Yeah, but do you love it in the butt and swing around for ATM action? WINNING MOVE!
Yeah, but do you love it in the butt and swing around for ATM action? WINNING MOVE!
Divorcée wrote:
If you scroll up I already answered. It was a very small wedding and I went solo.
Got it. Thanks.
Was the solo thing awkward?
Divorced wrote:
I started dating about a year after. Saw a therapist that whole time. Still see a therapist. I had a lot to learn about myself, relationships, etc, before I felt comfortable dating again. But I'm glad I took the time to learn about that stuff. It's made my dating a lot more fun.
Clearly you are female.
pop_pop!_v2.2.1 wrote:
In Transition wrote: I honestly believe that she was faithful during our entire marriage.Don't hold onto that too hard. Women cheat just like men.
One of the biggest myths around is that "men are cheating pigs," by nature, and "women are loyal monogamists when they are with the man they are having kids with.
Genetic studies show (read the book "Sperm Wars," about 1/3rd of you...let's just say "your Dad, ain't your real biological father."
ANaKonDA wrote:
pop_pop!_v2.2.1 wrote:Don't hold onto that too hard. Women cheat just like men.
No you dumb f$$3. Women cheat a) MORE and b) BETTER than men. I know because I'm the expert here. I've mastered dozens of wives over the years and only very few hubs ever believed or discovered she was stepping out. Men on the other hand were dumba$$es about how they handle their extras and almost always get found out by the ladies. The social reporting bias and usual princess ideologies contradict factual reality, as usual.
This. This is completely accurate. Turns out men also take longer to get over a broken heart, than women. Women take longer to get over a broken check-book.
messi wrote:
Divorcée wrote:If you scroll up I already answered. It was a very small wedding and I went solo.
Got it. Thanks.
Was the solo thing awkward?
Not this wedding because the bride was a good friend of mine and I knew some of people and her family.
Just got back from the gym, now I think I will be watching Netflix.
I rescued (or so I thought) someone in real trouble. My personality of being a kind, helper soul got me in emotional trouble when what was a pretty good situation eventually turned south due to her past multiple trauma. Too smart to get out of her own way and seriously over complicated things to a point of making me second guess myself. The real killer however is, unfortunately, i liked her kids a lot and they liked me. In the end, I felt used and had expended a lot of resources including time, emotional energy and money including totally made to feel like it's my fault things didn't work out as fast and as well as she would have liked. Her erratic behavior made me insecure and I'm the one who probably will need a break while she will immediately go back to work on finding a better option for herself at someone else's expense of course. We looked at houses together, I wanted her kids to have some stability in their lives. She couldn't stop flipping personalities on me and being crazy.
Some earlier advice that was given is pretty good. Get to know yourself well first. Then know what you are going to allow or not allow in a relationship if you are thinking about more than just dating. Don't agree to give up who you are for reasons that you are going to regret later. Find your why first. Then go find your match. Be patient.
Mooiiiisssttt wrote:
OP, get out there! BTW, men love women who take it in the butt and are willing to do ATM. Just saying...
Where are all the women, divorced or otherwise? It's seems like there's a shortage of women nationwide. No matter where you go...it's dudesville. At the gym, the running clubs, the malls, etc...dudesville! Only the Senior centers seem to have an abundant number of single women ðŸ˜.
Be careful with the rebound... wrote:
I rescued (or so I thought) someone in real trouble. My personality of being a kind, helper soul got me in emotional trouble when what was a pretty good situation eventually turned south due to her past multiple trauma. Too smart to get out of her own way and seriously over complicated things to a point of making me second guess myself. The real killer however is, unfortunately, i liked her kids a lot and they liked me. In the end, I felt used and had expended a lot of resources including time, emotional energy and money including totally made to feel like it's my fault things didn't work out as fast and as well as she would have liked. Her erratic behavior made me insecure and I'm the one who probably will need a break while she will immediately go back to work on finding a better option for herself at someone else's expense of course. We looked at houses together, I wanted her kids to have some stability in their lives. She couldn't stop flipping personalities on me and being crazy.
Some earlier advice that was given is pretty good. Get to know yourself well first. Then know what you are going to allow or not allow in a relationship if you are thinking about more than just dating. Don't agree to give up who you are for reasons that you are going to regret later. Find your why first. Then go find your match. Be patient.
First off, thank you for your advice. Secondly, I'm going to address the above statements:
1. Yep, I'm the same. I get in trouble wanting to help.
2. If she was smart enough, don't you think she would've gotten it out of the way?
3. You liked her kids and vice versa, big deal.
4. The best advice so far, with that said you need to it follow too..;)
Bottom line, my advice to men...don't be afraid of a woman who has her shit together or not your typical/norm kind of gal. Yes, each situation is different and don't assume b/c what you went through will be the same for the next person you meet.(Men have their erratic behavior too) I agree, we need to learn from our mistakes and it takes time but don't close the door on an opportunity that could be your future. Relationships are tough but you need to be smart, know what you want, you might make mistakes and if you feel like you can't do better then go back to the one who told you so...😘