i see it as denial.
in my day, we couldn't even tell what the different levels expected. short of nationals we had no idea what collegians ran. so i called coaches where i was interested in, and figured out from the feedback d3 is where i belonged and got most of my positive responses. you have to find your spot. you don't find it ignoring the feedback.
i could have used a sit down with the track coach who then explained what times got you where. we got nothing. i think they were only interested in the recruitment of the ones making state.
what i see as worse today is kids have endless information and should know better. i didn't know the needed numbers. they do. you can look at online meet results, TFRRS, performance lists, official recruitment standards, unofficial recruiting aids.
the irony is i figured out after the fact i could have run backend d1. beat my share of d1 walkons in my meets back then. but i didn't know, but kind of intuited where i'd fit in.
like this is no research, no intuition. like in my current state. if i call UT and A&M, no. ok, drop down and try UTEP, still no. ok, maybe west texas a&m or UT-D. no. at which point someone not freaking out or dreaming too hard should figure out, ok, i guess it's trinity, austin college, hardin simmons, southwestern.
but you have to sit down the self righteous, do your research, and actually adjust for feedback. it's a lot less defensible because all the information is there. you can go TFRRS and see every time they ran in your event this year, last year, 2 years ago. ok, i won't make that team.
and then recruiting is not made just for you. they need a team. they need it by a timeframe. unless they tell you (a) you're on or (b) to apply and chase some goal time to walk on, it's a no. you move on and maybe re-aim your sights. it's like a whole chunk of kids refuses to re-aim. entitlement or something. running for UC santa cruz or chicago or swarthmore is not hell on earth. it's pretty nice.