is the best attitude to have. I just find the limitations brought on by age to be very frustrating.

Obviously you don't want to be that sad sack sitting around talking about Glory Days of HS/College, hitting X time in a 5k or whatever. I'm just talking about the limitations of enjoying very basic things like going for a long run with friends, stuff like that.

Do you still have all of your hair? I didn't see where you mentioned it.

I am still reminded of the Kevin Nealon bit on aging. There is no guarantee that anyone younger than me will live to be my age. You don’t know. So maybe have some respect.

I like that you said this. The whole “brand new chapter in your life” and “look at all the possibilities” can veer into toxic positivity.

People in their mid-fifties are sometimes starting to feel more vulnerable. Vulnerable in the work force maybe. Vulnerable to cancer and heart disease maybe.

sure, make the best of your mid-fifties (and beyond), but don’t let anyone tell you that the limitations are all in your imagination.

On avg, we have abt 4k weeks here. Manage your time.

FIFY

I did more than enough training and racing in my 30s and 40s that I had done all that I wanted to do with distance running. Grown ups understand that nothing lasts forever and resisting father time is a fools errand. Of course, that doesn't mean that in your 50s you just sit in a lawn chair in your garage and play Billy Joel albums while you talk to your neighbor about how kids today are so disrespectful and don't work hard. I play a lot of golf now and go to the gym to lift which has a direct impact on my golf game. I still run a bit to stay in shape and to keep my border collie from taking the house off its foundation when we are not home. And probably the best part about being in your 50s is that you can stop caring about what other people think and stop living your life to try and be something you aren't. I am happily married and do not have to go to bars to try and impress women to get them to go out with me. I am secure in my job and do not have to go around pretending to be friends with everyone I work with.

I am certainly not looking forward to my 60s and 70s and will work hard to stay health and in shape. But I know that there is no fountain of youth. With age comes getting reading glasses, having to pee in the middle of the night, sore muscles after a long session at the driving range and a face that looks like a melting version of what I looked like 20 years ago. That is life and I am ok with it. With age also comes wisdom and experience, which has real value. It is nice to know how everything works and to not make all the dumb mistakes I made when I was younger because I thought I knew everything.

The game changer for me has been resistance training. Bulgarian squats and core work.

At 61 some days are better than others, ya gotta roll with the punches and just keep moving.