Coach just told me i'm fat, what do I do?

sconehead wrote:

Some of us - not enough - are also saying it's harmful to say things like the above. Whether is a girl or boy.

Some of the a-holes on here are giving harmful advice and should get a kick in the nuts.

This really is the problem of your generation. You grew up with people telling you that words can hurt you and, so, words hurt you. I grew up in the "Sticks and stones can break my bones, buy names can never hurt me" generation, and those words were and adequate defense for millions of people against someone saying something mean to you. It may be too late for you and your ilk to change, but really really, you've been miseducated. Your generation has given mythical powers to uttered syllables. You have these truly alien sounding conversations about who called who an "N-word" in response to a "C-word." Do you get this? You are terrified of forming your mouth to utter sacred syllables. You all are really whacko but you think you're normal. I have no ill will towards you; in fact, I'd like to help you to get over this thing, but I get the sense that it's part of your operating system and can't really be removed. Trust me, you wish you were me. At least you need to prepare a few sticks or stones to get a rise out of me.

His coach said he was fat.

I say you are delusional.

If you choose to be harmed, I win.

Bruh chill. The coach didn't say fat, they said 'over race weight'. Its the coaches job to help the athletes, which includes discussions about their bodies.

Be a diplomat. Be courteous and polite and give reassuring words. Even if you don't agree with him, if you say something like the following, he will value you more for your sportsmanship and maturity, not just your light weight.

"Hey coach, I'll keep a watch on my ideal race weight and body composition, but I'm also quite sure to focus on proper training and having the right mindset. I'm just as determined to see myself succeed as you are. Thanks for the reminder and I'll do my best to balance out all those factors which lead to success."

You are clueless.

I am the same generation as the BroJos. I grew up in the 70s and 80s, after most people stopped saying the N-word, and before they started saying the C-word. It was a time before people hid in chat rooms & message boards to snipe at & harass at people they disagreed with.

If you said your words in person, I would not be harmed. You would be. Read Chaplinsky v. New Hampshire and learn why certain speech is not protected - because you'd be in for an ass-whupping.

Back to college coaching. Ever heard of John Gagliardi? He started coaching in the 1940s. Won almost 500 football games. Old school. No hazing. No screaming at players. No special diets.

Ever heard of Dean Smith? John Wooden? Bill Bowerman? They were teachers, mentors. No screaming, authoritarian, control freaks - that's old school. Your idea of the imagined past - as if you're descended from some stupid Spartan - that's delusional.

rracm wrote:

Bruh chill. The coach didn't say fat, they said 'over race weight'. Its the coaches job to help the athletes, which includes discussions about their bodies.

I think it's normal and healthy to put on weight in winter and lose it in spring and summer. There's plenty of time to do this, so a coach who understands this can say it in a helpful, non offensive way.

Bring a bag of cheetos to every practice and gleefully munch on them in front of your coach.

Sorry 'bout that previous post...

Chaplinsky v. NH is words. Words given value by some guy.

It's breath.

Vibrations.

I do understand that society thinks I am wrong and that there would be repercussions if I actually breathed the syllables, but that doesn't make words real.

You are still delusional. And your society is too.

I don't not understand what you are saying.

Your belief that words can do harm is the same belief that people have in paper currency... it's just a fiction that you (or your society) have chosen to believe. And it's fine. Whatever. But it's not real. Really. Why not just own it? Just admit that it's a fiction you choose to live by? We used to call it religion.