the reason that no one writes about how to please your woman is because it is much more complicated i think and varies considerably from woman to woman (hence the need to COMMUNICATE) men are fairly straight forward in how to turn 'on'
she comes first was a decent attemt, if you really don't want to communicate at least pass him that book
[quote]Girl Next Door wrote:
I know some people won't like hearing this, but its true: Women don't want to have to tell men what to do to make them happy. They want the men to think of it themselves - that is what shows the woman that the man really cares. Otherwise, every time he does it, in her mind she will think: "He is only doing this because I asked him to."
I think you have a very good point and goes back to my statement about how sesitive men are about not feeling like they are the best lay you've ever had. how many guys can honestly handle "that was okay but i'd like to do more of yyy" and not feel lame?
...and how many women, who were conditioned to think that they aren't supposed to want and enjoy it like men do feel comfortable with providing feedback??
and you wonder why there is a shutoff?
Every cosmo/glamour headline has something to do about what women can do to turn their men on. So let me get this straight, women are supposed to read magazines and try out new ideas and ask for feedback while men are supposed to get an instruction sheet from their woman that they really don't want to read because "why would *i* need instructions"?
i would bet that there are magazines that men can read, give the ideas a try ask for feedback it and be willing to accept an honest response and change things up. i think this is what GND is asking for and i would completely agree.[/quote]