OP here. This is my first post on this thread since the original. Have the mods check IPs if you don't believe me. We have done ugly sweater parties for as long as I've been here and this year they wanted to change it up. I'm not sure why everyone thinks it's weird. It wasn't. Over 40 people dressed up.
I ended up filing my own complaint. And like one poster said, HR is just there to keep from getting sued. They were not expecting me to fight back and were quite shocked by my filing. We are meeting again next week and I'm guessing they will drop it.
My complaint was two parted. The first part was that nobody at work should be asking me what I wear to bed and the second part was about the company turning something non-sexual into something sexual and making me very uncomfortable at work. :)
So pissed at this chick though. I can't wait until summer time. I always see her walking her dog while I run. I'm going shirtless in 2" shorts every day and giving her the "I sleep naked" smile every time we pass.