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RE: Post-nuptial shutoff?

Girl Next Door wrote:

I know some people won't like hearing this, but its true: Women don't want to have to tell men what to do to make them happy. They want the men to think of it themselves - that is what shows the woman that the man really cares. Otherwise, every time he does it, in her mind she will think: "He is only doing this because I asked him to."

Then find a mind reader to marry or else come to your senses and tell your husband....particularly if it involves assisting with housework. If it's an issue in you being romanced you may have to drag that out of him also.

I know some of you will scream that this is just a stupid game or something, and maybe it is, but that's the way nature set it up. You've got to work hard to create a valuable relationship.

You are absolutely right. You do have to work hard and you don't appear to be doing so by simply accepting the fact that your husband doesn't know what to do yet you won't tell him.

Frankly....that's pretty stupid....or you really don't care.

Also, the idea that "shutting-off" is about a woman trying to control a man is wrong. They are shutting off because they are not aroused. For a woman to have sex when she is not aroused can be a degrading experience for some women.

I agree but you don't seem to be doing anything about it.

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