when a woman (says she) needs "space" to "figure things out"...

Just so you know, many people play this the wrong way and assume they can win their girl's heart. That isn't the way to play it. You need to accept that you will never live happily ever after with her. Once you get to that point, you can take advantage of the situation. Since it doesn't matter what she thinks of you anymore because she's not going to be a part of your life, you can try anything in the sack and get away with no long-term repercussions. Be creative and take a video camera. Once she's throughly horrified by what you are trying to do to her body, you'll have lost a whore and gained a story to brag to all your friends. Seize the day my friend!

Wow I wish I would have read this thread about 6 months ago.

Whatever you do, you better not have any hopes that this girl has any strong romantic feelings for you. Like someone said, she likes you around sometimes when no one else is available and will screw you but more than likely right now she is all over some other guy and is afraid to confront you about it and deal with your reaction.

If you have strong feelings towards her the best thing to do is immediately stop seeing her. If she calls you everynow and then have a nice conversation but don't call her, ever. The sooner you forget about her and get over her the better.

Wow I wish I would have read this thread about 6 months ago.

Whatever you do, you better not have any hopes that this girl has any strong romantic feelings for you. Like someone said, she likes you around sometimes when no one else is available and will screw you but more than likely right now she is all over some other guy and is afraid to confront you about it and deal with your reaction.

If you have strong feelings towards her the best thing to do is immediately stop seeing her. If she calls you everynow and then have a nice conversation but don't call her, ever. The sooner you forget about her and get over her the better.

? wrote:

What she is saying roughly translates into the following: "I am not really interested in you. But, at times I still get horny and you are safe for that. And, there maybe other times I need a companion for social events and you are still somewhat presentable. It's not you, but it's me, I don't like to be alone, and I will continue to string you along until I find someone else. Oh yeah, there is nothing you can do to change my mind."

this is the god's honest truth. i've been through this before . you cannot win, unless you walk away NOW. i wasted months of my life emotionally, you don't have to.

? wrote:

What she is saying roughly translates into the following: "I am not really interested in you. But, at times I still get horny and you are safe for that. And, there maybe other times I need a companion for social events and you are still somewhat presentable. It's not you, but it's me, I don't like to be alone, and I will continue to string you along until I find someone else. Oh yeah, there is nothing you can do to change my mind."

this is the god's honest truth. i've been through this before . you cannot win, unless you walk away NOW. i wasted months of my life emotionally, you don't have to. she has someone else she's into and/or banging. there is no doubt about that, and you must accept that.

? wrote:

What she is saying roughly translates into the following: "I am not really interested in you. But, at times I still get horny and you are safe for that. And, there maybe other times I need a companion for social events and you are still somewhat presentable. It's not you, but it's me, I don't like to be alone, and I will continue to string you along until I find someone else. Oh yeah, there is nothing you can do to change my mind."

this is the god's honest truth. i've been through this before . you cannot win, unless you walk away NOW. i wasted months of my life emotionally, you don't have to. she has someone else she's into and/or banging. there is no doubt about that, and you must accept that.

? wrote:

What she is saying roughly translates into the following: "I am not really interested in you. But, at times I still get horny and you are safe for that. And, there maybe other times I need a companion for social events and you are still somewhat presentable. It's not you, but it's me, I don't like to be alone, and I will continue to string you along until I find someone else. Oh yeah, there is nothing you can do to change my mind."

this is the god's honest truth. i've been through this before . you cannot win, unless you walk away NOW. i wasted months of my life emotionally, you don't have to. she has someone else she's into and/or banging. there is no doubt about that, and you must accept that.

? wrote:

What she is saying roughly translates into the following: "I am not really interested in you. But, at times I still get horny and you are safe for that. And, there maybe other times I need a companion for social events and you are still somewhat presentable. It's not you, but it's me, I don't like to be alone, and I will continue to string you along until I find someone else. Oh yeah, there is nothing you can do to change my mind."

this is the god's honest truth. i've been through this before . you cannot win, unless you walk away NOW. i wasted months of my life emotionally, you don't have to. she has someone else she's into and/or banging. there is no doubt about that, and you must accept that.

? wrote:

What she is saying roughly translates into the following: "I am not really interested in you. But, at times I still get horny and you are safe for that. And, there maybe other times I need a companion for social events and you are still somewhat presentable. It's not you, but it's me, I don't like to be alone, and I will continue to string you along until I find someone else. Oh yeah, there is nothing you can do to change my mind."

this is the god's honest truth. i've been through this before . you cannot win, unless you walk away NOW. i wasted months of my life emotionally, you don't have to. she has someone else she's into and/or banging. there is no doubt about that, and you must accept that.

Hey buddy...I think it's cool not only to hook up with two differnt girls on back to back night, but I think you should try to do that at least every weekend. Once word gets around that you are the hook up king ladies will seek you out. Girls get turned on knowing that other girls want you and have hooked up with you.

Hmmm if I were to use the "space" line... it would probably mean that I really do like you, but I see some problems about a serious long-term relationship with you. Maybe you are afraid of commitment, maybe you have a habit of starting things and not finishing them, maybe you don't have any ambition, maybe you are just not ready for the kind of relationship I want. I want it to work out, but I am beginning to think we are on completely different levels. I want time apart. If you put some effort into talking to me and finding out what I want, but without being pushy and defensive, things just might work out. You think the ball is in my court, but really, I am waiting to see what you will do.

"If you put some effort into talking to me and finding out what I want, but without being pushy and defensive, things just might work out."

This is DEFINITELY a woman saying this, and she is testing to see if you have a spine. It is the bait- comply and teh trap is sprung. You are then condemned to p****ydom forever, and she will either dump you completely or play with your mind for however long it suits her (i.e. she meets a man w/ a spine).

The other advice in this thread is spot on.

She's dumping your ass.

Sorry, she is. Thats that.

I'm very independent, like many guys I suppose, so I THINK that often, but I only say it when I'm mad at someone (I love) and expect him to prove me wrong--a test, yes.

Also, if you love someone, shouldn't you be a little bit patient? Emotions and desires are complex, and vary from time to time. Go with the tide.

The best is to go on with your life thinking she's away on vacations. In the best-case scenario, after a while she will miss you, see that you're strong, call you back, and you'll have something new and better.

Best of luck.

Tyrone Shoelaces wrote:

Wow I wish I would have read this thread about 6 months ago.

Whatever you do, you better not have any hopes that this girl has any strong romantic feelings for you. Like someone said, she likes you around sometimes when no one else is available and will screw you but more than likely right now she is all over some other guy and is afraid to confront you about it and deal with your reaction.

If you have strong feelings towards her the best thing to do is immediately stop seeing her. If she calls you everynow and then have a nice conversation but don't call her, ever. The sooner you forget about her and get over her the better.

Tyrone, in the pitts of despair, the Steelers save the day. All is well.

let me one up you... heard the same story from my girl... got diched for her ex of 6 years... now shes back calling me looking for some lovin' this sunday... been back with the ex since jan... should i hit it or what (i miss her). on a side note i am surpised with the boys who have responded so far... good advice... didn't know that you runners actually have some game...

just f*** her best friend and see what happens.

I f***en love this post.

This is like being told you have three weeks to live... what would you do. There is NOTHING you can do to destroy this relationship becasue it is already dead, just playing itself out. Now is the time to ask her for a threesome and try every other nasty fantasy you have but have not indulged due to the worry of getting thrown out on your ass. You have already been thrown out on your ass, you just haven't landed yet, so you might as well njoy the ride and control the crash.