Red flags in women?

That she has ever heard about LRC.

haz wrote:

22 year old here. What would you fellas say are red flags in a women you’re looking to date, or even be friends with?

If she doesn’t know when to use “woman” rather than “women,” it’s a big red flag.

Kind of depends on what you're looking for. For example, I like strong independent women. So if I had a date and she doesn't have a career or just wants to be a stay at home mom, then we're not having a second date. Meanwhile, some men want to have a stay at home wife. So it depends.

A few universal red flags though: shows up late (it means she doesn't respect you or your time), awkward conversation (aka conservation doesn't flow naturally), you disagree on whether or not to have kids, lack of compatability (I had a friend that worked 8am to 8pm Mon-Fri and his gf worked 6pm to 6am Mon-Fri).

Speaking of red flags: A guy who looks for dating advice on lrc would be a deal-killer for every woman I know.

robert678 wrote:

, you disagree on whether or not to have kids,

Yeah, that's always a good one to ask on the first date, just to clear the air.

If she has a bad attitude when you ask her what’s for dinner while she’s out mowing the lawn or shoveling snow or cleaning out the gutters.

Ivanka wrote:

robert678 wrote:

, you disagree on whether or not to have kids,

Yeah, that's always a good one to ask on the first date, just to clear the air.

I thought that was kind of obvious.

Veganism, excessive ink or boy-short hair.

Has had a lot of boyfriends and talks about ex “drama”. Has tattoos. Is very very good and uninhibited in bed (the batshit crazy ones always play this trump card up front). Doesn’t have close girl friends. Doesn’t get along with her mother and/or has a crazy mother

Any girl that has a fat mom is a no-no.

She will turn into an elephant, too.

Married/separated with children, smokes, lies and sends you to jail.

The strongest indicator for me as to whether a relationship will work out is what she reads. See what is on her bookshelf, if there is no stuff you'd find worth reading or no books at all, steer clear.

After that are your political and religious views compatible? For myself I'd consider trumpism or libertarianism big red flags for instance.

Finally not being over an ex. Does she keep pictures with an ex around or on her social media accounts?

Virginity.

Many people own books online or through kindle. I’ve got at least 100 downloaded. All of them read. Other hardcopies I’ve given away to charity. So I wouldn’t use books on a shelf as a criteria. I know folks who have books on shelf and have never bothered to read at least one of them. They are just for show.

haz wrote:

22 year old here. What would you fellas say are red flags in a women you’re looking to date, or even be friends with?

For me, it is a lack of a sense of humor.

They should have an easy, natural laugh and not be dependent on cues from you to laugh.

Ivanka speaking facts.

1) Daddy issues.

2) Serious tattoos / unnaturally coloured hair.

3) "Only friends with guys"

4) You can usually just look at her mom.

5) I immensely prefer people who can keep their composure publicly.

Tolstoy answered this in Anna Karenina.

Stay in your lane.

red flags include:

1) bad relationship with her family

2) little to no friends

3) large following on social media / uses tons of hash tags

4) smokes cigarettes

5) religious/closeminded (same thing)

AlmostBQ wrote:

haz wrote:

22 year old here. What would you fellas say are red flags in a women you’re looking to date, or even be friends with?

For me, it is a lack of a sense of humor.

They should have an easy, natural laugh and not be dependent on cues from you to laugh.

This, because different sense of humour will cause awkward moments

I remember dating a woman and watching with her stand up - comedian Pablo Francisco doing his impressions some twelve years ago.

Me:

She:

Didn't go well, but that she preferred "Friends" instead of "Frasier" was actually a red flag from the beginning.

Will be different for everyone. For me:

1) Into expensive accessories/depreciating assets/displays of wealth (bags, shoes, cars etc.)

2) Overly engaged with social media.

3) Inability to argue in a mature manner. Small issues go nuclear.