I got kicked out of my local Y, am I in the wrong?

Unlikely. You really are creepy. You started a thread about it on letsrun. You went over and asked her, when she was focused on her own running. That is stalker behaviour. Don't you realise that?

Smooth playa wrote:

Do you think its possible for the girl to not have complained, and the employee just had it out for me???

i think its possible that youre a creep

Go to the front desk and ask them to give you her phone number, so you can apologize to her.

More likely it was your behavior. By your own admission you ogled her, then bothered her with small talk during her workout. At that point, her only choices to get rid of you were to say, "after I finish my run" or stop her run and walk away to the women's locker room.

You might want to reflect on what she said during her part of the conversation so that you don't miss the signs next time a woman is not interested in you. And perhaps do less checking out and more mutual eye contact.

treadmills_are_confined_spaces wrote:

More likely it was your behavior. By your own admission you ogled her, then bothered her with small talk during her workout. At that point, her only choices to get rid of you were to say, "after I finish my run" or stop her run and walk away to the women's locker room.

You might want to reflect on what she said during her part of the conversation so that you don't miss the signs next time a woman is not interested in you. And perhaps do less checking out and more mutual eye contact.

She seemed interested tbh, we ended up talking about boston marathon qualifying. And it ended up we ran for rival colleges. I said "You should give me your number, we could catch up sometime"

"Yes, after my run" she said that to get rid of you. She was being friendly. You misinterpreted. If she is single and you have a chance. You have to play it cool. Don't play games, but don't be over keen. But I don't think she is interested.

Smooth Playa wrote:

There was a poring rainstorm where I live today, so I had to do my run on the treadmill at the Y. On the row of treadmills ahead of me there was a nice atractive girl doing a run. I was checking her out during my workout and once I was done went over to make small talk. I asked her for her number and she said she would give it to me after she finished her run. I then went to the bathroom and when I got out an employee came up to me and told me to leave because I was making the girl uncomfortable. Was I out of bounds and in the wrong here?

I'm sure it's been said but your first mistake was not running in the rain. No girl worth a damn would waster her time with a little nancy boy who is afraid to run in the rain.

Maybe you weren't Tom Brady?

http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/sexual-harassment/2751966

The aftermath of being asked to leave by an employee with the woman runner not hanging around to see you would suggest she was being polite, not interested. If it was an employee vendetta, it will be obvious by how she approaches you next time to initiate conversation and give you her number.

Otherwise, give serious thought to what else she said in that small talk you might have picked up on (pauses before responding, limited eye contact, minimal detail in responses). Though perhaps she caught you staring at her and was already made uncomfortable and focusing on being polite to not cause a scene when you approached without her inviting you over, because again she was trapped on the treadmill when you initiated conversation.

DannyZuko wrote:

I believe I can explain what really happened. The employee has been trying to get up the nerve to talk to this same girl for 4 months. you come in and make a move in 20 minutes. While you went to the locker room, he spoke to her told her you are bad news and asked what was going on. now he looks good by being the savior. You are out of luck

Now you're trespassing .

Smooth Playa wrote:

There was a poring rainstorm where I live today, so I had to do my run on the treadmill at the Y. On the row of treadmills ahead of me there was a nice atractive girl doing a run. I was checking her out during my workout and once I was done went over to make small talk. I asked her for her number and she said she would give it to me after she finished her run. I then went to the bathroom and when I got out an employee came up to me and told me to leave because I was making the girl uncomfortable. Was I out of bounds and in the wrong here?

Without knowing more details, if things went down as simple as you described, then you didn't do anything wrong. However, if you spent 30 minutes gawking at this young lady, you probably creeped her out. Unfortunately women hold all of the cards in this situation; if this young lady found you interesting you would probably be dating right now. Btw, there are a lot of lesbos and crazies out there where you can't win no matter how you approach the situation.

Picking up girls at the gym requires a lot of game, it requires far more game than a bar or club pickup, but it can be done. For some girls, going to the gym is not a social activity, they just want focus on working out and go home. Some do want attention, but it almost like a quadratic equation figuring that out. There is a high level of game required to execute a gym pickup. Some of the essential elements are learning how to look without being noticed and if you are really interested, you have to be very subtle in your approach. You have to worked this young lady by making small talk, like complementing her on how great her running form is. You have to go through a feeling out process, which might take a second or third visit to the gym before asking for her phone number. - It sucks, but that's just the way things are.

Man people who create these posts must have no life.

I can do differential calculus and solve and graph her quadratic equation, along with it's maximums and minimums, her peaks and valleys and curves so to speak. Do I stand a chance with this girl? OP step aside. (snorts and pushes up glasses)

Yeah, but did you look relaxed?

I agree with TrackCoach's first two sentences. If there were mirrors and she spotted you gawking at her, she is super creeped out by you.

Just this week, I was at the gym pool swimming laps and stopping frequently to rest and stretch (because I'm pregnant and out of shape) and I kept catching this old dude in the hot tub staring at my size 36 D pregnancy breasts...So I stopped at the end of the pool whipped off my goggles and gave him a disgusted look...Didn't get any long stares after that.

I've checked out guys at the gym, but if it's a constant stare or an obvious double take, then it's creepy. Let the girl work out in peace.

Those 36D pregnancy breasts were probably the best thing that happened to that poor old guy all day, and you took all of the joy out of it by shaming him with your disgusted look. I hope you can sleep at night.

Would you want some stranger coming up to you at the gym and making small talk while you are trying to work out? No, you wouldn't. So yeah, you were in the wrong, idiot.

You are even creepier than the OP.