I would slightly disagree. The disadvantages of being short, in my mind, FAR outweigh the positives. There are some positives:
- health and longevity. Still being hashed out, but in general shorter people seem to fair better and live slightly longer than taller people
-$$$: As a short person you just don't take as much energy to live. Food costs and other factors are a financial benefit.
Ofc, these are silver linings and refer to my opening line here for overall take. Pivoting away from that, you realize, right now, that you are putting yourself in a position of "I'm right, and if you disagree with me you're lying"?There isn't much point of having a conversation with someone who is going to believe what they want to believe.
As for your videos, that's women saying what they "want". I don't really care if women say that won't date a man under "5'10" or under "6'0" when I've never had an issue getting dates with women of all heights. Maybe (okay, definitely) I could have done even better if I was 6" taller. But, that's never been an issue. I've never been like "damn, dating is so hard cuz I'm short". It's always been "I'm very satisfied with my dating life".
That's the crux of why I say it isn't an issue. I'm not saying it isn't a disadvantage. I'm saying it's not enough of a disadvantage for me to notice it's impacted my life in anything but minor ways, and I'm very, very satisfied with my life. Height is NOT a barrier to that, save for having some crazy ambitious goals in life wanting to be well inside the top 1% in major life categories...and even then we can point to examples of shorter people (Cruise, Harrington, etc.) that are among the social elite, despite of their height.
I somewhat stated it above, but yes, height matters. You're not wrong. In my opinion it's just that most of my fellow short guys get this idea that height is a BIG deal. It just isn't. Especially if you're decent looking. Short and average or below average attractiveness definitely starts to become a pretty big handicap. Perhaps that's why I find it less of an issue.
Again, I notice it the most with groups of people, especially guys, that I don't know. If it's me out, and I meet a group of 4 women, I still am generally taller than them and naturally have presence. That's different with a group of guys. It's more of a handicap there.
You can really look at this like having a VO2 max of 60 (6'0") versus VO2 of 45(5'6"). It's an advantage, perhaps even a significant one. But, if one trains works hard and develops other areas, they can easily outperform the more physiologically gifted runner. Having a VO2 of 45 precludes you from being in the top 1 % of runners, it's true. You'll never run 15:00 or probably even 17:00 with that. But, you can absolutely run 20:00 and be in the top 10%.
When it comes down to it, top 10% is pretty damn decent in life terms. That's a well above average wife/husband, 120k a year HH income, respected as a competent employee at your job or career, etc. Height, however, is much less a determinant of any sort of success in life than VO2 is in running, so the picture looks even better than the above. Moreover, we can find successful short people in all aspects of life: there are short guys dating elite women in society, short guys bossing it up as CEOs, short guys succeeding in (most) athletic endeavors, etc. By and large, they aren't even rare enough to be outliers.
On top of that, while being short is a disadvantage, so is everything else in life. Being below average in looks is a massive disadvantage, being lower IQ is a massive disadvantage, etc. Height is one of many factors in life that can help or hinder you. All but a tiny, tiny, tiny sliver of the population have strong traits and weak traits. The guy that's 6'3" might look decent but be of average intelligence. A guy might be smart and tell, but quite ugly. A guy might be tall, somewhat intelligent, and attractive, but struggles with being high inhibition and lacking confidence as a result, etc. Almost nobody has it all.
Height is one of my weaknesses in that sense, and in my mind it's by far the most minor "curse" to bear, at least at 5'8". Obviously, I'd be happy if I magically grew 5". But, again, I would NOT take a hit to attractiveness to gain height, nor would I take a hit to intelligence or almost any other trait I can think of to gain height.