why don't you want to date? is there something wrong with you?
why don't you want to date? is there something wrong with you?
what's the problem wrote:
why don't you want to date? is there something wrong with you?
Awkward runner boy was interested in her teammate, not her.
Viking21 wrote:
what's the problem wrote:
why don't you want to date? is there something wrong with you?
Awkward runner boy was interested in her teammate, not her.
So what's wrong with her teammate? Most XC runner girls are awkward and lucky to get a date.
Viking21 wrote:
If you read further into the thread, you will see that the OP revealed that the coach told the boy how to ask for a date, not how to get her to drop her pants.
If you read further into the thread, you will see that the OP revealed that the coach told the boy how to ask for a date, not how to get her to drop her pants.
You're way off base. Read the OP.
College runner girl wrote:
My coach helps the men on the team hit on the women on the team. He's telling them what to say and do in order to get in our pants. It's really creepy. This seems like some sort of sexual harassment to me. Is this something that should be reported to the Athletic Director?
Any coach who does that is way out of line, and should never be allowed to coach anymore.
Viking21, you and anyone else who tries to defend a coach like that is the ignorant POS.
Blah blah blah. Let’s talk in more extremes.
Read the OP wrote:
If you read further into the thread, you will see that the OP revealed that the coach told the boy how to ask for a date, not how to get her to drop her pants.
You're way off base. Read the OP.
College runner girl wrote:
My coach helps the men on the team hit on the women on the team. He's telling them what to say and do in order to get in our pants. It's really creepy. This seems like some sort of sexual harassment to me. Is this something that should be reported to the Athletic Director?
Any coach who does that is way out of line, and should never be allowed to coach anymore.
Viking21, you and anyone else who tries to defend a coach like that is the ignorant POS.
Histrionics and hand wringing aside, why do you automatically assume that there is a coach like that? The OP's own clarification seems to indicate otherwise. How about I accuse you of sexual harassment and demand that you be fired? You're obviously guilty. I said so. You should just quit your job to save everyone from your heinous behavior.
Read the OP wrote:
Viking21, you and anyone else who tries to defend a coach like that is the ignorant POS.
Plus, he screwed up the quotations.
If the coach is only giving dating advice to young men, I don't see the problem. Doesn't Steve Harvey have a whole shoe dedicated to this subject? Again, if it goes beyond just giving advice to young men advice on how to talk to women, than the coach should be reported. But if he is just giving them advice on how to talk to women, I don't see a problem.
I laugh at you. wrote:
eureka wrote:
Maybe you should dispense advice to the coach on how to behave himself in a professional setting around children.
Let's reverse the genders involved, ask the same question, and see if people have a problem with it. Would the grievance mongers advocate a female coach be hired for telling the shy women on the team what to text the men?
Um, I'd advise any coach (male or female) to behave professionally at all times. That includes NOT broaching subjects that might make others uncomfortable and being intuitive enough to know what may be a sensitive subject. It's called.... (drum roll).... EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. Something many of you are entirely lacking.
Viking21 wrote:
Read the OP wrote:
You're way off base. Read the OP.
The advice goes way beyond dating.
If the coach is actually doing this, then he should be fired immediately.
If you read further into the thread, you will see that the OP revealed that the coach told the boy how to ask for a date, not how to get her to drop her pants. Those are two entirely different things. I would not hesitate to give one of my boys advice on how to respectfully let a girl know he was interested in her. Unless you know what actually transpired, calling for the coach's head makes you look like a fool. Wait for some facts before throwing a noose over a tree limb. And to the poster calling for me to advise the coach on how to act around children, did you not see that the OP presents herself to be a college runner? I don't know how you define adulthood, but I was wearing a uniform and carrying a gun at their age. I doubt that dating advice would have significantly scarred my psyche.
It goes further too but I'm not going to get into more details for privacy reasons. The girls on the team feel betrayed by the coach that is supposed to be looking out for them. Coaches oftentimes know very personal details about members of the team that is being shared with the guys for horrible reasons.
College runner girl wrote:
My coach helps the men on the team hit on the women on the team. He's telling them what to say and do in order to get in our pants. It's really creepy. This seems like some sort of sexual harassment to me. Is this something that should be reported to the Athletic Director?
Any Title IX director that heard of this happening would be FURIOUS. It's definitely crossing a line.
College runner girl wrote:
Viking21 wrote:
You're way off base. Read the OP.
The advice goes way beyond dating.
If the coach is actually doing this, then he should be fired immediately.
