I have a few close friends that are getting their PhDs, some in science and some in humanities. This includes ex/current roommates and girlfriends (i.e. people I spend a lot of time with). In general, graduate students LOVE to whine about the hours they work. There are plenty of people that work for salary that work as much as grad students. When a grad student says they work 80+ hour weeks, ask them to actually break down their weekly schedule. Working a real 80 hour week involves going in 7 days a week and working for 11-12 hours. That doesn't mean you go in at 7, take a two hour lunch to eat and run, and then leave at 7. That is not a 12 hour work day. While I bet you CAN find some grad students that work 80 hours a week on a consistent basis, that is NOT the norm. Another thing: those with "normal" jobs generally have somewhat stable hours, so when they quote hours worked per week that is a typical week. Grad student hours vary a lot, so while most have probably worked some 80 hours weeks, they do not do this consistenly. Many like to quote their highest work week as opposed to their average.
That being said, credit where credit is due, grad students do work a fair amount. I would say 60 hours a week ON AVERAGE is what many successful students at top programs put in. The big thing with being a student is you get to choose your OWN hours. When you work for a company, your time is not your own. I think grad students that do not work a job after undergrad do not understand this. Had a late night last night? Go in late the next morning. Want to take off at 3 in the afternoon for a long run? Go ahead. You can make that up over the weekend or in the evening. You just don't have that flexibility at a desk job. On the flip side, I have a friend that is a biologist and sometimes with his experiments he has to be at the lab for 15 hours stretches. While these days are few and far between, they still suck. You also have more flexibility with vacation. Things are generally slow in the summer and students take long vacations (not like undergrad, but long compared to those working in an office). It is also easy to take long weekends around holidays. Try explaining the concept of PTO to a PhD student.
The last thing I can say is, if you don't really like what your studying or your time management skills suck, don't be a grad student. At a desk job, it is pretty easy to coast through 40-50 hour weeks. It is much harder to motivate yourself to do 60 hours if your heart isn't in it. It is easy to get stuck in a rut while working at an office, but at least you are still taking home paychecks. If your studies start to stagnate, you are really in a bad place. You can either leave your program with nothing to show for your efforts, or you can try to work long hours to get a degree that you probably don't even want any more.