Has my friend taken advantage of me?

Are you a woman?

No, I am a dude.

No....are you a woman?

I’m a dog owner and I always say thank you to my family or friends who dog sit while I travel for work. I pay them or gift them something nice and always say thank you.

Yes, he is taking advantage of you. Some people just don't mind asking others to do things for them, and this dude is one of those. He can take an Uber to the airport. He can put his dog in a dog boarding place when he is out of town. He's a cheap b@stard, so he's not going to give you anything. I would not do any more favors for him.

Your actions plus the tone of your post make me think you want to be more than friends with him.

You have expectations without communicating these expectations.

Perhaps you were people-pleasing. But you did not communicate Amy to get reimbursed in any way. You were expecting that he would intuitively grasp your expectations and satisfy them.

Now you have resentments

Just opt out of doing it in future, simple. Carry on the “friendship” as usual, there’s no need for this to be a big deal.

have you ever asked him to help you with stuff?

Ask him for all sorts of obnoxious favours. Make stuff up if you have to. He'll go quiet

Proust wrote:

You have expectations without communicating these expectations.

Perhaps you were people-pleasing. But you did not communicate Amy to get reimbursed in any way. You were expecting that he would intuitively grasp your expectations and satisfy them.

Now you have resentments

I agree with flagpole on this. He's the type of person who is self centered and just expects others to do for him.

You don't need to communicate that you expect appreciation for going out of your way to help him. A decent person would just figure that out on their own.

The only way to find out if he is using you is to ask him to do favors for you. If he baulks or find excused to help you then he is using you. If he is willing to help and expects nothing in return then he is just a friend. Friends often help each other out. It makes life easier.

The next time, just smile politely and tell him that you won't be able to take care of the dog because you have some personal matters to take care of (or whatever excuse you may come up with). Do this each time he asks you for a favor in the future. He'll get the point eventually. It's not lying because you probably really have personal matters to attend to but you're just too nice.

I had some friends like this years ago, when they went away on holiday they 'invited' me to stay at their apartment to look after their small dog, they billed it as a sort of vacation for me, have my friends over, go out etc when in reality all it was was me looking after their dog for free. I declined yet they couldn't seem to understand why.

He should get you a gift or some kind of token, you're saving him a lot of money by having the dog for 5-6 days. But that's not the point really, the point is you sound busy and stressed and don't have a dog yourself because you don't want the commitment, yet you help him out with his dog and he doesn't really seem to acknowledge it.

He doesn't really sound like a friend.

If you have to ask, you already know the answer.

Make a wager on your next tennis match: "Whoever cared for the other persons dog gets free dinner."

I would never ask someone for a ride to/from the airport, much less ask them to watch my dog, unless they were a very good friend. Even then, I would only go there sparingly unless the favors were regularly being reciprocated.

This person is lazy and they're using you. Don't me a doormat any longer and don't feel bad about putting a stop to it either.

Time to be honest with yourself about this relationship. Stop the petty whining, invite him for a sleepover, "litigate" him once in the evening, again in the morning, make him waffles, then send him home and tell him to never bring his dog back again.

Without even reading your post and looking at only the title, i’m Going to guess yes. If you’re looking for validation, the answer is probably yes.

So funny that you posted this — i just spent the morning deciding to throw an acquaintance overboard for taking, taking, taking, but never offering to give anything back.

To be sure, keeping score down to the penny, is weird. But there gets to be such an imbalance, that it’s really hard not to start thinking you’d be better off with him outta your life.

What i kinda came up with for my own situation, is that things don’t really need to be 50/50 on every single day of a friendship, but over time, they SHOULD get closer to 50/50. Someone who’s kind of a clod, and doesn’t try to think of things they can do for you, to repay your kindness, might need to be asked for some kind of return gesture.

Or, if you don’t want to verbalize it, just cut your losses and don’t bother with him anymore.

Lots of people give freely, until they realize that they other person doesn’t do any gestures of appreciation. And, yes, i think it is still called “giving freely” when you assume that the other person will keep you in mind when the opportunity for a kindness in the other direction, occurs to them.