Out-of-Wedlock Danny wrote:
this is seriously one of the best posts to ever grace lr
no one has yet to ask the most important question to OP: OP, how old are the children?
I said this earlier but it didn't get much traction...
Has anyone who's grown up in a household where the parents clearly weren't in love, were possibly fighting a lot, etc. grown up and been glad they stayed together?
I have a memory from probably age 4 or 5 of hiding under the table because they were just yelling at each other. And one of my dad turning around the car on the way to some sort of family weekend outing before we even got out of the neighborhood bc of some sort of stupid argument with my mom. And being woken up by them arguing countless times from age 5 until 18 when I moved out and went to college. Actually, even when I went back home for Christmas during college breaks. etc. etc. etc.
I don't think it did any lasting damage to me, I don't feel traumatized or anything like that (although I'm 37 and have never married, so...), but I certainly don't think they should have stayed together because of me and my sister. I don't see what positives we got out of it, and she agrees.
tl;dr - staying together "for the kids" is stupid. it will make you miserable and possibly the kids as well.