Told a female co-worker to calm down and everything would figure itself out -> NEARLY FIRED

Coopersville wrote:

Considering you posted the definition of condescending for all of us who aren’t as intelligent as you, I’m going to guess that she and your boss where spot on with their interpretation of the situation.

This post is hilarious because it's probably the most accurate thing ever posted to this board.

Well done, Coopersville.

keep mouth shut boys wrote:

Co-worker permanently lost the keys to her car which we needed.

I'm confused. Why would you need her vehicle to perform your job?

I don’t understand your assertion that everything will figure itself out. People figure things out. Things do not figure themselves out.

A situation is not a sentient being. How could it figure itself or anything else out?

You can't tell a woman to smile, calm down and you can't say, "Look ..... "

If you do, you're a condescending idiot mansplaining things.

In the meantime- a woman could tell you that they saw you running and your compression shorts leave nothing to the imagination and that's ok.

Coopersville wrote:

Considering you posted the definition of condescending for all of us who aren’t as intelligent as you, I’m going to guess that she and your boss where spot on with their interpretation of the situation.

This is a dead giveaway. Adults don't cite the dictionary unless they want to send a message about the ignorance of the person that they are communicating with. I hope you didn't cite the dictionary to your boss.

runn wrote:

In the meantime- a woman could tell you that they saw you running and your compression shorts leave nothing to the imagination and that's ok.

What a load of BS. You could absolutely get a female coworker in trouble for saying that if you wanted to.

I was more or less forced out of my job several years ago because a woman I barely even worked with repeatedly told my bosses she was offended by the way I talked. When I asked for specific examples either of things I had said to her or just things I had said in her presence, she did not have a single one but said just the way I talk in general. She then went on to say the tone in my emails was very offensive to her. Again, when asked for specific examples, she said something about my lack of exclamation points and smiley faces. The situation kept escalating and escalating to the point I thought I might be accused of a criminal offense, so I ended up leaving since I was getting less than zero support from my superiors. I found out later that this woman had had major problems with numerous people and at numerous places going back her entire life, contrasted to my nearly squeaky clean record and reputation. Didn't matter. I'm a man, and she's a woman, so I'm in the wrong 100% of the time.

I am fully aware of how outraged many people would be by my following statements, but the truth is, after this experience and several others like it that I either witnessed, heard about from close friends, or experienced again, I would never work with women again if I had that choice, nor would I ever hire a woman. If that sounds terrible to you, consider that the majority of women say they do not want to work for a female boss also, basically citing cattiness, backstabbing, sabotage, and gossip as reasons why.

To the OP, hope you learned from this. This is the world we live in now. All a woman has to do is say you upset her in some way, even if you literally did nothing at all and it's all in her head or even a bold-faced lie, and your job is on the line.

I hope that men learn to protect themselves and each other. If women start being excluded and held accountable (imagine that), perhaps we'd see a bit more sanity from the ones who aren't crazy but thus far have been happy to jump on the MeToo "movement."

If you were attractive, you wouldn’t receive a negative reaction.

No one gives pity to the ol’ Ugly Boi. Shame to say, it’s u in this happenstance.

Back in my days of running in college, no club no team, just by myself, I would do things and I didn’t really moisturize. I had runners face, weighed 105-110 pounds, wore my brightly colored Boston marathon jacket and ugh. You cannot ask out chics on dates without being a creepy and/or appearing creepy.

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you aren't making sense wrote:

I don’t understand your assertion that everything will figure itself out. People figure things out. Things do not figure themselves out.

A situation is not a sentient being. How could it figure itself or anything else out?

Autistic person not understanding non-literal forms of human communication. There are many autistic people here. Self-selecting group. Runners, ocd, etc. I love it.

Real-Life "Dilbert" Character wrote:

Good luck going forward.

Actually, this guy is not going forward. He's going backwards and will soon lose his crummy job. When asked for references, his current supervisor will make it clear that he is a lawsuit waiting to happen.

Not Fast But Furious wrote:

I work in management and know harassment codes pretty well. You’re best bet is to act autistic. Female coworker cries don’t comfort her. If she throws a hissy fit ignore it. When you greet them no touching. And never ever compliment them or say anything nice about them. Just be the high functioning autistic LetsRun poster that you are and you’ll be fine and right with the law.

This is solid advice and pretty much exactly how I act around females at work. Never compliment or comment. Never talk about anything personal. Do not show any emotion at all. Pretend to be oblivious to them when they cry, have a meltdown, are being snippy for no reason, flirt with you, etc.

Women are basically 5'5" toddlers who are for some reason taken extremely seriously despite being irrational, emotional, capricious, and hypocritical. If a man behaved even half as poorly at work as many women do he'd be fired after mere weeks or months from every job he was hired for. Four out of the 6 women I work with are roughly 5X more interested in gossip and creating drama at work than actually doing their job. From my experience, that's pretty normal.

John Utah wrote:

I have a question for you. Why do you hate yourself?

Because he's like you.

Caller out of b.s. wrote:

Ghost of Igloo is just upset because he misses being able to use racist and sexist language at work. Fortunately he has found letsrun as an outlet. Plus enconsed himself in the white supremacist homeland in northern Idaho.

Posters like you always hide behind your unregistered handle and calling someone a racist. Why is that? Because you can’t debate and argue a point. Perhaps you are just dumb and that has nothing to do with your race or ethnicity.

If your boss is male there is a good chance he only gave you the stern talking too out of fear of being subjected to the same kind of accusation

Its a sad world

Telling anyone to "calm down" is horse sh!t.

Deal with the issues at hand. Don't tell other people how they should feel.

Femplaining is a lot more powerful than mansplaining.

Coopersville wrote:

Considering you posted the definition of condescending for all of us who aren’t as intelligent as you, I’m going to guess that she and your boss where spot on with their interpretation of the situation.

THAT

OP at work it’s best to keep your interactions with women and non-white men to a minimum. They have fully embraced the victim hood mentality.

At a former job a female co-worker accused my boss of being sexist because she got paid less than I did. It couldn’t have been because she was always late, constantly made mistakes, or that she opted to work part time while I worked full time.

A good friend of mine is a HR manager of a manufacturing company. She has been accused of racism several times for firing black and brown employees. They were always late, showed up to work high, etc... She fired white employees for the same offenses.

It’s gotten to the point where the company is afraid to hire colored people because they don’t want to deal with law suits if the employee sues for “discrimination”.