It’s a tough dating world out there. Lots to navigate not a red flag to take into your 30s to figure it out.
It’s a tough dating world out there. Lots to navigate not a red flag to take into your 30s to figure it out.
areusure? wrote:
Grad school kid. I was finishing up my doctorate mid-late 20s and a golden rule is you don't marry during graduate studies!...either before or after but never during.
Why is that a golden rule? I got married during grad school; seemed to work out well enough.
flawed and happy wrote:
I was a late bloomer in any number of ways. I started med school at the age of 33, and had never had a serious relationship to that point. After starting school, I met (and subsequently married) an absolute stunner in my class who has turned out to be my perfect match in every way. If some kind of personality flaw is what led me to stay single as long as I did, I thank my lucky stars for that flaw, because things have turned out about as perfectly as I could have ever hoped. Of all the crushes, flings, and failed attempts of my 20s, there's not a single girl I think back on and say "man, I wish that relationship had worked out instead."
Being flawed is part of being human. It's unavoidable that we all have our "red flags." The point isn't to try to be perfect. The point is to figure out how to be happy despite our imperfections. I have my flaws and I've made my mistakes, but I don't really regret a thing because it's all lead to an absolutely wonderful life.
This post made me smile, thank you for sharing.
most of what people call "red flags" are just their own wildly exaggerated expectations that they will end up with someone perfect instead of a human. Which is to say, talking about red flags is itself a red flag. Someone so full of hangups they could never live with anyone long-term without benefit of professional counseling.
Generalisations like this have no meaning in real life. Plus even in this simplified cartoon world of yours, all the people with issues IN a relationship will shortly go through a gut wrenching divorce and then have to deal with their issues being divorced in their late30s/40s.
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A distance guy wrote:
ARSPEN wrote:
You must be broke. Or clueless. Or both.
Women flock to wealth. That has been happening since the beginning of time. It will never change.
This is why I prefer hookers. Cheaper, often safer, and much more honest for both sides.
Men don’t pay prostitutes for sex. They pay them to leave afterwards.
SpaRtaQQvLvSS wrote:
There is simply no way that mothers are truly the better parents 66-88% of the time.
You're right. It's probably closer to 90% of the time