Women are victims of the self-esteem movement, which encourages them to think of themselves very highly. Past a certain point, self-esteem does no one any favors.
No idea how tinder works these days as i haven’t used it in over 10 years or so, but i used to swipe right/say yes to every woman, and then I’d take my pick from any matches. Perhaps this type of thing leads to women getting big heads, thinking all these guys are attracted to them when really it just a strategy to take your pick from the ones you are interested in yourself.
sorta
many women use the apps as a way to feel a boost...to have hundreds of men say they want to date you is probably quite a feeling and a compliment.
But they have no real intention of going on any of these dates.
Just a self esteem game.
That's pretty much it & you can blame the "simps" for this problem. There's so many desperate, thirsty guys on dating apps that are willing to say or do most anything to get with a girl. And when a women is exposed to this constant attention & validation, she becomes euphoric & places herself on a higher pedestal.
And when I say these simps are desperate - that's an understatement. Dating coach Alex of his YT channel "Playing with Fire" did a Tinder experiment with his late 50s mother.
Using face app, he made her look older - into the mid-50s - and set up a profile. With 24-48 yrs, she received over a 1000 likes! 😯 And here's the astonishing thing - most of the likes were from men half her age with some being good looking, fit guys! 😯 What is the dating world coming to in this day & age? Lol
First of all, let’s call this what it is. It isn’t “dating,” it’s mating. These are mating apps, and women generally have high standards for who they’re willing to fornicate with. Men, not so much. Men really kind of are pigs and will sleep with just about anything, but certainly a 6+. Can’t really blame them, it’s how they’re hard wired.
The best situation in life is to meet someone outside of this realm, outside of social media. Not all women are on social media all the time. Something less forward and intimidating, like a club or church, just low key at first, no agendas. A church-going, respectable woman with moral standards but who is also very pragmatic is a gem.
When it comes to marrying though, you need to marry your counterpart in sexual attractiveness. If you’re a 5, marry a 5. If you’re a 9, marry an 8 or 9. But 9+ are going to come with all kinds of problems, jealousy, mental health, etc, and when you age out as we all do, women who were once very attractive, particularly, don’t handle it well at all. Usually because they lack depth and have leveraged their looks their entire lives.
Personally, I would say marry a 7. Cute, someone who takes care of their body and mind, and someone who you have a strong connection with beyond just physical attractiveness. 7 is attractive but not so attractive that the constant jealousy, games, and self esteem issues get in the way all the time. That’s my advice.
First of all, let’s call this what it is. It isn’t “dating,” it’s mating. These are mating apps, and women generally have high standards for who they’re willing to fornicate with. Men, not so much. Men really kind of are pigs and will sleep with just about anything, but certainly a 6+. Can’t really blame them, it’s how they’re hard wired.
The best situation in life is to meet someone outside of this realm, outside of social media. Not all women are on social media all the time. Something less forward and intimidating, like a club or church, just low key at first, no agendas. A church-going, respectable woman with moral standards but who is also very pragmatic is a gem.
When it comes to marrying though, you need to marry your counterpart in sexual attractiveness. If you’re a 5, marry a 5. If you’re a 9, marry an 8 or 9. But 9+ are going to come with all kinds of problems, jealousy, mental health, etc, and when you age out as we all do, women who were once very attractive, particularly, don’t handle it well at all. Usually because they lack depth and have leveraged their looks their entire lives.
Personally, I would say marry a 7. Cute, someone who takes care of their body and mind, and someone who you have a strong connection with beyond just physical attractiveness. 7 is attractive but not so attractive that the constant jealousy, games, and self esteem issues get in the way all the time. That’s my advice.
This, all this. I consider my wife a dime because she scores in every level of attractiveness and in 20, 30, 40 years I'll still enjoy the view sitting across the table while we're having engaging interaction for all the listed reasons. Plus I know she'll be dependable, she's smart and hard working. And she sees the same in me. Cute will endure, certainly in personality. Hot will generally age poorly because of the reasons listed above. Those who cling hard to and trade primarily if not exclusively on attractive looks or other unique and fleeting physical attributes will probably see psychological state decline even faster.
I see so many women who think they are 8s but are really 4s. They act like they’re the greatest thing since sliced bread. What happened. What happened to equality as they like to put it, their standards are so out of touch. I blame society for pumping them up whom do you believe or blame
Because most guys have even higher standards. And both sides are wrong and it's because of social media and filters and unreasonable expectations put forth by people when they post crap.
The answer is that on dating apps the very attractive men are hooking up with all the women, from 5/10ths on up. Repeatedly.
so those 5s and 6s women have a very hard time looking at ordinary men after that. They convince themelves that they can pull 9/10ths men.
but they can’t keep the 9/10ths men and will end up unmarried. Won’t ever settle for normal 3,4,5 men like they would have before the apps.
giant fail.
