Would you rat out a cheating friend?

They say... wrote:

They say who you keep as company reflects your values. So you condone his cheating by doing nothing. You're as big a scumbag as him. You will suffer a similar fate by his hands someday.

+1

Regardless of what you do, if you do tell the wife make sure to tell your friend what you did and why. Own it.

Also to the people here getting very defensive: wow. You all have a very tribal outlook on life.

Mehbe wrote:

Regardless of what you do, if you do tell the wife make sure to tell your friend what you did and why. Own it.

Also to the people here getting very defensive: wow. You all have a very tribal outlook on life.

Pretty sure the wife already knows. She's the one getting railed.

Absolutely.

Why don't you just ask someone on here to send him a message?

The Original P.i.m.p. Baller wrote:

I would not rat him out. But the next time you see your other friend's wife you should launch into a happy rant about how great it is that they seem like a stable, loyal couple at a time when so many marriages end in infidelity and betrayal. Tell her that her marriage to your friend gives you hope that you can also find a great woman to stand by your side through thick and thin.

This would be a lot of fun to do.

nosnitch wrote: My good friend is single...

^ This is the absolute only fact you should be considering, period.

In fact, your subject is entirely wrong. Your SINGLE friend isn't cheating; the woman is the cheater. Your SINGLE friend isn't doing anything wrong. If you some other guy's wife wants to bang him, he's a lucky guy. The only problem would be between the woman and her husband. (And, incidentally, if the husband were to find out and get mad at the guy, then his perspective could not be more wrong.) You already said the two guys aren't friends, so there is no loyalty lost there.

Get off your moral high horse. Married people cheat. Single people have free reign. If you feel compelled to get involved, the wife is the only person you should be ratting out.

carmelo_anthony_the_real_1 wrote:

Snitches get stiches

Word get me locked up in the god damn pen

U kno what happen when i come out

Not the Guilty Party wrote:

nosnitch wrote: My good friend is single...

^ This is the absolute only fact you should be considering, period.

In fact, your subject is entirely wrong. Your SINGLE friend isn't cheating; the woman is the cheater. Your SINGLE friend isn't doing anything wrong. If you some other guy's wife wants to bang him, he's a lucky guy. The only problem would be between the woman and her husband. (And, incidentally, if the husband were to find out and get mad at the guy, then his perspective could not be more wrong.) You already said the two guys aren't friends, so there is no loyalty lost there.

Get off your moral high horse. Married people cheat. Single people have free reign. If you feel compelled to get involved, the wife is the only person you should be ratting out.

Nail on the head.

In any sceanario, I still tell. If all 3 of you were all friends and it happened, you don't hang with a dude who done that to another friend. It shows him for a snake that he is and you don't trust people who show their true colors like that.

You have a no lose situation here. It will hurt him at first to find out but he deserves more than a cheating wife in his life. It's best for everyone to know the truth especially your friend. There is no such thing as snitching when you tell your friends something, they are the people who matter in your life.

OP. Reading this thread should let you know how rare good mates are, do the right thing and quit trolling

Bands a make hoes dance wrote:

So if someone is complacent when they witness or know of abuse or rape

Neither of which have anything to do with this thread.

Cheating is spousal abuse and should be reported.

You're an idiot.

br43 wrote:

Yeah, I'm with the others. Keep your mouth shut. You may not realize it, but this happens ALL the time. Half the women in running club are cheating. It's a freaking cesspool, but I just shut up and run.

What's the club name? If not, what's the city?

agreewithyou wrote:

the real question here wrote:

Why are you so sensitive?

I had thought to ask same question, after I read. Maybe he is the best friend of OP, or she is the wife. Right ? Confession pls.

It's possible. Like I said, the running community is very small. Are these other people runners?

nosnitch wrote:

Last night I found out a good friend of mine was sleeping with another friend's wife. My good friend is single and he is not friends with my other friend, but they do know each other. My loyalty is to my good friend, but I think what he is doing is wrong. I told him that and said I thought he should stop. He said okay. Even if he does stop he already slept with her. I know if I was married I would want to know if my wife was banging some other dude. I'm so torn!

Sometimes situations like this lead to murder.

Stay away.

Ideally, you could confront the wife and encourage her to confess. If the marriage has any chance of staying together, your kind-of friend needs to hear it from her. I don’t mean blackmail, I mean you need to convince her that honesty is the best policy and that coming clean is in her and her family’s best interest long term.

Reconciliation is the goal wrote:

Ideally, you could confront the wife and encourage her to confess. If the marriage has any chance of staying together, your kind-of friend needs to hear it from her. I don’t mean blackmail, I mean you need to convince her that honesty is the best policy and that coming clean is in her and her family’s best interest long term.

Why bother? Once a cheater, always a cheater. Why bother? I do hope the guy figures it out and moves on.

What about communicating with the wife. Give her the option of confessing or else you will inform the husband.

She has 24 hours.

Alternatively, meet with the husband, and ask him this same question (You have a friend who is sleeping with another friends wife, what should I do?)

And whatever advice he gives, do that.

If he says he should inform the husband, then let him know that his wife is cheating. or if he tells you to stay out of it, then you can keep quiet.

Whatever happens from there is on him.

Not the Guilty Party wrote:

Your SINGLE friend isn't cheating; the woman is the cheater. Your SINGLE friend isn't doing anything wrong.

The single friend didn't say an oath, but he's still being a selfish POS by sleeping with someone who is married. Dump the "good friend" and tell the guy who's getting cheated on.

To everyone who's saying keep your mouth shut: are you honestly telling me that if that tables were turned, and you were being cheated on and a friend of yours knew it, you wouldn't want him to tell you?