Run_Happy_23 wrote:
I really hope it works out for the Elin and her sisters to run for a high school team. I don't know anything about their situation but they've run against my daughter in a few races and they seem like really amazing girls. Hardworking, friendly and humble. I would want them on my daughter's team in a heartbeat. A coach and a team would be blessed to have them based on what I have seen.
I'm sure they are great kids.
The issue comes down to what happens when multiple chefs enter the kitchen. Different coaches have different philosophies and different messages they wish to impart on their teams.
Lets say your daughter had a mediocre early-season race. Maybe because her coach did not think that race was a priority. But the girls of the parent-coach ran lights out. And the workouts they did that week were vastly different than the workouts the rest of the team did - maybe because it was a priority for the parent-coach. It's possible your daughter would begin to question the validity of what her actual coach was doing.
Or maybe there was a team fundraiser or something that the coach needed the kids to do. But the parent-coach sees the event as something that would get in the way of the kids dinner time, so they don't attend. Would your daughter understand?
Maybe team pictures are on a Thursday, and honestly, none of the kids want to do it, but they do anyway. But that's the workout day for the parent-coach's kids, so those kids can't be there.
Or maybe the conference meet is the same time as some big out-of-state meet that the parent-coach wants to take the kids to instead. Sorry, school, no conference title for you.
Maybe another family comes to the school and sees this parent-coach situation. Dad of this new family ran in college and decides he's going to get in on the action to and coach his kid. Now you've got yet another family doing their thing. I mean, if one family gets to do this, why not anyone?
Any or all of these scenarios could easily play out on any team anywhere that ends up accepting a model where a parent is coaching some, but not all, kids on the team. As I said, the family may still be great, but teams simply can't function like this.
If I had five daughters and wanted them all to run on the same team and have the experience of competing at the HS level, I would consider applying to actually be the coach somewhere. Of course, that would come with the additional responsibility of being the coach of more than just my daughters. And coaching more than just the people who have been groomed over the better part of a decade to excel could likely be a frustrating endeavor. Another can of worms.