We give our in-laws $500-600 per month, should I say anything to my wife?

knox harrington wrote:

1) These are her parents, and they sound like pretty OK people. It's not like you're supporting a deadbeat cousin from back home or something.

2) This is 4 or 5% of your income. Would your lifestyle/financial well-being be much different without that expense? On the flip side, this money is probably a big deal to your in-laws.

3) Once you have that conversation with your wife, you may never put the cat back in the bag. Also, your wife's whole family would think very poorly of you (not sure if that matters to you).

4) Is supporting your parents really just something weird foreigners do? Many older people here can support themselves sure, but I wouldn't tell my parents to f off if they needed assistance, financial or otherwise.

5) Honestly, it sounds like you're just frustrated with the Greater Boston real estate market.

Great insight! That is all true.

ol yel fev again wrote:

I am hoping, for your sake, that your wife and her parents are Vietnamese. Vietnamese women are incredibly hard workers, tough as hell, smart, and really sexy.

If this is the case, just shut up and pay what you have to in order to keep your sweet little viet bouncing her buns on you.

Viet women also age really well, so you've got that going for you.

If she is NOT Vietnamese, and is from a war torn region such as latin america, Africa, or the middle east, then uh....damn, you done messed up, son.

I didn't want to give away too much info but this if an anonymous board right? Right? Yes you are correct she is Vietnamese.

1st world problems wrote:

ol yel fev again wrote:

I am hoping, for your sake, that your wife and her parents are Vietnamese. Vietnamese women are incredibly hard workers, tough as hell, smart, and really sexy.

If this is the case, just shut up and pay what you have to in order to keep your sweet little viet bouncing her buns on you.

Viet women also age really well, so you've got that going for you.

If she is NOT Vietnamese, and is from a war torn region such as latin america, Africa, or the middle east, then uh....damn, you done messed up, son.

I didn't want to give away too much info but this if an anonymous board right? Right? Yes you are correct she is Vietnamese.

That was my guess but I'm not sure about aging well if her mom is geriatric.

How would they be well off by going back to Vietnam?

Congrats bro, you've chosen wisely.

@Commie: when I say they age well, I mean they look 30 when they're 50.

At 70, who cares? Time eventually catches us all.

Most other cultures are obligated to care for parents until death. They came here on a leaky boat to give her daughter a better life and sacrificed everything, their daughter owes them her life.. 500-600/month is nothing

Commie Normie wrote:

1st world problems wrote:

I didn't want to give away too much info but this if an anonymous board right? Right? Yes you are correct she is Vietnamese.

That was my guess but I'm not sure about aging well if her mom is geriatric.

How would they be well off by going back to Vietnam?

Her parents grew up in a war torn country and worked in a factory in the states. Manual labor their whole lives and little to no healthcare. Her Dad was held prisoner inside a cage where he couldn't stand.

Commie Normie wrote:

1st world problems wrote:

I didn't want to give away too much info but this if an anonymous board right? Right? Yes you are correct she is Vietnamese.

That was my guess but I'm not sure about aging well if her mom is geriatric.

How would they be well off by going back to Vietnam?

By well off, I mean the US dollar is worth a lot more in Vietnam.

ol yel fev again wrote:

Congrats bro, you've chosen wisely.

@Commie: when I say they age well, I mean they look 30 when they're 50.

At 70, who cares? Time eventually catches us all.

You want to be geriatric at 70?

1st world problems wrote:

Commie Normie wrote:

That was my guess but I'm not sure about aging well if her mom is geriatric.

How would they be well off by going back to Vietnam?

By well off, I mean the US dollar is worth a lot more in Vietnam.

Can you just waltz back there just because the war is over and bring everything you gained after fleeing?

Commie Normie wrote:

ol yel fev again wrote:

Congrats bro, you've chosen wisely.

@Commie: when I say they age well, I mean they look 30 when they're 50.

At 70, who cares? Time eventually catches us all.

You want to be geriatric at 70?

Read my reply two posts above this. My wife grew up in USA with good healthcare and no manual labor, her parents did not.

They pay you $900 a month? They should be rent free bro.

You don't make 11gs, no, you and your wife do, so you are at her mercy. You don't have 200k in the bank, no, you and her do. So when you divorce and she hits you hard, you will be taking home nothing and you will have a negative or closed bank account.

No they pay the bank the mortgage. They don't pay me anything.

You don't make that wrote:

You don't make 11gs, no, you and your wife do, so you are at her mercy. You don't have 200k in the bank, no, you and her do. So when you divorce and she hits you hard, you will be taking home nothing and you will have a negative or closed bank account.

Not sure why everyone is predicting divorce. I haven't said anything to her about this, we are planning to buy a house and have a second child. She makes more than me so I guess I'd be the one getting child support/alimony?

1st world problems wrote:

You don't make that wrote:

You don't make 11gs, no, you and your wife do, so you are at her mercy. You don't have 200k in the bank, no, you and her do. So when you divorce and she hits you hard, you will be taking home nothing and you will have a negative or closed bank account.

Not sure why everyone is predicting divorce. I haven't said anything to her about this, we are planning to buy a house and have a second child. She makes more than me so I guess I'd be the one getting child support/alimony?

I predict that soon she will quit her job and then divorce your Azzz, and of course she will get alimony and child support, but not before she cleans out the bank account and gives it to her immigrant parents, who probably can't speak a lick of English.

I have never slept with a Vietnamese woman. What does she look like nude? I have seen pictures of naked Vitnamese women, so I find them hotter then American women and the good thing is they don't ask for much, and they are so grateful to be here. That means that they will do anything you want sexually. What is her number?

Be a man go in the other room and Bit*h slap her.Then call immigration on the parents. Have them deported ASAP! Preferably on that boat that came over with on. You could always just cut your nuts off and let her do whatever she wants, maybe bring other men over to pleasure her, since it's obvious you have no balls.

If you think you have it bad now, wait till the get a little older and have to go into assisted living or something like that. You're gonna be paying $4K minimum per parent...so you can pretty much say goodbye to your house dreams.

UrineTrouble wrote:

If you think you have it bad now, wait till the get a little older and have to go into assisted living or something like that. You're gonna be paying $4K minimum per parent...so you can pretty much say goodbye to your house dreams.

Isn't that something everyone has to deal with though?