Coach abuses Power yet again

samcallan wrote:

Totally agree.

There are more downsides to workplace romances than upsides:

1) When the relationship goes south, what happens to the two parties? Even if there are in separate departments a breakup can lead to tensions as others might "choose sides" or just feel awkward around them or maybe one of them is not given a plum assignment as it might mean working with the other person.

2) If one gets a promotion, do people think it is because that person was sleeping with the other one. So it can give a person (usually the woman) a reputation of sleeping her way to the top.

3) A perception can be created that one person is getting preferential treatment like plum assignments. Or maybe in a track example, a chance to race in a highly desired meet.

There are probably others and these are involving consensual relationships.

Look at the hot mess on the tv show where the anchors were dating. It is complicated in that one (both?) was married. It apparently was having an effect on the crew and staff.

otter wrote:

Sesar figacreepo wrote:

There is absolutely no justifying this behavior. This guy could have easily went out in the world and attracted a nice woman his age that would have most likely(in time) consent to just about anything under the sun. Why your own athletes? It’s a mental sickness. He looks like a fairly attractive man to not need to go this route but it’s not about that it’s the control factor. sad because this guy was a great college runner and probably was a solid coach too. Now he’s about to be behind bars or never coach again. What a waste.

male coaches: get a women, hell get a few women if you want, but get them outside of your place of employment!

He is a predator and not someone good coaches would identify with and take your advice. I understand the sentiment but just because he is an attractive man does not make him any less of an animal.

I am a high school coach and also coach a group of post collegiate athletes. Our athletic directors have been asleep with their oversight at our school. Horrible things happened with other teams at the school because of this. We are getting a new one now, so I am hoping for something better. At some point I will not be coaching, and it would make me happy to leave our program in good hands.

Coaches need to model the correct behavior giving athletes an education to when to have their guards up and when to find an exit strategy.

From my perspective an 18-year-old is a child. Many of them have just left their homes for the first time and some are under a great deal of pressure to hold the scholarships they have earned. I work with these kids right up until they go to college and in many ways, they are not ready. They need adults that model good behavior.

We need to all get on the same page and pressure athletic directors to stop being lazy and enforce a safe environment for athletes and coaches. Maybe these pervs will find other avenues but at least we can rid them out of athletics.

Agent Adult wrote:

otter wrote:

He is a predator and not someone good coaches would identify with and take your advice. I understand the sentiment but just because he is an attractive man does not make him any less of an animal.

I am a high school coach and also coach a group of post collegiate athletes. Our athletic directors have been asleep with their oversight at our school. Horrible things happened with other teams at the school because of this. We are getting a new one now, so I am hoping for something better. At some point I will not be coaching, and it would make me happy to leave our program in good hands.

Coaches need to model the correct behavior giving athletes an education to when to have their guards up and when to find an exit strategy.

From my perspective an 18-year-old is a child. Many of them have just left their homes for the first time and some are under a great deal of pressure to hold the scholarships they have earned. I work with these kids right up until they go to college and in many ways, they are not ready. They need adults that model good behavior.

We need to all get on the same page and pressure athletic directors to stop being lazy and enforce a safe environment for athletes and coaches. Maybe these pervs will find other avenues but at least we can rid them out of athletics.

Your perspective is wrong and in legal standings 18 is an adult. They may be a young adult but they are adults. The fact that adults continue to call 18, 19, 20+ year old college students a child or kids is pathetic.

In no way do I condone any relationships due to institutional standards, power dynamics, manipulation, coercion etc, but they are not kids.