Also, you're less likely to find women who are SINGLE and over 30 running a race. Most women who are into fitness lifestyle in their older years tend to be married or otherwise committed to something other than finding their next fling.
If CrossFit is any indicator, most of the fitness fanatic women in their 30's and beyond are married.
It's less about how fast you run and more about how well you carry yourself. If you run a 15:00 5K but carry yourself as an unkempt slob with bad hygiene, a woman will quickly pass you over for a suave, dapper John Candy-like guy who smells fresh and is well-groomed.
Basically, a woman doesn't want a man who still carries himself with the immaturity and inexperience of a child.
She'll not even want to hear about your fast 5k if, when you open your mouth, she smells horrible breath. It's the little things that matter:
Being fit in addition to:
1) Bathing/showering regularly
2) Well-groomed facial hair.
3) Properly use water/wet wipes after using the loo so no one smells a foul odor in the air when you walk past them if they are seated.
4) Brushing your teeth, using tongue scraper and mouthwash.
bartholomew_maxwell wrote:
That's a serious pipe dream...If you are 35+ and the woman is as well then you can bet the woman is more interested in financial stability. Time is ticking by fast by that age so people tend to have more serious interests...she's probably seen and done it all so I don't think your 35+ yr old physique is going to be that impressive no matter how fit you are.
I think most of the older women are looking for life partners at that age. Unless the woman is financially stable and independent then she may be more open to adventurous stuff and care more about the superficial physical stuff.
Bro: the OP specifically asked what would impress a woman, not what a woman wants to marry.
If one is greater than 6'. If one is greater than 165lbs. while sub-10% body fat. If one has a 1500m Olympic gold medal with a sub-3:50 one mile, a great conversation starter.
My experience with women indicates that they like guys who concentrate on two things: the individual woman and an impressive set of job skills that can provide long-term security. When I stopped running seriously and built my career (with a lot of educational endeavors), I was shocked at the attention I received. Yes, runners are too skinny for most women, but the key deficiency is spending a lot of time in a boutique sport that doesn't pay well compared to what you can make if you are moderately talented in math, business, and tech world. A running bum is a turn-off for most women.
tlm1959 wrote:
Yes, runners are too skinny for most women, but the key deficiency is spending a lot of time in a boutique sport that doesn't pay well compared to what you can make if you are moderately talented in math, business, and tech world. .
Yeah, for most women...in countries where fatter people are the norm...aka America.
I think you'd see a totally different outlook in Phillipines, Japan, Ethiopia or Kenya.
OP, if you want to really really increase your chances, take a visit to some of those places where everyone is fairly thin...
Your best shot is with Asian women , East Asian.
Does running have status amongst non-runners? Then the answer is probably no.
I will break this down for you, b/c I know from decades of experience how this sh*t works ...
When you're in HS, being a runner basically means you will not get laid. Except for some small slice of the girls distance runners nobody will be DTF
When you're in College, it is pretty much the same story except a slightly larger % of the girls distance squad is in to runner guys
Post college, as you enter your 30s being a runner starts to look pretty good to women your age. Other guys are starting to get fatter while you are still lean. If you can do a little lifting to put some muscle on, you start to look very good compared to the other slobs.
Once you hit your 40s pretty much the norm is for guys to be fat bald slobs. If you are a fit runner you can crush that cougar ass.
I can tell you that babes definitely get turned on by Ultramarathoners. As long as you don’t let yourself get too skinny. When they find out you are putting down 19+ hours in the wilderness running up mountains for fun, they are all up on the D. If you are looking to get more babes, run ultramarathons. If you are trying to get more dudes, stick to the 5ks.
If your an 800-1600 guy than yeah, you can carry a relatively decent amount of weight in muscles. Mentioning that you run a 4:xx mile usually catches people's attention as well.
Run6run wrote:
If your an 800-1600 guy than yeah, you can carry a relatively decent amount of weight in muscles. Mentioning that you run a 4:xx mile usually catches people's attention as well.
If you are a good 800/1600 runner you will not be carrying around decent amounts of bodyweight.
Run6run wrote:
If your an 800-1600 guy than yeah, you can carry a relatively decent amount of weight in muscles. Mentioning that you run a 4:xx mile usually catches people's attention as well.
No, it doesn't.
bartholomew_maxwell wrote:
DudeBroMan wrote:
If you are 35+ then probably: a majority of the male population starts to get out of shape, so if you are constantly training for half marathons or marathons, then you're definitely going to be in way better shape than a lot of other dudes your age. It also shows that you are dedicated, which a lot of women your age will also find attractive.
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That's a serious pipe dream...If you are 35+ and the woman is as well then you can bet the woman is more interested in financial stability. Time is ticking by fast by that age so people tend to have more serious interests...she's probably seen and done it all so I don't think your 35+ yr old physique is going to be that impressive no matter how fit you are.
I think most of the older women are looking for life partners at that age. Unless the woman is financially stable and independent then she may be more open to adventurous stuff and care more about the superficial physical stuff.
Old women are horny too. I'm 35 now and can't tell you how many 40+ year old women I bang every month. They're hornier than 20 year olds, IMO. No one is ever too old to have "seen it all." People are horny by nature, no matter the age, and as we all know, that moment of horniness usually trumps our long term intentions.
