My sobriety is not for drinking but for benzos. I got super physically dependent on them last year and ended up doing 30 days in rehab. Now 6 months sober and feeling really good. Alcohol works in the exact same way in how it suppresses your Gaba receptors, so I feel for anyone out there struggling. Really cool to see all the positive stories here. Recovery/sobriety is definitely possible =)
Well done on 6 months! 85 days today.
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Well done on 6 months! 85 days today.
Great going! Just take care of today.
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88. Routine feels good and making reasonable fitness gains.
This thread makes me believe in the humans of LetsRun. You all are awesome.
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6… weekend is coming up and this is when it gets hard for me
One day at a time brother. Make it through today. Then tomorrow just focus on tomorrow.
it is a lot like running. Cant focus on the run two weeks from now instead of the 14 rins leading up to it.
4yrs 4mo for this guy
I'm teetotal. Never drank in the first place. If you're an alcoholic then consult a Dr.
Well done Runnerdude and Thinking of You. Fantastic! Get over the hump it will be well worth it. 89 today.
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Well done Runnerdude and Thinking of You. Fantastic! Get over the hump it will be well worth it. 89 today.
Thx .. unfortunately it seems like I’ll be drinking this weekend. But I want it to be it after that … I know this is a common mistake but there’s this big event all my friends are going to. I’m in my mid 20s which makes it all hard.
btw … had to reset my phone but will be using this username
What is considered over the hump? 21 days to break a habit? Fitting for legal drinking age I guess.
Congrats on the progress! I wish the best for you all.
I'm coming from a bit of a different place. I got married decades ago to a tee-totaler who has never had a drink. I do love her and admire her in many respects. When we got married, it wasn't like I was a "drinker". We were young when we met. I was pretty into running well (and figured drinking wouldn't really help), and I was into her. I never quite saw drinking with the same disdain as she did, but it was easy to join her in the non-drinker status. So, she felt we were on the same page.
I mistakenly thought she would loosen up a little bit on it as we got older, but again, it wasn't that big a deal.
Like all marriages (or at least most), there are a couple of dynamics in our relationship that we don't particularly enjoy. I feel like I lack the autonomy that I feel that I need. She feels a great need for safety that I feel paralyzes (or suffocates) me.
About 8 years ago, I started going out on Thursdays with "the guys". It was a concession on her part to let me have an evening where I could have a drink. I think she tried to be reasonable, but it is also virtually impossible for her not to show her dislike. Anyway, both pre-covid and covid were difficult times in a number of respects, and I began to enjoy the buzz a bit.
I didn't want to upset the peace and also I respected her household rulz, but I felt like I wanted (nearly needed - and still do) a little more than just the Thursday beer. So, I started secretly drinking a couple of days a week outside of Thursdays. I don't know that I have a "problem" per se... I can pretty easily go days without, but I definitely like the drink.
As one would expect, I eventually got caught... a couple of times, actually. She is not happy because of the secrecy / lies and, of course, the additional drinking. I feel like I am in a tough spot because I do think that perhaps I should consider cutting down on the drinking, and I want to feel better about things in general and try to get a little healthier. I also don't want to be someone she can't trust. At the same time, I want to be able to relate better with her, but I think her usual (overbearing) approach is really starting to get to me. I don't feel like I can just back down. I don't think it is all about the alcohol... but I have learned to like the temporary feeling it provides.
We are seeing a marriage counselor who seems to be suggesting that we try to make a "grand compromise" on this, but I just don't see one. I suggested that I promised to not develop a problem if she could promise to leave me alone, but no dice (lol).
ANYWAY, if you have any ideas on what compromise would be reasonable to help her to feel "safe" and allow me to have some "autonomy", that would be great. If not, you can certainly take pleasure in knowing that if you are kicking a bad habit on your own accord, then you're doing better than me.
Nice work all - seeking advice from those who been there wrote:
Congrats on the progress! I wish the best for you all.
I'm coming from a bit of a different place. I got married decades ago to a tee-totaler who has never had a drink. I do love her and admire her in many respects. When we got married, it wasn't like I was a "drinker". We were young when we met. I was pretty into running well (and figured drinking wouldn't really help), and I was into her. I never quite saw drinking with the same disdain as she did, but it was easy to join her in the non-drinker status. So, she felt we were on the same page.
I mistakenly thought she would loosen up a little bit on it as we got older, but again, it wasn't that big a deal.
Like all marriages (or at least most), there are a couple of dynamics in our relationship that we don't particularly enjoy. I feel like I lack the autonomy that I feel that I need. She feels a great need for safety that I feel paralyzes (or suffocates) me.
About 8 years ago, I started going out on Thursdays with "the guys". It was a concession on her part to let me have an evening where I could have a drink. I think she tried to be reasonable, but it is also virtually impossible for her not to show her dislike. Anyway, both pre-covid and covid were difficult times in a number of respects, and I began to enjoy the buzz a bit.
I didn't want to upset the peace and also I respected her household rulz, but I felt like I wanted (nearly needed - and still do) a little more than just the Thursday beer. So, I started secretly drinking a couple of days a week outside of Thursdays. I don't know that I have a "problem" per se... I can pretty easily go days without, but I definitely like the drink.
As one would expect, I eventually got caught... a couple of times, actually. She is not happy because of the secrecy / lies and, of course, the additional drinking. I feel like I am in a tough spot because I do think that perhaps I should consider cutting down on the drinking, and I want to feel better about things in general and try to get a little healthier. I also don't want to be someone she can't trust. At the same time, I want to be able to relate better with her, but I think her usual (overbearing) approach is really starting to get to me. I don't feel like I can just back down. I don't think it is all about the alcohol... but I have learned to like the temporary feeling it provides.
We are seeing a marriage counselor who seems to be suggesting that we try to make a "grand compromise" on this, but I just don't see one. I suggested that I promised to not develop a problem if she could promise to leave me alone, but no dice (lol).
ANYWAY, if you have any ideas on what compromise would be reasonable to help her to feel "safe" and allow me to have some "autonomy", that would be great. If not, you can certainly take pleasure in knowing that if you are kicking a bad habit on your own accord, then you're doing better than me.
That is tough, but you should quit. It’s going to continue to be a huge issue in your relationship and doesn’t seem like she is going to be willing to back down. Hopefully this isn’t a common thing but sometimes we have to be willing to give something up because it’s important to our partner even if it isn’t necessarily “right”. I would bet there’s a decently high chance she’s done something similar for you in the past.
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