Can a coach date an athlete that attends a different college?

likely not covered by any policies (but would have to view the instition's policies to be suer).

Still a bad idea.

It's not a violation.

If the coach is 50 and the athlete is 20, its creepy.

If the coach is 25 but he asked the athlete out at after a meet, its creepy.

If the relationship is age appropriate and they met somewhere the coach wasn't in an official capacity, I don't see anything wrong with it.

It may or may not be creepy wrote:

It's not a violation.

If the coach is 50 and the athlete is 20, its creepy.

If the coach is 25 but he asked the athlete out at after a meet, its creepy.

If the relationship is age appropriate and they met somewhere the coach wasn't in an official capacity, I don't see anything wrong with it.

If male/female coach A coaches sport A at university A and meets male/female athlete B at university B who is on the sport B team it's probably not any type of violation. It could still be creepy if there is a large age gap between the two.

What happened that you can't get dates with attractive people your own age?

The University of Minnesota had this very problem not too long ago. However, though the female athlete was high functioning, there was something terribly off about her. She was always luring in older dudes in authority-like positions. Most recently she was engaged to a blind doctor. Not a doctor for the blind, a blind doctor.

Jamin's Tinder wrote:

Is there a violation if a coach works for college A but is dating someone from college B who is currently an athlete on a team?

Just quit with that. Super dumb to even want to or to do. Many relationships have ups and downs, but one that involves a coach and a college student, even if that college student is at another school, just invites criticism. Colleges don't want bad press. They will just get rid of a coach rather than deal with bad press. Speaks of immaturity for a coach to want to date someone in a different place in their life like that, and fairly or not, the coach will be harshly judged. People will say things like, "they might only be a year apart in age." Doesn't matter. Wait until the college student has graduated. Beyond stupid to consider this for anyone who values their job and reputation.

Who is to say the coach is always mature? Could be an older, smarter grad student and younger dumb assistant coach at another college.

I meant to say, "Who is to say the coach is more mature?"

You are just being argumentative. A graduate student is different than an undergrad, but it is still not a good idea and potentially injurious to a coach. Argue and rationalize all you want but it is not a good idea.

Happened at my school, one of the girls on our team was dating the coach from another local school (same conference actually). She was a senior in college and he was probably 27-28, not sure of his age exactly.

Nobody ever really thought it was that weird tbh, and besides people should just be able to do what they want

My friend revealed to me near the end of college that his uncle was a professor on campus. I asked what does he teach? He said history. I asked what his name was. Turns out I had this professor. This was interesting because having met my friend's parents my observation was they were "young 50s" whereas my former professor was 65-70. Turns out his "young 50s" aunt also had my professor.

Things happen.

Then there is the other scenario: Coach and athlete hook up right after they graduate. Is this the scenario of Wetmore/Borroughs?

Age gaps aren’t creepy for the most part, provided both parties are of legal age. There is a shortage of joy in the world. If a 40 year old wants to marry a 20 year old, more power to ‘em. With the divorce rate as it is, o one should complain.

just wow! wrote:

My friend revealed to me near the end of college that his uncle was a professor on campus. I asked what does he teach? He said history. I asked what his name was. Turns out I had this professor. This was interesting because having met my friend's parents my observation was they were "young 50s" whereas my former professor was 65-70. Turns out his "young 50s" aunt also had my professor.

Things happen.

Do you mean “had” in the Biblical sense? What?

There could be "violation" indeed. But, not of policies....

50yo coach with 18yo athlete...awesome! Go for it! Either way around (older F coach/younger M athlete or older M coach/younger F athlete).

I was implying that when my friend's aunt was in college she hooked up with her mid 30-something professor. They married after her graduation.

Question For You wrote:

just wow! wrote:

My friend revealed to me near the end of college that his uncle was a professor on campus. I asked what does he teach? He said history. I asked what his name was. Turns out I had this professor. This was interesting because having met my friend's parents my observation was they were "young 50s" whereas my former professor was 65-70. Turns out his "young 50s" aunt also had my professor.

Things happen.

Do you mean “had” in the Biblical sense? What?

Someonewhoknows wrote:

Lotsofpossibilities wrote:

Who is to say the coach is always mature? Could be an older, smarter grad student and younger dumb assistant coach at another college.

You are just being argumentative. A graduate student is different than an undergrad, but it is still not a good idea and potentially injurious to a coach. Argue and rationalize all you want but it is not a good idea.

I've seen women runners (or skiers) go right into being graduate assistant coaches. So you are saying that they need to dump their boyfriends because their boyfriends still have eligibility somewhere, such as having a year of eligibility in grad school because they used a redshirt as an undergrad? I'm not being argumentative (and it has nothing to do with me personally). You are saying it's always wrong, so I'm giving an example of why it isn't always wrong, and common sense can be used.

Mikeh33 wrote:

Age gaps aren’t creepy for the most part, provided both parties are of legal age. There is a shortage of joy in the world. If a 40 year old wants to marry a 20 year old, more power to ‘em. With the divorce rate as it is, o one should complain.

Yes. Also there is the gay marriage, and marry your Dolphin. And on it goes.

Nothing matters and what if it did?

Lotsofpossibilities wrote:

Someonewhoknows wrote:

You are just being argumentative. A graduate student is different than an undergrad, but it is still not a good idea and potentially injurious to a coach. Argue and rationalize all you want but it is not a good idea.

I've seen women runners (or skiers) go right into being graduate assistant coaches. So you are saying that they need to dump their boyfriends because their boyfriends still have eligibility somewhere, such as having a year of eligibility in grad school because they used a redshirt as an undergrad? I'm not being argumentative (and it has nothing to do with me personally). You are saying it's always wrong, so I'm giving an example of why it isn't always wrong, and common sense can be used.

Dude, there are always exceptions. Like how the town where your mother lives installed a new "no slut" rule, but she was already living there, so she was grandfathered in.