WinnytheBish wrote:
Dang, this had the potential to be a good thread until these crotchety old men went on weird anti-millennial diatribes. Guess what guys? These millennials that you hate are no different than the emo kids you used to rip on in the 80s for listening to Joy Division. Nothing has changed, everything is the same.
you are what... about 26 I'm guessing? How exactly are you qualified to compare generations?
traumatizer wrote:
Truth is Here wrote:
You went on a long homophobic rant in front of your gay roommate, huh?
Ha, no. Apparently I foster an environment of class toxicity or something like that. This is strange to me, because my family is firmly middle-class. But the complaint is basically that I tend to one-up things that he's doing. Like if we're having a party and he's buying cheap beer, I'll say "cool, you get that beer and I'll get a case of something else," then I'll get something a little better. Or if he's in the process of buying some rusty, junky table from Craigslist to put outside on our patio, I'll say "hey, getting a table sounds like a good idea, but I'd rather just run to Target and get a new one," then I'll buy it since I'm the one who wanted the more expensive item.
Upon reflection, I don't think the criticism is invalid. What really gets me though is the hyperbole about being unsafe and traumatized. When we were at the store buying beer and I offered to buy something better, the dude could have just said "f#ck you, you can drink Yuengling like the rest of us," and that would have been the end of it.
You really don’t see how it could be more than just annoying, but disempowering and even emasculating to be around someone who always bests you? And it’s easy to say that he should have just said something to you about it, but that isn’t so easy if he feels that there is a power dynamic at play.
Try to empathize wrote:
traumatizer wrote:
Ha, no. Apparently I foster an environment of class toxicity or something like that. This is strange to me, because my family is firmly middle-class. But the complaint is basically that I tend to one-up things that he's doing. Like if we're having a party and he's buying cheap beer, I'll say "cool, you get that beer and I'll get a case of something else," then I'll get something a little better. Or if he's in the process of buying some rusty, junky table from Craigslist to put outside on our patio, I'll say "hey, getting a table sounds like a good idea, but I'd rather just run to Target and get a new one," then I'll buy it since I'm the one who wanted the more expensive item.
Upon reflection, I don't think the criticism is invalid. What really gets me though is the hyperbole about being unsafe and traumatized. When we were at the store buying beer and I offered to buy something better, the dude could have just said "f#ck you, you can drink Yuengling like the rest of us," and that would have been the end of it.
You really don’t see how it could be more than just annoying, but disempowering and even emasculating to be around someone who always bests you? And it’s easy to say that he should have just said something to you about it, but that isn’t so easy if he feels that there is a power dynamic at play.
good lord, I hope this is a troll or else we are all doomed.....
Time you looked in the mirror.
Try to empathize wrote:
traumatizer wrote:
Ha, no. Apparently I foster an environment of class toxicity or something like that. This is strange to me, because my family is firmly middle-class. But the complaint is basically that I tend to one-up things that he's doing. Like if we're having a party and he's buying cheap beer, I'll say "cool, you get that beer and I'll get a case of something else," then I'll get something a little better. Or if he's in the process of buying some rusty, junky table from Craigslist to put outside on our patio, I'll say "hey, getting a table sounds like a good idea, but I'd rather just run to Target and get a new one," then I'll buy it since I'm the one who wanted the more expensive item.
Upon reflection, I don't think the criticism is invalid. What really gets me though is the hyperbole about being unsafe and traumatized. When we were at the store buying beer and I offered to buy something better, the dude could have just said "f#ck you, you can drink Yuengling like the rest of us," and that would have been the end of it.
You really don’t see how it could be more than just annoying, but disempowering and even emasculating to be around someone who always bests you? And it’s easy to say that he should have just said something to you about it, but that isn’t so easy if he feels that there is a power dynamic at play.
If someone annoys you it doesn't make it justified to break a contract and cost the other person thousands of dollars.
If you have made yourself so fragile that someone buying better beer than you makes you feel threatened for your personal safety, you have emasculated yourself. the other person has ZERO to do with it.
not how it works, buckaroo wrote:
Try to empathize wrote:
You really don’t see how it could be more than just annoying, but disempowering and even emasculating to be around someone who always bests you? And it’s easy to say that he should have just said something to you about it, but that isn’t so easy if he feels that there is a power dynamic at play.
If someone annoys you it doesn't make it justified to break a contract and cost the other person thousands of dollars.
If you have made yourself so fragile that someone buying better beer than you makes you feel threatened for your personal safety, you have emasculated yourself. the other person has ZERO to do with it.
Sounds like you could use some sensitivity training.
'All he had to do was say f you'
Yeah, and then you'd be on here whining about your jerk roommate who said f you for no reason when you were just trying to upstage him and make him feel poor.
I can tell you're leaving out a lot of dikkish behavior on your part because you started the thread to be about 'this generation'.
If you were the honest type, you'd make the thread about your situation, and at no point would you suggest that all your roommate had to do was say 'F you'.
Also, "firmly middle class" is quite the douchey humble brag.
