I see what the OP is saying but don’t find his somewhat extreme position compelling. My wife’s and my jobs require us to work extremely long hours, and our kids’ days are filled with school and other extracurricular activities. We could spend what little free time we have as a family cleaning, but I’d rather spend that limited time with them doing other more enjoyable things. That being said, we do give the kids chores to do around the house so they don’t have a complete free ride.
I’m not worried in the least that they’ll grow up to be lazy spoiled brats. They have a very strong work ethic at school and their other activities and they know from personal experience that there are consequences to acting like lazy spoiled brats. They also know how to and actually do the laundry, wash the dishes, etc. when our housekeeper is away, so they’re not helpless. I agree kids should learn how to do those things - I just disagree that they have to do ALL of that themselves all the time or they’ll be lazy spoiled brats.
And maybe I’m just a bleeding heart liberal but hiring a housekeeper helps provide good, honest people like my housekeeper a steady job that pays an extremely fair wage that enables her to provide for her family. Moreover, my kids love her and treat her like family. They have have learned that people who clean are real people deserving of the same respect as anyone else - not people to be looked down upon or ignored like I see many other people do.