Tiff asked: 2) When did you start strengthning the inner thighs - I have been doing the ab/adduction exercises but they don't get at it very deeply. There are some Pilates exercises where you lay on your side and lift the leg up - but I am afraid to try it yet.
I'm not sure exactly which exercise you are referring to, but I have tried the one in this video for inner thigh and adductor. I didn't have much pain with it so I started it about 3 weeks post surgery. Additionally, I have a modified version with knees bent, feet on the ground with a 3/4 deflated soccer ball where you squeeze your knees together. This can be done with a pillow also, but not quite as effective. Hopefully, that is less confusing than the email I sent you on the hip flexor stretch. http://www.netfit.co.uk/fitness/exercises/hip/inner-thigh-toning.htm