My theory on why poor people are such notoriously lax parents

Possibly one of many reasons in a certain percentage of families.

People with such an immature mentality shouldn’t be haing kids.

Most poor people are poor due to a low IQ and laziness. Being lazy and having a low IQ results in bad parenting.

Yes, clearly you are a very amateur sociologist. If you'd written something like this as a class assignment and I was feeling really charitable you might have lucked into a D-.

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Former sociology prof wrote:

Yes, clearly you are a very amateur sociologist. If you'd written something like this as a class assignment and I was feeling really charitable you might have lucked into a D-.

A smug liberal arts professor who grades subjectively. Imagine that.

how unusual wrote:

Former sociology prof wrote:

Yes, clearly you are a very amateur sociologist. If you'd written something like this as a class assignment and I was feeling really charitable you might have lucked into a D-.

A smug liberal arts professor who grades subjectively. Imagine that.

Unlike the OP's post which is not at all smug or subjective, eh? After all he's got really well documented examples there of actual poor people who are notoriously lax parents and how that population compares to notoriously lax parents who aren't poor. And he shows conclusively that poor black parents are strict. Well, he probably knows all that stuff even if he doesn't bother using it to form an opinion.

Poor people are generally poor because of low IQ. I used to think it was something else but they're not wired for the modern world.

Even as a third grader, I didn’t think the kids that had no bedtime or didn’t have to brush their teeth were cool. I felt sorry for them.

It’s all about habits. People with good habits (studying, doing homework, getting enough sleep) are destined to be more successful. People without these habits won’t be, and they certainly won’t figure out how to pass said habits into their kids.

If you make the poor choice of having a kid you can’t afford to raise you’ve started out on a path of poor parenting choices.

My theory is even better wrote:

Most poor people are poor due to a low IQ and laziness. Being lazy and having a low IQ results in bad parenting.

Poor people are mostly poor because their parents were poor. The most reliable predictor of how much money you'll make in your life is how much money your parents made.

Debs wrote:

My theory is even better wrote:

Most poor people are poor due to a low IQ and laziness. Being lazy and having a low IQ results in bad parenting.

Poor people are mostly poor because their parents were poor. The most reliable predictor of how much money you'll make in your life is how much money your parents made.

IQ is mostly genetic, so ....

Their parents were poor because they were dumb and they passed on their genes.

Interesting take and I actually think its pretty accurate...Rich people buy kids stuff, poor people let them do whatever, and most middle/upper middle class families are a bit controlling because they want their kids to grow up to be "successful". None are optimal and I'm glad my parents didn't care if I was cool or not.

As someone who is nowhere close to being a parent, I think that parent's should generally err on the side of too lax over too controlling. Your kid will probably "figure it out" in enough time and still have fun and cool experiences through their childhood.

IQ is mostly genetic wrote:

Debs wrote:

Poor people are mostly poor because their parents were poor. The most reliable predictor of how much money you'll make in your life is how much money your parents made.

IQ is mostly genetic, so ....

Possibly. There's some correlation that's been established but the extent hasn't ever been established. But genes aren't determinant. They respond to environmental stimulation and produce the behaviors that we attribute to them. Environments that poor people live in are less likely to produce those sorts of stimulation. And none of this addresses the role having connections plays in all of this.

I also think poor people don't understand the importance of having connections in the working world.

I also feel that is why successful popular kids in HS do well later in life--not the stereotypical dropouts and losers later on--is because they know how to form connections and be successful. That is why they mainly go to frats and sororities and get connected, then are wealthy after college due to good connections and networks.

I think being poor is a combination of a few things w/in your control and not in your control.

1) Having poor parents.

2) Having kids when you're not ready.

3) Not valuing education.

4) Not being connected to the right people.

My theory is even better wrote:

Most poor people are poor due to a low IQ and laziness. Being lazy and having a low IQ results in bad parenting.

Remind me who just got caught bribing and cheating their way into elite colleges, rich people or poor people?

Debs wrote:

IQ is mostly genetic wrote:

IQ is mostly genetic, so ....

Possibly. There's some correlation that's been established but the extent hasn't ever been established. But genes aren't determinant. They respond to environmental stimulation and produce the behaviors that we attribute to them. Environments that poor people live in are less likely to produce those sorts of stimulation. And none of this addresses the role having connections plays in all of this.

Sorry, not sorry. Just like height, athletic ability, the color of your eyes, skin and hair etc. your intelligence is largely genetic base. There's a reason the average IQ in Japan is 106 and the average IQ in Africa is 60. There's a reason why Europe was sailing around the world starting in the 1400s, yet people in Africa were still living in mud huts. Sure environment plays a small role.