My husband spent 2.5k on shoes...

Is it a stress relief mechanism? Maybe something triggered this like a hard day at work, family stress, or another underlying issue.

Can you talk to him and say, “Let’s talk about these shoes.” Find if it made him happy or was an uncontrollable impulse. It will be an uncomfortable conversation for sure.

If you can’t talk to him about it or the answer is “my money, my choices” you’re prime candidates for marriage counseling.

Impulse control and emotional spending are going to be forced by external events or internals you can’t see. Could be as easy as a discussion to find the triggers or as deep as a depression he’s self medicating with retail therapy.

God bless to both of you and good luck !

maniparab wrote:

I come home this morning after a graveyard shift to a few shoe boxes scattered around the living room floor.

bruh and he didn't even deadstock them smh.

You know, it's usually the husband complaining about his wife spending too much on shoes. Equal rights and such, ya know?

maniparab wrote:

my husband used to collect sneakers but has stopped and only buys a pair every few months. He doesn't go crazy buying pairs and his collection is rather small now. He's sold a few of his "grails" as he calls it so we could put a downpayment on our house. We both work reasonable jobs and have enough to save and pay for the mortgage each month.

But seriously, something just clicked in his head and he apparently went crazy this weekend. I seriously cannot believe he spent that much on shoes. I come home this morning after a graveyard shift to a few shoe boxes scattered around the living room floor. I thought to myself, maybe he's getting rid of some more pairs and don't really give it a second thought.

Be thankful he doesn't have a Razor, or collect guns, or even into golf. Or that he doesn't spend $75 three nights a week drinking.

$2500 in one pop is a lot, unless he has been saving that money by himself specifically for this. I think if I spent that much on a whim out of "our" money, my wife would leave me. But I dunno.. there are definitely worse hobbies to have.

i'd probably tell him the shoes are fine, as long as 1. bills are paid and it's not causing financial stress, 2. he doesn't turn your house in a hoarding mess of sneakers, and 3. he can spend $X without discussing it with you first.. anything more and he needs to tell you. Be it $100 or $1000, whatever you think is reasonable.

2.5k on shoes might be just one pair.

If you get a good custom made pair of shoes it probably cost you that much.

But if you handle them well they will last for a little bit.

2.5K yen? Euros?

maniparab wrote:

my husband used to collect sneakers but has stopped and only buys a pair every few months. He doesn't go crazy buying pairs and his collection is rather small now. He's sold a few of his "grails" as he calls it so we could put a downpayment on our house. We both work reasonable jobs and have enough to save and pay for the mortgage each month.

But seriously, something just clicked in his head and he apparently went crazy this weekend. I seriously cannot believe he spent that much on shoes. I come home this morning after a graveyard shift to a few shoe boxes scattered around the living room floor. I thought to myself, maybe he's getting rid of some more pairs and don't really give it a second thought.

4/10

nice trolling

That's only 10 pairs of vaporflys.

Men don't wear shoes 0/10

Bro-sister, just be glad he didn't pull the trigger on the Pigeon Dunks he's been lusting for.

CosbyBabies wrote:

Is it a stress relief mechanism? Maybe something triggered this like a hard day at work, family stress, or another underlying issue.

Can you talk to him and say, “Let’s talk about these shoes.” Find if it made him happy or was an uncontrollable impulse. It will be an uncomfortable conversation for sure.

If you can’t talk to him about it or the answer is “my money, my choices” you’re prime candidates for marriage counseling.

Impulse control and emotional spending are going to be forced by external events or internals you can’t see. Could be as easy as a discussion to find the triggers or as deep as a depression he’s self medicating with retail therapy.

God bless to both of you and good luck !

Amén. You hit the nail on the head.

Maybe he was worried about the Next% being discontinued and wanted to stock up?

Sounds like a millennial problem. Only millennials have triggers.

comedyrelief wrote:

donyiyo wrote:

Amén. You hit the nail on the head.

Sounds like a millennial problem. Only millennials have triggers.

It's not the trigger you think of when you see a "trigger warning" or the obnoxious videos of people screaming they're being triggered.

An external stimuli can create a feeling of anticipation or anxiety in a person. For instance, when the boss calls you into a meeting with HR, or, if you're younger, the dread of forgetting to do a school assignment and realizing it in class.

I know you're being a joker but everyone has a moment where that "trigger" occurs and most of the time we can ride it out. Sometimes the feelings linger and build up to an unhealthy point and it manifests itself in different ways for different people.

You people are clueless. Sounds like he is investing in shoes, not buying them to wear. Those shoes may be worth $7,000. When he sells them, he probably won't claim the profit for his income tax. No different than buying and selling stock, gold or twitcoin.

Op, Do you have a clue what a real man can spend on his toys and other interests?

JosePublico wrote:

Op, Do you have a clue what a real man can spend on his toys and other interests?

Yea, I think if this is his only expensive hobby, then you’re good. At least with these shoes if he’s buying collectors items, at least it’s not going to plummet in value right away or need cost to maintain them except for storage space.

I think it’s quite normal for people to have expensive hobbies as I am really into cars and I would consider that to be much much more expensive. Also I have been into golf and cycling which are expensive as well. See, all of my hobbies, it’s expensive to get started and it’s expensive to maintain the hobbies! I have friends who are really into traveling and that is expensive but socially acceptable so no one says anything. Or, I have friends who are really into skiing which is extremely expensive with the gears, traveling, and time.