Anyone else hate Xmas due to poor treatment of their kids by THEIR parents?

please consider editing the subject line of this thread as it is basically impossible to understand what you are trying to say

Disagree. The third person is established as the "Anyone else" referenced. Following that its pretty simple comprehension to understand that both the kids and parents would be those of that third person.

Even if you failed to understand that on an initial reading, it seems incredible to find you'd find it "basically impossible" to understand what was meant once you'd actually read the content?!!

Comprehension 101 wrote:

Disagree. The third person is established as the "Anyone else" referenced. Following that its pretty simple comprehension to understand that both the kids and parents would be those of that third person.

Even if you failed to understand that on an initial reading, it seems incredible to find you'd find it "basically impossible" to understand what was meant once you'd actually read the content?!!

Are you his grandpa?

Not sure exactly what you're asking here, but yes I hate Christmas. My wife's family is divorced so on X-mas day we have to go to her Dad's house, her mom's house, drive an hour to my parent's house then end up at another relative's house. Every single one of them gives us crap about not spending enough time with them that day, but none of them are okay with splitting up the holiday so we do the day before at someone's house, and then the rest the next day.

Not to mention, watching my parents open the gifts I got them and basically telling me that they aren't anything they want or could use, sometimes even laughing at my "poor judgement". They never tell me what they want, but always find something to exchange them for! One year my mom exchanged a gift I bought her for the gift I got her the previous year that she also exchanged.

It is nothing but an endless cycle of guilt trips, and December 26th is my favorite day, the true holiday to mark an end to this disastrous nightmare.

Happy Birthday Jesus, hope this is what you wanted!

If your parents favor your siblings kids that much more than your kids then sorry, you probably have some crappy kids. Or very average kids and your siblings have exceptional kids.

Bro. It's time to make your own family traditions. Good luck.

Yeah my missus' family do that.

She's got a younger sister who's now got a couple of pre schoolers. Our kids (a bit older but still < 10) may as well not exist now. Her younger sister arrived when her parents were a bit older and apparently they always treated her as the special kid in the family and now that's been extended on to her kids. Totally sucks but what can you do?

Not Jesus s fault. You family is a bunch of morans.

The one thing I always hate about Xmas is how my two older sisters would b!tch about and be jealous about what the other one got. This would always ruin the day.

Stop the nonsense and start your own tradition. Stay home and let all these clowns come to your place, take it or leave it style. Nothing wakes up your parents to their shenanigans like standing up to them and isolating your kids from them.

Try it.

You'll like it.

....If that doesn't work, spike the shite out of the eggnog and see how that works out.

Alcohol has been exposing family dysfunction since the beginning of time!

While I do not have children, I can relate to this.

My grandmother is a VERY critical woman. She dislikes certain groups of people and certain grandkids... it's annoying.

She doesn't like one of my cousins because he is adopted. He is 23 now but she never gives him or his wife christmas gifts... She quite literally doesn't like him as much because he's adopted.

She tries to tell my parents how to do their marriage when they've been married for nearly 30 years and she's had 2 failed marriages... if you have 1 bad trait (being like 5 minutes late to everything for example) then you can't do anything right in her eyes.

This all happens at every family gathering.

She just berrates every one of her grandkids. She used to rant and rave about how I was too obsessed with running but when it partially paid for school she calmed down.

Stop attending holidays with bitter beech.

Better yet stop communicating period.

Old beech will need lots of your help someday but she has earned nothing of the sort.

Life too short and precious to be burdened by biiternes.

I generally hate Xmas because of the rampant consumerism, the terrible music and food (turkey sucks), the pressure to be around family and have some sort of magical event, and the general reminder that despite what they may say on Fox News, Christians dominate most aspects of life in the US.

My kids are still young enough that it is a ton of fun for them. So, that keeps me from going full on Scrooge and putting up a Festivus pole.

As to the OP, I had kids late. Both my sister and my sister in law had kids 13 to 20+ years before we started a family. So, all the grandparents basically were used up by the time we had kids. They refuse to travel to visit us and have gotten pretty cheap with gifts. For my sister and sister in law's kids, they were all over it on Christmas and wouldn't think twice about getting on an airplane with bags full of presents.

Grinch had a point wrote:

Not sure exactly what you're asking here, but yes I hate Christmas. My wife's family is divorced so on X-mas day we have to go to her Dad's house, her mom's house, drive an hour to my parent's house then end up at another relative's house. Every single one of them gives us crap about not spending enough time with them that day, but none of them are okay with splitting up the holiday so we do the day before at someone's house, and then the rest the next day.

Easy solution - don't visit any of them, which is exactly what I always do.

Grinch had a point wrote:

My wife's family is divorced so on X-mas day we have to go to her Dad's house, her mom's house, drive an hour to my parent's house then end up at another relative's house. Every single one of them gives us crap about not spending enough time with them that day, but none of them are okay with splitting up the holiday so we do the day before at someone's house, and then the rest the next day.

It is nothing but an endless cycle of guilt trips, and December 26th is my favorite day, the true holiday to mark an end to this disastrous nightmare.

It's hard to feel sympathy for you. You are an adult and you choose to repeat these same actions.

Why?

Why not do something different, something for you and your wife? Life is far too short to be miserable on holidays. It's not doing you, nor your parents/her parents any good, if you are loathing each other.

Family Bread wrote:

Please post your tale of seasonal woe if the grandparents outrageously favour your siblings kids to yours at this time of year.

Will post mine later but thought I'd see how common this sort of thing is first...

This is as old as air. People may not be good parents, but often become great grandparents. There is something about being a grandparent that some people love. They act different and find many things adorable about their grandkids that they might not have found adorable in their own children. I'm telling you, this is as old as time itself.

Just stop wrote:

Life too short and precious to be burdened by bitterness.

I think that's really the philosophy to hold in life.

It's too easy to get suckered in by family and thinking some kind of super bond should exist. I'm not saying it wouldn't be great if it does but if it doesn't, it's a waste of your time and energy becoming embittered by the behaviour of others.

Dumb Grinch wrote:

Not Jesus s fault. You family is a bunch of morans.

I hate Christmas, too. Youve got to pretend to like people who are A-holes to you the other 364 days a year.