It sounds uncalled for, and at best it's disrespectful. There is zero reason for her to send videos. Coach can watch her form during training sessions, along with the rest of the teams'. The fact that you're questioning it shows that you already know the answer anyway....
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My coach texts out team and individuals a lot and sometimes at rather odd times, but the texts are strictly running related, nothing wrong with being close with your coach but talking about a bunch of non running related stuff might be crossing the line. There is also the chance that your daughter initiates the conversation and he is just being a nice guy. I would say it’s something to watch but necessarily weird.
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If OP is not trolling, this is a major redflag. This is how grooming starts and sometimes it can go on like this for years before it escalates. If athlete is a minor the coach shouldn't be texting her 1-on-1. Period. I recommend OP to take a SafeSport training and demand that coaches that work with their kids are SafeSport trained.
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Nrvous wrote:
Not a parent wrote:
If you need to ask a group of HS trolls how you should feel, then maybe you aren’t ready for parenthood. If you feel uncomfortable about something who are we to tell you otherwise?
I didn’t personally participate in the sport, so I’m not aware of the culture/customs.
You want to know what is creepy? That you’re acting like you don’t know what’s acceptable in your household. So yes. You are too young and immature to be a father. What does your wife think? Does her opinion matter? Do your parents care that their grand daughter stays up late texting other MEN? #numbskull
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States are over in every state. so you say she has her eye in states. your trolling was detected in first sentence
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Nrvous wrote:
I know that my daughter is merely taking her training seriously, as she really has an eye on states and breaking school records, but she spends an awful amount of time texting with her coach. Sometimes they are up texting each other late at night. I’ve witnessed her taking videos of certain exercises and I know they’re really working on fine-tuning her workouts, but I’m just not sure about the whole late-night-texting thing. As I said, I know the sport is rather involving, so I’m probably just being weird. Anyway, do you all have any thoughts on this?
This is a potential problem. I did t realize reading this you mean she was a high schooler. I would suggest a curfew to her and just sell it as she needs to focus on something else after 8 pm for her sake.
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coach of coaches' wrote:
there may not be any bad intentions whatsoever, but i promise you it's a slippery slope.
i would say as a simple rule: coaches/teachers should not be texting their athletes privately, especially if the sun has gone down for the day.
agree, there is 100% bad intentions from the coach
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Steve The Addict OFFICIAL -----^^^^^ wrote:
Are the coach's initials NJ?
Hopefully not KH, he's down for beers, laughs, sex.
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Brooklyndan wrote:
I worked with a HS coach who lost his job over a sexual allegation. After this incident I told my team to text the captains if they had any questions and limit texts to me unless it was an absolute emergency.
I know this is a troll thread, but I'd be strictly following the Mike Pence rule if I was a coach these days.
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0/10. The original poster has replied a few times to keep this going. The message did not indicate the gender of the coach.
This is a real concern, and there have been some bad examples of coaches grooming kids, and your making a bad joke of a serious issue.
Anyone in USATF has to go through SafeSport training and a NCSI background check for working with youth. Ask you high school principal or AD if there is a similar requirement.190 -
Look up the Westview high track coach in San Diego from a few yrs ago. Same thing happened there.40
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i know this is a troll thread, but if i am texting with somebody on my team, it is in the realm of answering a question like " i can't make it to practice today, what do you want me to do?"
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NYPost wrote:
Brooklyndan wrote:
I worked with a HS coach who lost his job over a sexual allegation. After this incident I told my team to text the captains if they had any questions and limit texts to me unless it was an absolute emergency.
I know this is a troll thread, but I'd be strictly following the Mike Pence rule if I was a coach these days.
You would almost get kidnapped in an insurrection?
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high school xc coach wrote:
i know this is a troll thread, but if i am texting with somebody on my team, it is in the realm of answering a question like " i can't make it to practice today, what do you want me to do?"
Same. Didn’t give my number out initially, but they’ve gotten it on as as-needed basis when we’ve gone on team trip. I get a couple of texts per week about practice and only respond between 8am and 8pm.
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Nrvous wrote:
I know that my daughter is merely taking her training seriously, as she really has an eye on states and breaking school records, but she spends an awful amount of time texting with her coach. Sometimes they are up texting each other late at night. I’ve witnessed her taking videos of certain exercises and I know they’re really working on fine-tuning her workouts, but I’m just not sure about the whole late-night-texting thing. As I said, I know the sport is rather involving, so I’m probably just being weird. Anyway, do you all have any thoughts on this?
Read the texts and find out. Problem solved.
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That's what my coach did as well. Would text the captains about weekly (stuff like I can't make it today, we need to meet as a team before the run today, workout details, etc) and other people probably once per season. But all was injury or training related, with a bit about race.
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Really - you want your minor daughter texting frequently with any adult besides her family? Contact the coach and tell him/her to stop it and to only talk to her during practice or with team updates by email. It's high school and completely unnecessary.
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I would guess that most schools have rules against this. The coach is most likely breaking one of these rules.
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