It's not projecting, it's giving another example.
Her post blew up for a reason, thousands of women related to it cause they all went through similar off comments from random men all of the time too.
I guess we're all just projecting?
Or maybe thousands of women are relating to each other and enjoying Molly's content. Who knows, we're all just bitter women I guess according to a dozen men on LRC
just saiyan wrote:
runnereunner22 wrote:
That dentist example has nothing to do with this example. That's a playful joke that is also a real compliment about someones smile.
But Molly's situation is a guy belittling her by joking and assuming that he, who is someone that doesn't even train as a runner (most likely, otherwise he would have known her), could probably beat her even though she is a world class professional and Olympic medalist.
That's why it's so cringe. That's why the post blew up and 51k people liked it and over 1600 people commented on it. Women are used to constantly being talked down for everything because some men just assume (and make asses out of themselves) that they're probably better than them without trying. It's invalidating. Not playful or flirty.
Cause the comment doesn't just exists in a vacuum, it exists in a world where female athletes only get 4% of the sports media coverage and 1% of the sports sponsorship dollars. So yeah hearing stuff like that isn't going to impress your bumble match. It's not just Molly, no female pro runner would be impressed with that ridiculous and offensive pick up line, wether said in person or on an app.
I used to play volleyball in high school and we were one of the top teams in the area. There was talk of having a coed team for a bit (thankfully it never happened) and all of the guys that wanted to join talked about it as if they were guaranteed a spot on the team. They've never played volleyball outside of a few days at gym class, and assumed that they were gonna effortlessly beat out the girls that played and trained year round for their entire lives. We had to point out why their logic was sexist for them to finally understand. But it did get better with most of them once they understood and started self reflecting on just how often the things they used to say to their female friends without thinking was hurtful.
Hopefully Molly shining light on this will open the eyes to young men and boys to think first before opening their mouths and putting down a girl/women with an off handed compliment/joke that is insulting to them. Cause most boys/men do honestly say that like that not even understanding that it's hurtful and sexist. And the good ones will learn to undo their behavior cause they want to.
You are projecting A LOT in this scenario. Like you said, the comment doesn’t exist in a vacuum - it was said in the context of an opener on an online dating app. Clearly he was just trying to be flirty and jest(hence the wink emoji), not undermine her or insist that he could seriously beat her JUST because he’s a dude.
Side note: The world would be a lot better if everyone didn’t just assume malicious intent behind every single interaction.
Now it's perfectly clear why a handful of posters are defending the guy and criticizing Molly in this situation: he has LRCBF-level game. These dorks think that was a good line!
you're so correct. putting an ounce of thought into a LRC message makes me so emotionally immature. I better take my basic writing/conversation skills and chuck them out the window before my next comment
Drew Peacock wrote:
lrc historian wrote:
No one's arguing that there aren't active guys out there who could beat her in a sprint. You're as bereft of social skills as the dude that messaged her.
The point is that barely active guys could beat her in a sprint and challenging some to a race typically means a sprint, not a marathon, like this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zjKzKgGazWI
Csare to explain why you think "barely active" guys could beat her in a sprint?
your average gym rat wouldn't even break 25 seconds in a 100m sprint, let alone 14. Molly's marathon pace works out to 21 seconds per 100m.
Not only woulds she destroy all these bros, she could do it at the end of a marathon and still leave them puking.
Her post was funny. Some took it way too seriously.
To further analyze too much. What does she expect on a dating app? You are interacting with people for the specific reason to flirt.
Seriously yes. They're butt hurt and thought they had game... until they saw thousands of female runners on the internet are laughing at pick up lines like that in unison
runnereunner22 wrote:
you're so correct. putting an ounce of thought into a LRC message makes me so emotionally immature. I better take my basic writing/conversation skills and chuck them out the window before my next comment
Or like, I don’t know, do something useful with your writing skills instead of analyzing dopey dating app interactions.
neednewshoes wrote:
dhe7ehdheudh wrote:
But you just roll your eyes and move on. You don't call out this guy be ause he tried the same joke some other guy he doesn't know tried.
I get it might be annoying, and guys get the same recipe lines over and over as well, but her reaction really turned me off and I like her as a runner. This and the plane incident make her seem attention seeking even if you take it at gave value.
He's allowed to just do and say whatever comes naturally to him, but if someone reacts naturally, that's not allowed. Got it.
Posting a private message, any private message, publicly is not natural, normal, or something that should ever be done by anyone. Even anonimozed you don't make something private public.
