This girl was willing to meet up with some random guy in a different country. Odds are pretty good that she found another random guy or two or three. Or she may have had a boyfriend the entire time and just liked the attention. Move on. There are plenty of women out there. Don't fall into the trap of the one that got away.
What's her native language?
If it's Slavic, then you can take the lead as the assertive man and focus on serious dating to see whether she is a good marriage partner.
If she comes from a liberal Germanic country, you're going to play the same annoying dating games as in the US.
If she is from Asia or Africa, just show her that you're a serious guy who is financially stable, and you're all set.
brah, u blew it, figuratively
If she ghosted you, she's not interested. Sometimes girls change their mind or just use you for a fun time. Either way, she's not interested. Move on. It sucks, but it happens. Almost every guy experiences it eventually.
I was ghosted once by a girl I really liked at the time. We had been getting on well from my perspective but in hindsight I think she was enjoying the friendship and when she realised I was wanting us to become a couple she ghosted me.
I also know a girl who is very friendly and unintentionally causes guys to think that she likes them in a special way when in reality she's just friendly to everyone.
Here's hoping you can enjoy the memories with her and end up finding someone even better!
I'm now an older hobbyjogger. My kids are getting to dating age and I made some notes for them .. what I wish my parents (or someone?) had told me.
As others have said, if she's ghosted you .. well, you know the answer. She ghosted you. Maybe she found someone else?
I went to a smaller school for college .. it was afterwards that I started to really realize. There are lots of women to meet. If she ghosts you.. it sucks, go for a run or three, and move on. (Oh, I had some epic workouts in a few cases. Tell your training partners if you're going to burn off some anger.)
I've had my best success when I was just out, having fun. Sometimes it clicks and I'd have a girlfriend. Sometimes not. When I was actively *trying* to find a relationship .. that never really worked.
Just go out, have fun. If this time didn't work out, don't sweat it. You'll meet someone else.
Why on God's Green Earth are you asking the biggest group of incels on Planet Earth for relationship advice?
If she is a 10 as you say then that’s all I need to know………………… She has other suitors and is getting the business from them. Yes you could look at what I am saying and think I’m joking but I’m dead serious. 10s have all the options my friend. See you just learned something. You’re welcome👍
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How old are you? And she?
There is always a chance. More after I know your age. My guess is 19…
DickMargarita wrote:
Why on God's Green Earth are you asking the biggest group of incels on Planet Earth for relationship advice?
He just wanted to make us jealous by telling us that he talked to a girl. It's working.
long story short, give it a break. Try again in a few weeks and be cool and romantic like how you met her. Keep dating or living life in the meantime.
I met this pretty Columbia girl, she was a 7. I approached her, asked her out. We went on two good dates. I went for sex on the 2nd date. Got to the 2nd base only, she backed off , I respected that, took her home, then she ghosted me.
So I just left her alone for maybe 2 or 3 weeks. It felt like an eternity. Then I made some crap up about my grandma being sick and I needed someone to talk to. Well, she bit the hook. Her reason for ghosting, “supposedly” she got very ill after we parted, ended up quitting her job in the process and was busy with being sick and job hunting.
We still had great chemistry over the phone. I picked her up for a low key chat. I showed her pics of all the cool stuff I did without her and also let her know it all paled to being next to her. She wanted to go visit some waterfalls, I said lets do it! She came home with me, and the following 4-6 months were a blur.
Sorry that you’re dealing with all of that. You must be pretty young. The best advice is advice you’re not going to want to hear, but what others have already told you: Let her go. You’ll drive yourself nuts thinking about her and it will get you nowhere. Do what you normally did before you met her. Set a goal. Do the things that you want to do. And you’ll eventually find someone else and things will work out. Women assess potential romantic relationships in a way that most young men can’t even imagine. Don’t let the thought of her control you, because the thought of you is most definitely not controlling her.
OP here. First, thank you to all of you who when out of your way and took the time to give me some advice. I appreciate you.
I must admit I got a good laugh with some of your postings. I am concerned about your mental health in some cases.
I am in good spirits and moving on. I knew what I needed to do but is hard to think clearly when your feelings are in the middle. I finally met with close friends and got to talk about it. As a side note, every run is 30 seconds per mile faster. To Dr. Schadenfraude: The movie Before Sunrise was on my head during my time with her. A lot of parallel things for sure.
I will treasure my time with her knowing that there is no nostalgia worse than longing for what never happened.