We've been talking about this particular trip for about two months and loosely talked about the dates, flight times, where we'd stay, etc. Everything seemed to be going well, and we seemed to be on the same page. Then, when it came time to actually book plane tickets, I showed the options to my gf to make sure they worked for her, and looking at the different options caused her to panic and her brain to short-circuit and go into this catastrophizing rant that made no sense and included her contradicting herself in multiple ways mere sentences apart. It actually caused us to have a big fight, and after having two days to calm down and reflect, we tried to book tickets again, and while it was successful this time, I'm realizing my gf cannot plan or make sense of what's in front of her when she's looking at flights. If there is not a flight that fits her preconceived ideal precisely, even if her ideal doesn't even match with what is possible in reality, she starts panicking and says none of them work and can't think clearly about really any of it at all. She couldn't even decide on her own that a 4 hour direct flight for $120 made more sense than one with a layover costing $230 with a 9.5 hour travel time.
This is our first trip together involving flying. It is already making me question whether I want to do it again. What's strange to me is that my gf is NOT stupid, and she has flown probably 30+ times before, so it's not like any of this should be new. I am trying to be understanding, but it is very difficult for me.
How does traveling planning go with you and your SO?