Guys using lame pick up lines thinking they are clever isn’t anything new. Naturally the Simpsons poked fun at the trope.
lrc historian wrote:
Drew Peacock wrote:
The point is that barely active guys could beat her in a sprint and challenging some to a race typically means a sprint, not a marathon, like this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zjKzKgGazWI..."No one's arguing that there aren't active guys out there who could beat her in a sprint. You're as bereft of social skills as the dude that messaged her."
Non-sequitur! This has nothing to do with our social skills.
dhe7ehdheudh wrote:
Posting a private message, any private message, publicly is not natural, normal, or something that should ever be done by anyone. Even anonimozed you don't make something private public.
Poor snowflake - it's happened since the dawn of time.
...you think I do this for a living or something? I have a full time job and friends like the rest of the chat. What I can't hop on LRC for a few hours a week and chat like the rest of people in here do too? If I'm gonna write something then I'm gonna put the effort into it
This "dopey" story is currently the highest ranking board on LRC. You're commenting and taking the time too. But somehow only certain ones of us are lame for doing it
Drew Peacock wrote:
lrc historian wrote:
..."No one's arguing that there aren't active guys out there who could beat her in a sprint. You're as bereft of social skills as the dude that messaged her."
Non-sequitur! This has nothing to do with our social skills.
And that some active guy could beat her in a sprint has nothing to do with her making fun of the message. If you think it is significant, that's what brings your social skills into play.
Sister Christian wrote:
just saiyan wrote:
You are projecting A LOT in this scenario. Like you said, the comment doesn’t exist in a vacuum - it was said in the context of an opener on an online dating app. Clearly he was just trying to be flirty and jest(hence the wink emoji), not undermine her or insist that he could seriously beat her JUST because he’s a dude.
Side note: The world would be a lot better if everyone didn’t just assume malicious intent behind every single interaction.
Now it's perfectly clear why a handful of posters are defending the guy and criticizing Molly in this situation: he has LRCBF-level game. These dorks think that was a good line!
Oh I’m by no means saying it was a good line! Definitely a tired and cheesy one. I’m just saying intent matters and given the evidence in this scenario it probably wasn’t intended to be an offensive sexist joke and thus not worthy of being lambasted on social media for (not that I would consider social media engagement the purveying entity of truth for that matter). I think I’m just more saddened at the need for people to seek validation on social media these days.
Then again, I could be wrong and he’s just a douche.
Why do we think the guy couldn't beat her in a race? He may not be able to beat her in a marathon but he never claimed he could beat her in a marathon.
I would bet my house I could beat her in any distance up to 800 m. That would satisfy his question of being able to beat her in a race, any race of any distance.
runnereunner22 wrote:
...you think I do this for a living or something? I have a full time job and friends like the rest of the chat. What I can't hop on LRC for a few hours a week and chat like the rest of people in here do too? If I'm gonna write something then I'm gonna put the effort into it
This "dopey" story is currently the highest ranking board on LRC. You're commenting and taking the time too. But somehow only certain ones of us are lame for doing it
We are all lame. That’s why we are wasting time here honey.
Maybe us incels should play a game where we DM Molly cringe worthy content to see if she puts out for all too see.
How dare people seek validation on social media (instagram).
They should come post on LRC instead, cause this isn't social media. And posting on here isn't for validation. Or attention.
....Or perhaps humans like connecting and communicating with other humans? Especially humans that have similar interests (like running). Maybe we're not all vain and posting for attention, but are creating entertaining and having fun talking to each other?
The mental gymnastics some people are going thought to assert that any man can be faster than any woman at sooooomething and therefore how dare these kinds of comments be annoying. Its the women not being humble in these situations?
appleapple wrote:
The mental gymnastics some people are going thought to assert that any man can be faster than any woman at sooooomething and therefore how dare these kinds of comments be annoying. Its the women not being humble in these situations?
Whats obvious to me about that is that these guys can relate to this guy and feel called out and triggered by her post. Its what makes her post so delicious. Pretty funny if you ask me.
lewisbonmers wrote:
Molly S is a weirdo. The guy was clearly just joking around. Molly is the heavy over serious type I would have avoided when I was dating. Light hearted people for the win, this guy avoided a trap.
lol . A distance runner being a weirdo .. If she is weird to a distance runner then chances are shes to mainstream for your average runner .. letsrun is entertaining if nothing else.