Why don't you brag about your 5k time being "firmly sub-25".
traumatizer wrote:
What does he mean when he says that he doesn't feel safe? Am I hurting him? Threatening him? Is he worried that I am going to steal from him? Nope. He doesn't feel 'safe' because he feels that he cannot "live his authentic self" in our current living situation, and this has been "traumatic" to him. And so he moved his stuff out while I was on a weekend vacation and told me that he will not be paying his share of the rent for the last two months of the lease.
What is it with my generation that makes people think 1) being uncomfortable is equal to being "unsafe," and 2) mild discomfort (of the sort that anyone experiences when living with another person) is tantamount to "trauma"?
Who’s the snowflake in this story? At least he left you with plenty of..........
WHINE!
Precious Roy wrote:
Nothing special about your generation. Roommates have been bolting on each other for generations. Only real difference is that Millenials were taught to share their feelings when they were kids. So, instead of making up a bunch of lies, your roommate is telling you the truth that he just doesn't want to be around you.
Exactly. I had it both ways early in my Las Vegas years. I loved out of one apartment when I saw that my roommate had a gun on his dresser. No chance I'm living with anyone stupid enough to own a gun. Then I had a roommate move out on me because he wanted to watch multiple hockey games every night in the living room. I told him there had to be more of a balance, that there was no reason he couldn't watch some of them in his bedroom and let me have the living room TV on those nights. He balked at that and we couldn't reach any type of compromise so he moved out, although we remained friends.
I just wanted to demonstrate there are countless reasons people don't fit well together. I own a 4 story townhouse right now and rent it out. My primary tenant is terrific. But she can't maintain a roommate to help split the bills to save her life. She'll be enthusiastic about someone then inevitably within 2 months she'll be calling me and rattling off the latest reason this one didn't work.
Moved out, not loved out. Although it was funnier the way I wrote it.
When I lived in the dorms there were two roommates that hated each other so much that they taped a "Do not cross" line down the middle of the room, I guess you could call my generation antisocial.
One of roommates was an ex-PVer that was so ripped that if you shot him with a dart gun when he was shirtless, the dart would actually stick.
shhh wrote:
Also, "firmly middle class" is quite the douchey humble brag.
Why don't you brag about your 5k time being "firmly sub-25".
Well I agree that this would be a strange humble brag, as it is not a brag at all. My point was that it doesn't make much sense for anyone to consider me to be a purveyor of classism, as I am not from an elite class at all.
The only thing I see out of the ordinary is you posting ONLINE about this. Complaining like a BETA male.
Real men from REAL generations don't complain on the internet like a nancy.
The dude doesn't like you, he left. Removing oneself from a unpleasant situation is totally natural.
traumatizer wrote:
What does he mean when he says that he doesn't feel safe? Am I hurting him? Threatening him? Is he worried that I am going to steal from him? Nope. He doesn't feel 'safe' because he feels that he cannot "live his authentic self" in our current living situation, and this has been "traumatic" to him. And so he moved his stuff out while I was on a weekend vacation and told me that he will not be paying his share of the rent for the last two months of the lease.
What is it with my generation that makes people think 1) being uncomfortable is equal to being "unsafe," and 2) mild discomfort (of the sort that anyone experiences when living with another person) is tantamount to "trauma"?
Maybe it's because you're a friggin weirdo!?
You probs bum raped him.
Truth is Here wrote:
Oh. Well in that case, I suggest you to sue him or at the very least tell him he's a huge pvssy.
WHen someone says pvssy, my feminist friend said to think, "Warm and moist." Seriously, why do you use a term for female genitalia to refer to weakness? Find a better word.
Let's guess what city this is happening in.
Any guess while I look up the IP?
traumatizer wrote:
Duhhh wrote:
Having a roommate sucks, but your financial condition may dictate it. Never take a roommate without putting his/her name on the lease too. That might cause some hesitation before abandoning a signed contract
He is on the lease, but being "jointly and severally bound" means that I'm better off just paying up.
Tell him that he needs to continue to pay his rent on the remainder of the lease unless he is able to find another room mate to take over that is acceptable to you and the landlord. Otherwise, you'll sue him in small claims court for breach of contract.
If you can't afford his portion of the rent, you may also want to tell him that, and that he'll be responsible for the landlord's costs and attorney's fees when he begins eviction procedures for unpaid rent.
Philadelphia is the winner.
traumatizer wrote:
Truth is Here wrote:
You went on a long homophobic rant in front of your gay roommate, huh?
Ha, no. Apparently I foster an environment of class toxicity or something like that. This is strange to me, because my family is firmly middle-class. But the complaint is basically that I tend to one-up things that he's doing. Like if we're having a party and he's buying cheap beer, I'll say "cool, you get that beer and I'll get a case of something else," then I'll get something a little better. Or if he's in the process of buying some rusty, junky table from Craigslist to put outside on our patio, I'll say "hey, getting a table sounds like a good idea, but I'd rather just run to Target and get a new one," then I'll buy it since I'm the one who wanted the more expensive item.
Upon reflection, I don't think the criticism is invalid. What really gets me though is the hyperbole about being unsafe and traumatized. When we were at the store buying beer and I offered to buy something better, the dude could have just said "f#ck you, you can drink Yuengling like the rest of us," and that would have been the end of it.
There's not many better beers than Yuengling
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