PooPooGarbo wrote:
I have a gf that I have dated for 2 years and things have gone well. However, I am a semi-pro runner who has aspirations to be able to go pro one day and support myself through running. Throughout the 2 years of us dating everything has been great, lots of fun dates, laughter, and sex. However, over the last 6 months, I have ramped up my training and have become obsessed with running. She has distanced herself emotionally from me and cut off sex. When I ask her why she says I care about running more than her. And has given me an ultimatum, either choose running or choose her. She is giving me 1 week to decide.
I know this is kinda vague info, but does anyone have any advice or experience with this type of situation?
All joking aside, the situation sounds rough.
If you're at that level, you were clearly running a lot when you began dating. Relationships like some noted are a lot of give and take, but if this is all 100% accurate, I'd seriously consider if this is the ideal situation for yourself, running and relationship wise. IF there is a true imbalance of your life outside of running, you are most likely better off single for the time being focusing on that goal until you are comfortable with your overall position in life. Are you 34 or 24? Big difference with the reality of what your chances are.
Outside of our LRC and running community bubble, to a non runner, going out for a 5 mile run at sunrise is bizarre, but to a lot of us here, that's just a normal day or even a warm up for some. If your spouse/gf/whatever doesn't run, then your 90 mpw is absolutely insane.
Go with what makes you happy in life, with no worries of what the outcome might be. Wanting to continue pursuing that goal surely won't come with her support. Keep that in mind.