Cheez wrote:
Old women are horny too. I'm 35 now and can't tell you how many 40+ year old women I bang every month. They're hornier than 20 year olds, IMO. No one is ever too old to have "seen it all." People are horny by nature, no matter the age, and as we all know, that moment of horniness usually trumps our long term intentions.
They may seem that way...relative to age, but they only seem hornier than usual because by nature we're less horny as we get older...because, ya know, testosterone levels start to naturally decline around your mid 30's,,,,You equate horniness with behavior that indicates desperation. One is physiological, the other is psychological.
GerlinGo wrote:
No, because being skinny is not that attractive for women.
Look at Galen Rupp. Do you want to look like Galen Rupp?
That is the problem for elite runners, they are too skinny. However, runners with a BMI around 21-22 are probably the most attractive men on earth. So I would say that running makes you attractive but you are not supposed to look like a Biafran and when you run on a treadmill in gym faster than anyone else, they notice you. One should always mention how many miles per week he runs and things like that. Nobody cares how good one is compared to Galen Rupp because the race is against all the other dudes in gym who are in pathetic shape every single one of them. If someone's situation here is different and he is training in a gym where everyone else is a world class athlete then the situation might be different. The best decision in that situation might be to switch to another gym because it's like in poker, you play against the other players who sit at that table.
Yes. But not directly. That is, your mileage, PR, VO2max, or whatever should not be the information that impress them (or for that matter, the fact that you run). So don't try to show them off.
Running should impress only through indirect effects: patient, determination, calm, general functional fitness (e.g., you don't complain for being tired or out of breath when walking around, or help her moving stuff or when having sex, or other situations where better mental and physical fitness helps).
Sure, running can hurt in this sense if you overtrained, obsessed, always injured, etc.
And no, don't worry about the way your body looks in the mirror. Women can sense the difference between well-functioning body (even if they are "too skinny" or "too fat") and a "perfect" body of a vanity whore (i.e. those that diet and exercise just for look).
A sport doesn't impress women unless it's a sport tied to traits that women find of primal interest. For example, football = masculinity + strength + toughness + fearlessness + aggression...Those traits that it brings out in men is what impresses women...not the sport itself...similarly men who are known to be good fighters impress women.
Running doesn't evoke that same set of primal traits. Maybe sprinting does because a sprint is a more aggressive event than a long run and sprinters tend to have the appropriate body type that suggests those characteristics.
Look at a typical distance race...the cadence and stride for the men and women is about the same...there is no noteworthy difference in aggression between the men and women. It's practically unisex...
Elite runners are not in it to pick up chicks though. So they're not even worth mentioning in this discussion. I can't think of an elite male runner who is single. Even Kenny B is married...https://media.gettyimages.com/photos/ethiopian-runner-kenenisa-bekele-is-seen-with-his-wife-dannawit-just-picture-id77962120?s=2048x2048
Baltsu wrote:
GerlinGo wrote:
No, because being skinny is not that attractive for women.
Look at Galen Rupp. Do you want to look like Galen Rupp?
That is the problem for elite runners, they are too skinny. However, runners with a BMI around 21-22 are probably the most attractive men on earth. So I would say that running makes you attractive but you are not supposed to look like a Biafran and when you run on a treadmill in gym faster than anyone else, they notice you. One should always mention how many miles per week he runs and things like that. Nobody cares how good one is compared to Galen Rupp because the race is against all the other dudes in gym who are in pathetic shape every single one of them. If someone's situation here is different and he is training in a gym where everyone else is a world class athlete then the situation might be different. The best decision in that situation might be to switch to another gym because it's like in poker, you play against the other players who sit at that table.
bartholomew_maxwell wrote:
Look at a typical distance race...the cadence and stride for the men and women is about the same...there is no noteworthy difference in aggression between the men and women. It's practically unisex...
Do you ever watch distance races? Running is a reckless sport, people push others and do anything to gain an advantage, especially in championship races. For example the Ingebrigtsen often push others or cut them off to gain an advantage, in most races there is something where runners show extreme aggression in order to win.
This is the same in normal, track races with the average Joe's - people pass others and then slow down to break their rhythm, or when there is a 180 degree turn everyone wants to be in the inside - often, many people trip there.
You got a point about men vs women tho, I do think that women show similar aggressive behavior in championship track races and don't always play fair.
LateRunnerPhil wrote:
bartholomew_maxwell wrote:
Look at a typical distance race...the cadence and stride for the men and women is about the same...there is no noteworthy difference in aggression between the men and women. It's practically unisex...
Do you ever watch distance races? Running is a reckless sport, people push others and do anything to gain an advantage, especially in championship races. For example the Ingebrigtsen often push others or cut them off to gain an advantage, in most races there is something where runners show extreme aggression in order to win.
This is the same in normal, track races with the average Joe's - people pass others and then slow down to break their rhythm, or when there is a 180 degree turn everyone wants to be in the inside - often, many people trip there.
You got a point about men vs women tho, I do think that women show similar aggressive behavior in championship track races and don't always play fair.
How is any of that related to attracting the opposite sex, the subject of the thread?