Why do middle aged married men often give up on staying fit? I am in my early 30s married and I primarily work out for myself. I love it and it keeps me sane. But I also want to look good for my wife. However it seems when men get into their 40s or 50s they often give up trying to look good for their spouse. Anyone here have any experience letting yourself go? I would be embarrassed if I became out of shape. I know there is more to physical appearances, but I believe you should want your spouse to still find you attractive. If you get out of shape the wife should push you to do better imo.
After the kids (wife will probably stay married for them), funding everything, and the inevitable smash shutoff what's the point of staying in shape? Sounds terrible. Marriage is an archaic custom. GF or roster only.
After the kids (wife will probably stay married for them), funding everything, and the inevitable smash shutoff what's the point of staying in shape? Sounds terrible. Marriage is an archaic custom. GF or roster only.
Sorry it’s not fair maybe but unless you give birth to your child you can’t compare the two. It’s not the same thing. Also men don’t have the same societal pressure as women. Men can age women get ostracized for normal biological things.
I'm sorry but I don't think being pregnant is an excuse for getting fat. This is what is wrong with America today. Too many excuses. When my wife was pregnant with our child, I set a goal for her to only gain the weight of what the child weighed. So in essence, her body weight stayed the same, save some breast milk weight. She came really close to meeting the goal. But in the end it was all for nothing, because some years later she ended up getting fat anyway.
Why do middle aged married men often give up on staying fit? I am in my early 30s married and I primarily work out for myself. I love it and it keeps me sane. But I also want to look good for my wife. However it seems when men get into their 40s or 50s they often give up trying to look good for their spouse. Anyone here have any experience letting yourself go? I would be embarrassed if I became out of shape. I know there is more to physical appearances, but I believe you should want your spouse to still find you attractive. If you get out of shape the wife should push you to do better imo.
You should ask the Brojos.
No excuses for any man. Get in shape do some pushups and sit-ups. Use a kettlebell.
did you play any sports? most people who actually did at a high level have some dings they have to manage.
second, some jocks are talented athletes but endured practices to get to games or meets. and used that activity to stay skinny. the games or meets end and they were "gamers," not workout mavens.
last, you sound like someone without kids. someone with kids workouts and how good you look become a tertiary concern for, shall we say, 18 years.
did you play any sports? most people who actually did at a high level have some dings they have to manage.
second, some jocks are talented athletes but endured practices to get to games or meets. and used that activity to stay skinny. the games or meets end and they were "gamers," not workout mavens.
last, you sound like someone without kids. someone with kids workouts and how good you look become a tertiary concern for, shall we say, 18 years.
Will have them. And if you can’t take care of yourself how will you take care of your kids or your wife?
After the kids (wife will probably stay married for them), funding everything, and the inevitable smash shutoff what's the point of staying in shape? Sounds terrible. Marriage is an archaic custom. GF or roster only.
this is 20-something chatter. or maybe the naive blather of a 40 year old who still looks distinguished. no matter how hard you work out, old age eventually finds you, at which point if it's about looks your GF and roster wander off, since you're less hunk and you never committed.
I let myself go a little bit between 39 and 43. Worked for a startup that was very demanding and stressful since it was bleeding cash after year 1. Often business dinners with cocktails and wine doesn’t bode well for early morning runs. Combine that with 2 kids in club sports and your weekends are pretty shot too.
I went to a new company, quit drinking except occasional glass of wine socially and now get in 40-45mpw. Push-ups 3-4 times per week. I run evenings now since my kids are teens and usually doing their own thing anyway. I look better, but more importantly I feel way better.
It is tougher getting out the door and running that first mile at 47 than it was at 31, but it’s manageable. Massage every 3 weeks helps too.
I let myself go a little bit between 39 and 43. Worked for a startup that was very demanding and stressful since it was bleeding cash after year 1. Often business dinners with cocktails and wine doesn’t bode well for early morning runs. Combine that with 2 kids in club sports and your weekends are pretty shot too.
I went to a new company, quit drinking except occasional glass of wine socially and now get in 40-45mpw. Push-ups 3-4 times per week. I run evenings now since my kids are teens and usually doing their own thing anyway. I look better, but more importantly I feel way better.
It is tougher getting out the door and running that first mile at 47 than it was at 31, but it’s manageable. Massage every 3 weeks helps too.