If you read further into the thread, you will see that the OP revealed that the coach told the boy how to ask for a date, not how to get her to drop her pants. Those are two entirely different things. I would not hesitate to give one of my boys advice on how to respectfully let a girl know he was interested in her. Unless you know what actually transpired, calling for the coach's head makes you look like a fool. Wait for some facts before throwing a noose over a tree limb. And to the poster calling for me to advise the coach on how to act around children, did you not see that the OP presents herself to be a college runner? I don't know how you define adulthood, but I was wearing a uniform and carrying a gun at their age. I doubt that dating advice would have significantly scarred my psyche
You know what, you're their coach not their friend, not their confidant, not their therapist, not their parent. You are being paid to coach not to advise them on dating matters. Now, if you want to offer dating advice by all means go out and get yourself a job as a dating coach. if not, shut up and focus on their athletic training.
eureka wrote:
College runner girl wrote:
If you read further into the thread, you will see that the OP revealed that the coach told the boy how to ask for a date, not how to get her to drop her pants. Those are two entirely different things. I would not hesitate to give one of my boys advice on how to respectfully let a girl know he was interested in her. Unless you know what actually transpired, calling for the coach's head makes you look like a fool. Wait for some facts before throwing a noose over a tree limb. And to the poster calling for me to advise the coach on how to act around children, did you not see that the OP presents herself to be a college runner? I don't know how you define adulthood, but I was wearing a uniform and carrying a gun at their age. I doubt that dating advice would have significantly scarred my psyche
You know what, you're their coach not their friend, not their confidant, not their therapist, not their parent. You are being paid to coach not to advise them on dating matters. Now, if you want to offer dating advice by all means go out and get yourself a job as a dating coach. if not, shut up and focus on their athletic training.
I am not the coach in question here. If the coach we are talking about is going beyond offering respectful advice to his boys, the situation must be resolved. We currently have vague insinuations from one anonymous poster. If she is serious and her teammates concur, they have a channel to deal with the matter far more effectively than a bunch of indignant and uninformed keyboard activists. As far as my coaching, if my kids need a confidant or advice on a matter in which I have experience, I'm going to do my best to be there for them. I make a point of caring about the whole person and not just the athlete. Your methods may differ.
Viking21 wrote:
I am not the coach in question here.
You appear to be doing the same things as a coach, so you might as well be him -- if you aren't.
Whatever ... wrote:
Viking21 wrote:
I am not the coach in question here.
You appear to be doing the same things as a coach, so you might as well be him -- if you aren't.
You know nothing about me or the coach in question. If he is doing what the OP claims, disciplinary action is warranted. Your willingness to convict on no evidence tells me all I need to know about you. And no, I have not done anything immoral in my coaching capacity.
Viking21 wrote:
You know nothing about me or the coach in question.
Wrong. We can see you for exactly what you are.
Viking21 wrote:As far as my coaching, if my kids need a confidant or advice on a matter in which I have experience, I'm going to do my best to be there for them. I make a point of caring about the whole person and not just the athlete. Your methods may differ.
So if your kids wanted to get in girl's pants, you'd tell them how to do it.
That is taking advantage of people, not caring for them.
Whatever ... wrote:
Viking21 wrote:
You know nothing about me or the coach in question.
Wrong. We can see you for exactly what you are.
Viking21 wrote:As far as my coaching, if my kids need a confidant or advice on a matter in which I have experience, I'm going to do my best to be there for them. I make a point of caring about the whole person and not just the athlete. Your methods may differ.
So if your kids wanted to get in girl's pants, you'd tell them how to do it.
That is taking advantage of people, not caring for them.
You are, beyond any doubt, a complete and total idiot. How dare you assume that I would commit an immoral act when you are the one willing to pass judgement on total strangers with absolutely zero knowledge on which to base that judgement? You, sir, are a dishonorable cad.
Viking21 wrote:
eureka wrote:
You know what, you're their coach not their friend, not their confidant, not their therapist, not their parent. You are being paid to coach not to advise them on dating matters. Now, if you want to offer dating advice by all means go out and get yourself a job as a dating coach. if not, shut up and focus on their athletic training.
I am not the coach in question here. If the coach we are talking about is going beyond offering respectful advice to his boys, the situation must be resolved. We currently have vague insinuations from one anonymous poster. If she is serious and her teammates concur, they have a channel to deal with the matter far more effectively than a bunch of indignant and uninformed keyboard activists. As far as my coaching, if my kids need a confidant or advice on a matter in which I have experience, I'm going to do my best to be there for them. I make a point of caring about the whole person and not just the athlete. Your methods may differ.
The girl didn't expose the school or the coach's name. It's not like she's trying to smear the coach's reputation on a public message board. She just wants to know if it's appropriate for her to take this matter to an administrator. A fear is reporting a coach for something and then the administration doesn't care and then you are retaliated against or your scholarship is removed. She is just making sure she isn't overreacting. But the consensus in this topic is that the coach is highly unprofessional and it's borderline sexual harassment.
Flounder wrote:
College runner girl wrote:
A guy was trying to think of what to say in a text message to my teammate to ask her out on a date. The coach actually told him word for word what to say in that text message to my teammate.
So what?
If this offends you then you’re gonna have a hard life.
1) It’s none of your business
2). There’s nothing wrong with what you said he did.
+1, great advice if this scenario was actually real, but it isn't.
This is a 3/10 troll that a bunch of thirsty white knights are falling for, nothing more.
I'm not assuming anything. Below is your direct response to my previous post.
Viking21 wrote:As far as my coaching, if my kids need a confidant or advice on a matter in which I have experience, I'm going to do my best to be there for them
. I make a point of caring about the whole person and not just the athlete. Your methods may differ.[/quote]
Therefore by your own words, if your kids wanted advice on how to get in girl's pants, you'd tell them how to do it.
Plus you keep trying to belittle the OP and cover up for the coach, because you likely do the same thing.
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