As a woman who's probably a 6, I'll say you're partially right but mostly wrong.
I spent my 20s hooking up with guys who were 9s and 10s, fully aware that they weren't going to be my husband. Then in my 30s, I switched to "serious" dating based on actual compatibility, career, lifestyle, etc. I got to have a decade of carefree fun before I settled down.
You'd do the same if you could. If you offered any guy the option of sleeping with 100 models and then marrying the girl next door when he was ready to settle down and have kids, he'd take it. Dating apps and modern norms have just made that possible for women.
Don't hate the player, hate the game. You'll probably start to have more luck with women in a few years.
As a woman who's probably a 6, I'll say you're partially right but mostly wrong.
I spent my 20s hooking up with guys who were 9s and 10s, fully aware that they weren't going to be my husband. Then in my 30s, I switched to "serious" dating based on actual compatibility, career, lifestyle, etc. I got to have a decade of carefree fun before I settled down.
You'd do the same if you could. If you offered any guy the option of sleeping with 100 models and then marrying the girl next door when he was ready to settle down and have kids, he'd take it. Dating apps and modern norms have just made that possible for women.
Don't hate the player, hate the game. You'll probably start to have more luck with women in a few years.
Sounds like you nailed it!
This was me as a guy over the last 15 years... settled and happy now. :)
Because they grew up idolizing Kim K. But you will have the last laugh when they are 45, not pretty anymore, and working on their third divorce.
No "you" won't, because you'll be a 45 year old incel who has never been in a relationship because you were too much a coward to ever invite a woman anywhere. You won't have any relationship experience, no social skills, no kids, no friends. Just a crappy marathon PR. You'll still be miserable and still complain about women that are farther and farther out of your reach.
I see so many women who think they are 8s but are really 4s. They act like they’re the greatest thing since sliced bread. What happened. What happened to equality as they like to put it, their standards are so out of touch. I blame society for pumping them up whom do you believe or blame
Look at the animal kingdom. Females of all types are picky.
Just be happy you aren't a bird. Those dudes have to work overtime for a piece of ass.
Bob goes to church every Sunday Every Sunday that the fish ain't bitin' Bob never have to have dinner with the Preacher Cos' Bob never bothered gettin' married
He likes to drink a beer or two every now and again He always had more dogs than he ever had friends
Bob ain't light in the loafers He might kneel but he never bends over
Bob takes care of his Momma She's the only one he lets call him Robert She don't drive anymore so he takes her to the store And keeps her yard lookin' just like she wants it
Every week at the beauty shop Bob's Momma hears That another woman's paid 'nother man disappears
Robert ain't exactly scared o' women
He's just got his own way o' livin'
Bob's still gotta antenna on a pole 2 channels come in 2 more comin' through
He used to watch the news but he don't anymore Ain't none of it new it's the same as before He figures all any of it's any good for's Keepin' everybody bored till there ain't nobody Like Bob anymore
Bob takes care of his Momma She's a mess but he feels like he oughtta A big a mess today as bob will say "she's a big un and she's gonna be a lotta"
He likes to drink a beer or two every now and again He always had more dogs than he ever had friends
Bob ain't light in the loafers He might kneel but he never bends over
I see so many women who think they are 8s but are really 4s. They act like they’re the greatest thing since sliced bread. What happened. What happened to equality as they like to put it, their standards are so out of touch. I blame society for pumping them up whom do you believe or blame
spoken like someone who was just freshly rejected.
i'm curious what you think the behavior of "think they are 8s but are really 4s" is in real life, beyond simply not letting you inside her.
i'm gonna give you a pass. it's okay, my man. you will recover from this. you got this. there are other women out there. there is truly someone for every one.
the number one tip that all men and women either know innately or have to learn the hard way: beauty is fleeting, superficiality is folly. there aren't many people that will truly set you on fire, and it's pretty hard for someone who rejects you to set you on fire, unless you have no self esteem.
not to mention that what constitutes an "8" or a "4" is entirely in the eye of the beholder.
so here's what you do: stop chasing women solely based on their physical appearance. get to know yourself so well that you never have "act" confident, you just are, because you know who are you and what you want and who turns you on. women fall head over heels for men like that - maturity goes a long way.
I see so many women who think they are 8s but are really 4s. They act like they’re the greatest thing since sliced bread. What happened. What happened to equality as they like to put it, their standards are so out of touch. I blame society for pumping them up whom do you believe or blame
I think the real question is, "Why do they prefer to be alone or hold out for a higher quality dude than date you, a guy who posts on a running forum about why chicks he rates on a 1-10 scale won't date him?" - hint: the answer is in the question.
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