Harder consequences will just cause her to rebel against you. She's already rebelling so being more strict will make it worse. My take is you may not be home as much as you lead on. Perhaps she's just looking for attention by acting out. The list you made is a good idea in theory, but it sounds like you made the list for her to do alone. She wants her dad sitting next to her giving her attention and love. I know from the exact same situation. Life is hard. You work long hours and your kid wants your al your love and attention. Finding a balance can be extremely challenging.