Am I right to be uncomfortable about the nickname my daughter has decided to go by?

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CKidd wrote:

Get her to order a T-Bone steak at lunch. People will take notice and she'll get a cool, new nickname.

Pretty underrated post.

Nice.

putting my foot down wrote:

Am I right to think I need to put my foot down on this?

Grow a pair.

oh pIease wrote:

putting my foot down wrote:

Am I right to think I need to put my foot down on this?

Grow a pair.

A pair . . . of feet? I mean, he did say he'd put his "foot" down, so maybe he has only one?

Poor Balls :(

I don't see the issue, unless your mind is in the gutter. Let her have her identity.

oh pIease wrote:

putting my foot down wrote:

Am I right to think I need to put my foot down on this?

Grow a pair.

Yeah, big daddy "balls", grow a pair.

Nah. It's OK. Obviously based on her actual name.

I agree with others. Don’t put your foot down on balls.

putting my foot down wrote:

Our last name is Balzari. I've just discovered that my daughter is going by a shortened version of her last name as a nickname. Her friends now call her "Balls." I discovered this because a friend of hers saw her from across the street while we were walking home yesterday and to get her attention started shouting "Balls! Hey Balls." I find this to be appalling. She doesn't see what the big deal is and thinks its cute or funny.

What's worse is that my wife knows all about this. When I brought it up to her, she told me that our daughter has been using this nickname for some time now and even has social media accounts with the handle Balls(her soccer number).

Am I right to think I need to put my foot down on this?

What a quintessentially first word problem. Have you forgotten that teenagers and even college kids don’t have a choice in the nickname they’re assigned? She’ll probably be bullied with the nickname if she objects to it. The best outcome you can hope for, if your daughter even agrees, is she tells her friends not to call her that in your presence.

putting my foot down wrote:

Our last name is Balzari. I've just discovered that my daughter is going by a shortened version of her last name as a nickname. Her friends now call her "Balls." I discovered this because a friend of hers saw her from across the street while we were walking home yesterday and to get her attention started shouting "Balls! Hey Balls." I find this to be appalling. She doesn't see what the big deal is and thinks its cute or funny.

What's worse is that my wife knows all about this. When I brought it up to her, she told me that our daughter has been using this nickname for some time now and even has social media accounts with the handle Balls(her soccer number).

Am I right to think I need to put my foot down on this?

It's not the best nickname ever, for a girl. But when I think of all the mindblowingly stupid things I did and said as a teenager, this is nothing in comparison. Keep in mind, its 2021. Be glad she's not insisting her friends call her "Jim."

putting my foot down wrote:

Our last name is Balzari. I've just discovered that my daughter is going by a shortened version of her last name as a nickname. Her friends now call her "Balls." I discovered this because a friend of hers saw her from across the street while we were walking home yesterday and to get her attention started shouting "Balls! Hey Balls." I find this to be appalling. She doesn't see what the big deal is and thinks its cute or funny.

What's worse is that my wife knows all about this. When I brought it up to her, she told me that our daughter has been using this nickname for some time now and even has social media accounts with the handle Balls(her soccer number).

Am I right to think I need to put my foot down on this?

Your daughter has chosen to express herself in this way and you are going to express your disapproval because it’s a sports metaphor and it makes you presumably think of testicles? Grow a pair dad and support your daughter.

Not to put the kybosh on all the fun, but let me ask you this:

Would you post your daughter's nickname and her last name on the largest running messageboard in the country for public ridicule?

Of course not. Who would?

Well, maybe a troll. But surely not the father of this girl. Some would surely recognize the girl with that last name and that nickname.

Nobody would do that to their daughter. Not in real life.

putting my foot down wrote:

Our last name is Balzari. I've just discovered that my daughter is going by a shortened version of her last name as a nickname. Her friends now call her "Balls." I discovered this because a friend of hers saw her from across the street while we were walking home yesterday and to get her attention started shouting "Balls! Hey Balls." I find this to be appalling. She doesn't see what the big deal is and thinks its cute or funny.

What's worse is that my wife knows all about this. When I brought it up to her, she told me that our daughter has been using this nickname for some time now and even has social media accounts with the handle Balls(her soccer number).

Am I right to think I need to put my foot down on this?

She could have decided to go by “chuddy dump.”

Joykill, the real one wrote:

Not to put the kybosh on all the fun, but let me ask you this:

Would you post your daughter's nickname and her last name on the largest running messageboard in the country for public ridicule?

Of course not. Who would?

Well, maybe a troll. But surely not the father of this girl. Some would surely recognize the girl with that last name and that nickname.

Nobody would do that to their daughter. Not in real life.

I'd like to believe that it's true that no one would post identifiable and potentially embarrassing information about their children on the internet, but I've seen Facebook.

Joykill, the real one wrote:

Not to put the kybosh on all the fun, but let me ask you this:

Would you post your daughter's nickname and her last name on the largest running messageboard in the country for public ridicule?

Of course not. Who would?

Well, maybe a troll. But surely not the father of this girl. Some would surely recognize the girl with that last name and that nickname.

Nobody would do that to their daughter. Not in real life.

Isn’t the LetsRun message board motto ‘Arguing passionately about nothing?’ Of course its a troll.

You could end this in a second by calling her 'Ballz'.

Joykill, the real one wrote:

Not to put the kybosh on all the fun, but let me ask you this:

Would you post your daughter's nickname and her last name on the largest running messageboard in the country for public ridicule?

Of course not. Who would?

Well, maybe a troll. But surely not the father of this girl. Some would surely recognize the girl with that last name and that nickname.

Nobody would do that to their daughter. Not in real life.

Thanks for pointing that out cos I'm shocked, totally shocked I tell ya, to discover this is a troll thread, thanks for bringing that to our attention lol.

One more issue, when she applies for a professional job, and potential employers Google her and find out everyone calls her balls, that will be a mark against her.

The Q in LGBTQ wrote:

Ding Ding Ding! wrote:

Strong candidate for Post of the Year.

Second the motion! This actually made me LOL for real.

And the mods deleted the joke. It's a joke people.

I almost always delete that word from the website but in this case it's quite clever.

I put it back up.

OP. The nickname is fine. What I"m most disturbed about is you don't even know what your daughter well enough to know her nickname. Get more involved instead of being an absent parent who occasionally comes in and messes things up.

Cancelling the nickname would be even worse. It would make a big deal of nothing and then overly sexualize everything. Probably the most common nickname in the world is a shortened version of a longer name - ie Rojo for me. And once that caught on, some of my closest friend even shortened that to Roj.