34 and bored out of my mind with life.

Thinkin "prime" is relative. Id rather live in my 30s than relive my 20s, for a few reasons (more $, mobility, freedom, more wisdom, etc)

Still feel the same. I always feel worse on Friday / the weekend.

Before covid hit I was looking into workaway. I actually wanted to go to Russia and work on an organic farm and do environmental work, but that is completely shot now for obvious reasons. I wanted to get far away from the UK and experience different cultures and find my place. As I have alluded to I feel alienated where I live and alone and I don't know how to meet others my age. Websites like meetup are trivial and don't work.

I live at home which I didn't mention. I live here for financial reasons but it is doing me no good. My mother is great - very laid back, but my dads negativity and opinions bring me down. He is always telling me what I should or shouldn't do.

The biggest problem I face is I don't have a career I really want to do. Every career seems to have major downsides. I actually have a place at medical school for September. I've accepted the offer but I haven't made any plans to go and haven't booked accommodation. The reality is being a doctor (in the UK at least) is terrible - they are overworked, the pay is low and there is no work life balance. In 10-15 years after becoming a specialist I can earn a lot of money but I will be well into my 40s by then. So it is a big sacrifice. With regards to work life balance, I would obviously have to give up running as a trainee doctor.

What's life like in the USA? What could I do over there with my current qualifications?

Turn to Greg, he will build you up.

So basically you have a menial job that probably doesn't require a degree. No wonder you feel so unfulfilled.

Well if you've gotten into med school - I say go for it, as this is your one shot to turn your life around. You don't have to give up running as a trainee doctor, esp not in the UK which requires way less time than in the US. You would have to be very disciplined to make running work with medical studies but you wouldn't be the first or last to train at a high level as a med student or resident. You'd have to give up message boards and whining about being bored though.

And yes all careers, even medicine in 15 years as a high paid specialist have downsides. Most people learn to suck it up and prioritize things they enjoy doing outside of work.

bro, this is EASY

1. move out. you are 34. stop living with parents if they cause you unhappiness! this is simple man

2. go to medical school! guess whats also terrible (answer: your current job). as a doctor you can help people, run your own practice...and with some luck, move to a place like the usa and be a doctor and earn even more money. plus people respect doctors (especially women!). if you are a male doctor and you cant find a girlfriend....you have SERIOUS SERIOUS issues.

do the above steps. no question about this boyo. you can do i!

Should go and get a physical exam from your primary care doc to see if your blood panels and other metrics are normal.

I don't see travel mentioned anywhere. Consider travelling to southeast Asia.

Visit a sick ward or terminally ill ward, bringing gifts to the patients if possible. Check out a hospital for very sick kids. Visit people who are in the worst straits in life. I guarantee you your perspective will change. It's all about perspective. Have a talk with someone who doctors only gave weeks or months to live.

If you, heaven forbid, ever get a terminal illness diagnosis, you'll quickly realize that you do have stuff you want to do and your only concern will be if you have enough time and are in good enough health to do it.

Perspective changes immensely when you've been through situations. There's someone out there who has been incarcerated for at least 20 years...who'd like to just have a great chicken sandwich combo meal with chips, trivial things that those of us who live in the free world take for granted.

Two months down the line and still feel the same, if not worse. Feels like there is no way out.

He man, hang in there, your feelings probaly reflect something real and insightful about your current situaton. In your 4 billion y.o. lineage there hasn't been a 'parent' that didn't reproduce. You are 34 and haven't got a partner to mate with? You actually should feel kind of depressed. It's natures' way of telling you something is off.

I get that the idea of finding a partner can be haunting. Do you run at a club? You might be able do meet women with a similar hobby. Do you have other hobby's? Maybe there's something there.

1 year later and I'm still bored. In fact this year has been the worst year of my life.

Yes it's all very boring and tedious and the kicker is it seems like no one else feels the same way.

Wow, not sure how I missed this when it was originally posted but this is pretty spot on how my 30s are going too. For me the worst is Monday when I realize that I am just getting back on the merry-go-round to do another week of the same thing. Social media is definitely a factor because it always shows me how my friends and people I used to know are all crushing it, while I feel totally stuck and apathetic about changing my situation.

What's also frustrating is as a guy I really do feel like no one cares. The general attitude is to grow up/man up and just fix it. Get a better job! Go out and find someone! Go back to school! Stop complaining dude, you're a guy! It's pretty discouraging to see a lot of these replies are essentially the same because I feel like at this stage most people have tried all these things. Like what do you do when you try to make improvements in your life but the universe just tells you no? I personally have applied to plenty of better jobs that I feel like I might be interested in but never hear back. I've had some good dates in the past that feel like they might be going somewhere and then just get ghosted or have things fall off.

I'll stop bellyaching on 2 year old thread and get back to work but man did this hit the nail on the head!

If this ain't the state of the majority of losers on here.

Find a hobby you old lazy bums. I have so many hobbies and things I enjoy doing that I don't have even remotely enough time in the day to do them. Get off let's run and stop complaining.

Go find a therapist if you are depressed.

Become a Millwall supporter. Exciting times will follow.

If you can afford to come to the USA (assuming you can get a work visa - our current administration gives those out like candy to those from Mexico and Central America, or just lets them in) then you should be able to take the train onto the Continent and do some exploring.

Here in the States, especially out west where I am, we don't have anything like the train systems in Europe. You have to fly or drive to get anywhere.

learn how to cook! there's no excuse these days: if you can read, you can follow a recipe. Plus, recipes are so easy to find, go to allrecipes dot com, read reviews and then choose the best one.

Plus, if you ever get married, your spouse will be impressed with your cooking skills. A good skill to have.

I don't even watch TV anymore. I read. Not fiction, I hate fiction, but just nonfiction. Get audible so you can listen to books and do other things around the house at the same time, you'll never be board. I just listen to books through earbuds and work around the house.

I get all my news from Let's Run - problem solved!