Trouble with women or just very introverted

Non-Running Relationships/Women/Men

5 years ago 02/16/2019 12:32am EST

I'm now approaching my mid 30's.

Never have had a serious relationship or girlfriend.

Have slept with more than 10 women.

Don't hate women, don't think I misunderstand them.

I realize they are emotionally driven.

Wouldn't say I'm an unconfident man.

But, I don't see myself going to the mall and approaching random women

and engaging them in conversation.

I'm confident in myself and while I'd like some kind of relationship,

putting myself out there like that does feel a bit unnatural.

Have experience doing that - probably have approached 50-100 women in my lifetime.

Gone on dozens of dates.

Very introverted and have autism diagnosis.

My conclusion is that some guys are just good with women, naturally.

Some guys aren't.

I think I'm somewhere in the middle and the fact I'm quite introverted doesn't help matters.

5 years ago 02/16/2019 12:40am EST

re: honestthoughts

I'd do a google search for "dating with autism" or something. Read some articles and maybe some autism forums to see what people's experiences with dating have been.

5 years ago 02/16/2019 12:46am EST

re: honestthoughts

First of all you're still very young; you got lots of time to enjoy relationships, Relax. You do not have trouble with women, based on what you say. You're issue is that you need to go out on some more dates. Find something you like, like running, join a club, be part of something and you'll find women who are similar in the right ways. Most people find a special someone eventually. Getting out there is key. Nothing will happen if you stay at home.

5 years ago 02/16/2019 12:48am EST

re: esdfgsdfgsdf

Have read a lot of autism related readings. I'll pass thanks.

My experience is simply that I don't have to prove anything to myself by going

up to that hot woman and conversing with her. There is no fear there. Been there, done that.

It's more about finding common interest and someone who I can get along with.

I'm not a saint either, I admit.

Thought I'd connected with someone. Even recently they sent me a valentines card via email.

Being frustrated, I told them to f themselves. Just very frustrating for me at times to be friendly

to someone I actually have valued and cared about, given my history with them. I've just been tired

of being the guy on the sidelines and always by myself. And constantly re-engaging them.

I just want to be accepted for who I am, as anyone does. Telling someone off who is nice to you is no way

to win them over. I am just a very angry guy at times because I think about my past and how difficult things have been.

Hard for me to accept someone into my life.

5 years ago 02/16/2019 12:51am EST

re: honestthoughts

Yeah Valentine's Day triggered this whole line of thinking, making you feel left out for not having a Valentine. Give it a week and these feelings will pass, for the most part.

Feeling like you're on the sidelines isn't reason to get into a relationship, especially with a woman.

5 years ago 02/16/2019 7:10am EST

re: honestthoughts

Compared to jamin you are a stud. That should make you feel good.

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