Dating someone who doesn't exercise

Take your pick between:

A fit looking non-exerciser

A somewhat fat exerciser

Personally I go with the more active one.

relatidkjf wrote:

Take your pick between:

A fit looking non-exerciser

A somewhat fat exerciser

Personally I go with the more active one.

This basically does not happen. Especially not over time. In twenties, and a little into thirties, sure. But move beyond that and when kids and life stress ratchet up and you're not going to stay fit as a non exerciser.

Very, very, very few people have the kind of quality diet to make a sedentary lifestyle not blow them up over a few decades.

Now, if by non exerciser we mean someone who is active, maybe walks or hikes regularly, does some more physical work for job or around the house/yard...that might be a little different, but I would still class all those things as exercise.

sbeefyk2 wrote:

I mean define exercise. Some women only do yoga and have perfect bodies. I wouldn’t consider yoga exercise but it clearly keeps women fit. In my experience of course.

I think there are two distinctions here. First and foremost is sedentary vs active. Yoga is definitely active, and if you're doing stuff like that on a regular basis, and aren't generally sedentary you can be pretty healthy, especially if diet is of good quality.

Sedentary is always a disaster. It's guaranteed blow up, guaranteed health problems, etc. I think truly sedentary is pretty difficult for anyone who is athletic to be with long term for a variety of reasons.

The next part is what you're getting at by active, which I think you are using as in "vigorous physical activity". Unless it's really important for you to actually be able to run/train with your partner, I'm not so sure this is critical. The possible exception here is that a person who doesn't train might have a harder time understanding why you want to devote 10-15 hrs/wk to training, and it might bother them you don't spend time with them or on other things they see as a priority. Someone who also trains is unlikely to have this problem.

I found it best to date someone who looks good and does not exercise.

As life goes on, you have less time to exercise.

Those that do it often now and then stop, really blow up.

Star wrote:

I found it best to date someone who looks good and does not exercise.

As life goes on, you have less time to exercise.

Those that do it often now and then stop, really blow up.

Good advice.

The the OP, Assuming you are dating to eventually get married or have a kid ...... how much your partner exercises has about as much importance later in life as their ability to play the cello.

For me i know that I am a very active person. from running, biking, mtn biking, climbing, or really anything to get out of the house. I have found that the quality that stands out to me the most is not performance but more so just being willing to try.

I dated and married a non-exerciser...

My husband hates exercise, but in addition to being lazy he is super CHEAP. So he cycles and walks everywhere--both things he does not consider to be exercise. And if you ask whether these things are exercise he will say no and he wants no part of this exercise. Even if we go on a 100km bike ride he will not allow me to wear work-out clothes because he doesn't consider it exercise... and considering his shape at the end of a big ride, it doesn't look like he exercised at all-just like he was out for a five minute walk.

You can be fit and not exercise, You can be even fit enough to match a marathoner and not exercise. It's called an active lifestyle.

It's ridiculous because now that I consider his level of fitness the baseline, I'm surprised that some people I know who "exercise" are out of breathe after walking for twenty minutes. That being said, I already lose my mind with people who are quite slim and seem to exercise and can't even walk for twenty minutes, fitness levels and a desire to live a active life are more important than commitment to exercise.

Fitness and well being can be

It's not that bad. No injuries until my 50's (out for two months) and 60's (out for 3 months), both times I just did other exercise and my own PT. Hardly miserable, it's great being fit.

blarf wrote:

Star wrote:

I found it best to date someone who looks good and does not exercise.

As life goes on, you have less time to exercise.

Those that do it often now and then stop, really blow up.

Good advice.

The the OP, Assuming you are dating to eventually get married or have a kid ...... how much your partner exercises has about as much importance later in life as their ability to play the cello.

No offense but it sounds like you're both married to couch potatoes and are trying to convince yourselves it's not that bad.

Pretty much all young people I encounter at least pretend to exercise. Most of them don't exercise enough, but I don't know where you would find someone who openly doesn't exercise. That's practically like being a smoker in 2019.

Slob out on the couch every day scratching my arse wrote:

I don't like to date runners who considerably overestimate their running talent.

I don't think I could do this.

I thought the same thing.

Markmiles wrote:

Don't think I could do this.

As a runner of considerable talent I'd get far too annoyed going out with someone who slobs out on the couch every day scratching their arse.

No.

Even if you are not a runner with considerable talent (which we really couldn't care less, but you needed the ego boost, right?) it is not a good idea. She will think you are a freak, an addict, a fanatic, an exercise junkie, etc. Story of my life since '92.

Your husband doesn't allow you to wear certain clothing?

You should be more concerned about figuring out what is causing anal itching.

Markmiles wrote:

Don't think I could do this.

As a runner of considerable talent I'd get far too annoyed going out with someone who slobs out on the couch every day scratching their arse.

No.

It goes beyond this. I've been thinking for awhile now that physical fitness is a proxy for the personality trait conscientiousness, basically one's proclivity to be productive and orderly. I have found that people who are highly fit are also typically very good at getting other things done in their life, and usually (not always) people who never want to work out are pretty bad at getting things done in their life and are more prone to make excuses and enjoy sitting around wasting time. Not being productive in some way for very long drives me nuts, so this is a very important personality trait for me and one I have thought about a lot. It's not just about physical appearance. It's about one's attitude in general and way they spend their time.

Read this post and thought it said could you date a girl who doesn’t exist and thought that this would be a very different thread. Was pretty disappointed not gonna lie.