Why some modifications can, and should, be made for individuals (look at Rudy Chapa and Salazar at Oregon), the basic plan should be the same.
What does total control mean? He'll race when he wants to?
I would rather have a team full of average runners who show up everyday, work hard, and race hard over a some kid who thinks that the the world revolves around him.
I coach HS, so I don't recruit in a way that college coaches do, but I do recruit out of gym classes and other sports. I'm going through a similar issue right now in that the family thinks that "Johnny" is special and should be treated differently than everyone else. Well, it's not like Johnny is running 15 for the 5K while everyone else is running 21. In the last race, Johnny was only 7 seconds ahead of the next runner on the team.
The parents want rules like:
1. No one runs ahead of Johnny on repeats. Since Johnny is the fastest on the team, it bothers him when others are ahead of him.
2. Johnny should be able to start his workouts before everyone else so that he can have more time to get ready in the mornings.
3. Johnny should be named captain of the team (we have no captains).
The list goes on and on. Basically, they are trying to live their lives through Johnny and want him to be a big man on campus. I finally told Johnny and the parents they had 2 options: 1. Do it my way or 2. Go find another school to run for. I have better things to do than cater to one athlete when I have 42 in the stable.
How will the other runners react if this recruit gets to do his own thing? Will they want to do their own thing?
I would suggest getting a workout schedule from this recruit to see what he's doing and whether it can be included in the team's workouts.