Forest Runner wrote:
Thank you to everybody who replied, I am unsure if I want to start a family she is probably leaning towards a yes, my main concern is with some previous girl friends i had a greater physical attraction i couldn't wait to get my hands on them not so much with this girl, but we are much closer in other ways and i don't know if this is something that should concern me or does the friendship and companionship better in the long run?
Those are issues that I dealt with through my life and, from my present perspective, would do things completely differently from an early age and all through my life. With age comes experience and a change in perspective.
Personally, the friendship and companionship are #1, how well you get along, can communicate, laugh and have fun together as well as being able to discuss serious issues, and be nearly totally compatible with everyday living.
With that being said, physical attraction is also very important. If there is none and it's going to get worse through the years, then that eventually would cause much suffering and destroy the relationship. Added in to this is that some people age quite well, and others completely fall apart and let themselves go. You can kind of tell which will be which by their personal habits, awareness and beliefs.
Keep in mind that whether you move in together or not, as long as you keep seeing her you're in the same situation that she is, i.e. you're not really available to form a close relationship with anyone else. Thus if you don't decide, then you are still with her, and the longer you're with her, the less and less chance there will be to form a CLOSE relationship with anyone else - because all of your companionship and friendship time is with her.
It's a tough decision to make. A really tough one, and I can't advise you one way or the other.