I thought about posting this as a response to the Post-Nuptial thread but started a new one. This doesn't have to do much so with marriage and how it sucks of not getting any sex after marriage. It is to warn others who choose the life of a batchelor. I am in my early forties, ran for a div I college and have run (and continue to run) 70-100 miles per week over the last 20 years. I never married and was a batchelor who enjoyed the single life. I chose batchelorhood NOT for the purposes of being able to bang any chic and get sex from as many women as possible. I chose to be a batchelor simply because I enjoyed my freedom - travel at a minute's notice, hang out and party with the guys and take a job that required long hours but made big money to blow on expensive crap and extravagance.
That said, I never slept around and chose the women I had sex with carefully. Or at least thought I did. I recently found out that I contracted a couple STDs. Before you go jumping to conclusions the women were not whores that I slept with.
What I'm trying to say is that at one point or another batchelorhood will catch up to you. I'm not saying go out and get married but at some point you have to ask yourself. Would you rather have a comitted relationship and a companion, true friend that you can share your intimate moments with? Or would you rather spend your life bouncing from one woman to the next, having half ass relationships and lots of physical sex?
Reality is that quantity and statistics will catch up with you as it did with me. The more people you sleep with (even the "safe" girls; the one I contracted the STD from only slept with 3 guys in her whole life and no she was not lying) the most likely you get your payback for sleeping around.
With regards to the post-nuptial thread, marriage does not guarantee protection against life-threatening STDs or fidelity but the messages and responses that younger guys are reading suggests that a life of batchelorhood is more than what it is made out to be.
Other than the STDs it was great having freedom to come and go as you please but at the same time many periods of loneliness. Friends marry their girlfriends, have kids, move on with their lives. The bottom line is you need to find the one woman who will be your best friend for life. Sex fades and wears off but you can do things to keep it alive and interesting.
Again though sex that lasts about 30-90 minutes (depending on the situation) which is a small fraction of a 24 hour day. You want a best friend who you can share the other 23.5 hours.
Advice: Spend time with the guys but find the one woman who is can be a friend a lover. At the end of the day you can't have sex with your guy friends who won't be there as friends forever.